African women and problems in marriage

Honorine Ngenwi
Posted July 27, 2020 from Cameroon

When I was a young girl I had the notion that all men were responsible. But as an adult the reverse is true most especially in Africa particularly in my country. In my country most responsibilities are being held by women. Concerning the education of the children, the welfare of the home is the woman's responsibility. What I realised nowadays is most of the men base their mind on drinking, funication,adultery etc which are the watch words in their vocabulary (lives). In my country those women  who are opportune to have something doing eg jobs, business carry on with the house choirs, farming etc while the man is at the onlicense drinking to stupor or at the house of his mistress. There after you find them standing by the quoz gambling and expecting to win millions of francs all to no avail. What pains the most is the fact that when the woman tries to speaks she is being beaten up or she's abandoned in the house to the mistress. Any suggestion made by the woman is considered null and void. They want things done their way. The men become so aggressive when what they have has been exusted. With this kind of  attitude the kids aren't free in their hands too because they blame the children for their frustration. With all this, if a  child happens to become frustrated he/she automatically becomes the mother's while the good one becomes the fathers. With this some women go into distress, some have high blood pressure and diabities which lead them to their early grave. 

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Busayo Obisakin
Jul 27
Jul 27

Dear Honorine
Hope you are doing well and staying safe. The struggles of women is the same in all African countries my sister and I hope our women would continue to be empowered to live their lives without these frustrations men always bring into our lives so that we will be living healthier lives.
Thank you for sharing
Love
Busayo

Honorine Ngenwi
Jul 28
Jul 28

I believe so my sister. Thanks

Chi8629
Jul 27
Jul 27

Thank you for sharing .

Honorine Ngenwi
Jul 28
Jul 28

You are welcome dear.

Hello, Honorine,

It's disheartening to know that a bulk of responsibilities are given to women while men can do whatever they please. I hope this gender imbalance be put to an end. Easier said than done, especially when this is a cultural practice.

Thank you for raising your voice about this issue. We stand with you.

Honorine Ngenwi
Jul 28
Jul 28

I just hope that by the grace of God, there will be a change oneday. Love you Ka.

Nini Mappo
Jul 29
Jul 29

Honorine, It is no wonder that you are speaking out against the dishonour suffered by women in your community.
It was the same for me growing up, and I told my mother I would not marry from my tribe because I could not serve a lazy man so entitled to my serving him.

My only hope against this trend is how we raise our sons and the values we instill in them regarding family and women. Perhaps that can break the cycle.
Let's keep hope alive in our grief

Honorine Ngenwi
Jul 30
Jul 30

Waoh dear you have a good idea. Thanks.

Fanka
Aug 01
Aug 01

Honorine dear,
Thanks for sharing, All that you have said support the fact that women need to be empowered to better take responsibilities without depending on the men and be free from all form of violence.

Laetitia Shindano
Aug 03
Aug 03

Chere soeur,

Merci pour ce partage. La situation que vous decriée est vrai partout dans nos societes. Les femmes qui en sont consciente, doivent changer cet état des choses par l'éducation des jeunes en vue de l'amélioration des rapports de genre.
Courage et à bientot .
Laetitia

Honorine Ngenwi
Aug 06
Aug 06

Thanks my sister.
Take care

Honorine Ngenwi
Aug 06
Aug 06

Thanks for the support Fanka
My regard