Far Western Daughter

heema mahar
Posted July 29, 2017 from Nepal

Every parents wants kids for their happiness but in my case my parents wants son for their happiness to be created.

I am their daughter after fivedaughters (i.e. i am sixth one).Actually at that time they were so much sure about having son but god had another plan they gave birth to me.I heard lot of stories regard at the time of my birth, my mother cried over one week, my grand mother got mentally unstable, my father get drunk and sleep for 2 days.

Sometime i hate myself that i was unwanted child and unwanted daughter too.I was told during my childhood i am unlucky. But suddenly miracle happened according to my parents, Their much awaited son came to world after me and i was praised from then for bringing son after so much years. I really don't understand what's going on their mind.

Why, son was so much important? I am now 31 year old doing very much good in my life as compare to my brother.

I always joke one statement with my sisters that we are that outer cover of heart of our parents and our brother are full heart of their.I just keep lot of feelings regard this kind of discrimination which i got know clearly now.This is common problem in our society.

So, please let's dismiss the gender inequality. Whether daughter or son, give them equal upbringing make them both equally your reason of happiness.

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Jill Langhus
Jul 30, 2017
Jul 30, 2017

Hi Heema. Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your sad story. I can relate to not being wanted. I was the youngest of five and could never really figure out why my parents had any children. When I finally had enough courage and curiosity to finally ask them in my early twenties why they had so many children, or any children, my dad said that "family planning back then was you planned for a family." I didn't know what to say to that but what gives me peace of mind is knowing that I signed up for this life... particular lessons and people.. yes, even the people that contributed to challenging circumstances for me. They have been the best teachers for the lessons that I have needed to learn and to create the best person that I can possibly be. I agree that parents need to start treating their children like they are all special, equal and a blessing; because they are.

Aliya Bashir
Aug 16, 2017
Aug 16, 2017

Dear Heema,

What an inspirational and an encouraging post. A lot of initiatives and programs are going on to promote the gender equality but still, there is a long way to go. This post reminded me of Bollywood movie, Dangal which so beautifully explains the societal and cultural perceptions of raising a girl child in a very misogynistic and stereotypical set-up. Nevertheless, your determination and belief in yourself is definitely making a change.

Rock on!

Regards,

Aliya