BREAKING THE STATUS QUO AND RISING ABOVE THE LIMITS.

Ibukun Akinjo
Posted July 7, 2020 from Nigeria

Hello Sisters. I am Ibukun Akinjo, a young lady from Nigeria. I am a first timer and and I'm glad to be here.

I was introduced to this great platform by Mrs. Aramide Oikelome, the director of Bestsprings Foundation (of blessed memory).  She was so passionate about the wellbeing of humanity and gave her all to see that everyone has access to a better life. She told me I can express my views and concerns here, as well as be a voice to many vulnerable women out there. Hence, here is my first story here.

Over the years, I have seen young women being trained to be “wife material” and fit for matrimonial purposes alone and this norm has always left me baffled as to why the female flock will be befitting for a man’s pleasure alone. I believe there is more to the existence of women on earth than just this kind of absurd mindset. Hence, this birthed my passion to see that every woman around me lives her life to optimal fulfillment and attain her desired heights in life.

The girl child have been made to feel that she is only created to serve domestic and matrimonial functions in life. This in turn has retarded her purpose for living and led to a feeling of low self-esteem, complete vulnerability and absolute mediocrity. Many young ladies are unwilling to dream big, aim high and pursue their goals relentlessly as a result of the premeditated ideas imputed in their minds, which is based on the expectation and status quo of the society. Many times in a typical African setting, the phrase “wife material” has become a repeated statement overtime in the ears of the girl child. The girl child has been saddled with the responsibility of grooming herself into being fit for her husband’s house and perfectly performing all sorts of domestic chores. All of these in sum total have contributed in shaping young women ideas about their essence of living, robbed them of their identity and retarded them in pursuing their goals in life. 

However, this barbaric mindset must be flushed out of our society by standing against it vehemently and lending our voices to the vulnerable among us. In view of this, I desire to lend out my voice by sensitizing young girls within the teenage age group to dream big, aim high and rise above the status quo level of mediocrity and poor self esteem. I want to let them know that they can be all they want to be in life; they can be policy makers and change agents in their societies. I also want to spur their visions and make them realize that they are made for more than mere domestic functions and matrimonial duties. They can break boundaries, conquer territories and rise up to the peak of their achievements in life.

It is my utmost desire that every woman fulfills her purpose of existence and never settle for less. They can be successful career women and as well be fulfilled wives/mothers. I want them to realize that a balance can be obtained between the home front and their career life and they can successfully manage both effectively whilst fulfilling purpose.

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Jill Langhus
Jul 08
Jul 08

Hello Ibukun,

Welcome to World Pulse! Aw, you knew dear Aramide:-( You're very fortunate to have known her, which I'm sure you know:-) Yes, you can, and we're glad that you're hear, dear. I can tell that you're really passionate about your purpose and mission. What if they don't want to be wives and/or mothers, or is that deviating too far from the norm? I'm curious, but I'm also looking forward to hearing more about your work and goals. Do you have a NGO? If so, please share the links to your website and social media page(s), if you have any, so I can follow/like them.

Hope you and your family are safe and well.

Ibukun Akinjo
Jul 08
Jul 08

Thanks so much for your endearing words Jill. Yes, I got to meet Mrs Aramide shortly before she passed on and I must say she was a very selfless and devoted woman to the cause of humanity. She is surely missed by all.

In respect to one's decision about either being wife/mother or not being one at all, is a very personal one and everyone has a free volition to make decisions best known to them. I believe no one should be coerced to live a life in line with laid down norms and traditions. Everyone is free to make choices in their best interest.

I don't have any personal NGO for now, but I'm willing to work with like minded people who share the same passion I have.

Thanks so much for your support and love. I really do appreciate you ma'am.

Best regards,
Ibukun.

Jill Langhus
Jul 08
Jul 08

You're very welcome, dear.

Aw. So sweet. Yes, she was, and yes, she will be.

I love your outlook:-)

Oh, okay, on NGO. So, you're looking for collaboration(s) and have the intent to start a NGO down the line?

You're welcome:-) You're appreciated too, dear.

XX

Beth Lacey
Jul 08
Jul 08

Your desire is superb! You can be the role model so many women and girls need. Welcome to World Pulse!

Jul 08
Jul 08
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Ibukun Akinjo
Jul 08
Jul 08

Thanks so much for your kind words of encouragement ma'am. This means so much to me. I really appreciate you.

Hello, Ibukun,

Welcome to World Pulse! What a joy that a new voice from Nigeria is rising up!

How blessed are you to have met Aramide. You are such a skillful writer, dear. You shared your vision and passion clearly. We're so happy you are here.

Please keep on writing. We would love to know more about you. I hope you can connect to our global sisters and access opportunities on the Resources Page.

I'm looking forward to reading more from you. Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

Ibukun Akinjo
Jul 08
Jul 08

Hi Karen,
Thanks so much for the warm welcome. I feel so loved and happy to be in this community of great women. Thanks for your kind compliments and affectionate words. I sincerely appreciate!

I also look forward to having a great and productive time here with like minded women who are keen on making impact in their world today.

Thanks once more for your warm affection.

Yours truly,
Ibukun.

Chi8629
Jul 08
Jul 08

Hello Beautiful Sister ,
Welcome to worldpluse .
Congratulations on your first post .Thank you for sharing .
Iam sorry for your loss .,May the Almighty grant Sister Aramide eternal rest . It is well .

Ibukun Akinjo
Jul 09
Jul 09

Hi dear sister,
Thanks so much for your warm reception and kind words. I am so glad to be among empathic women. Thanks for the condolences too and Amen to your prayers. I really appreciate!

With love,
Ibukun.

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 10
Jul 10

Hi Ibukun
You are greatly welcome to World Pulse! Continue to rest on our dear Sis Aramide. I love your passion Ibukun and I can understand the absurd mindset about girl's child in our community. Don't let it give you much concern my dear! Go for your dream and I am sure you will get there
Love
Busayo

Ibukun Akinjo
Jul 10
Jul 10

Thanks so much for the warm reception and your soothing words of encouragement. I really appreciate you ma'am.

Love always,
Ibukun.

Tamarack Verrall
Jul 11
Jul 11

Dear Ibukun,
What a beautiful and powerful message you carry. I hope that many young girls will have the chance to meet you. Generations of men continue to teach this lie to boys, that they have the right to dominate women and girls, and that as women our place is as a wife, mother and to work without pay or personal freedom. It is so encouraging to read your commitment to give girls the support, that they have a right to do what they want with their lives, and the right to be treated with the utmost respect. A big welcome to World Pulse. You have found this global sisterhood where we are all determined that women and girls will be free to dream big and live with respect.
In sisterhood,
Tam

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