Learning the hard way

iNguti
Posted February 12, 2020 from Cameroon
Youthday with children.
Youthday with children.: I gave these kids a meal. (1/1)

I think there’s always a failure for you to learn. One way for you to do something right is for you to do something wrong  and then you will do it the right way. . 

It is not that  there isn’t plenty of advice  around but sometimes we  find our life’s already messed up. 

    «  I learn thé hard way  in that , I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings . Even if I respect theirs . I hv always been really nice to love ones but  always being taken for granted 

        I will do my every best to keep a relationship but ending up being the loser . You cannot work and obey à man in your whole life . Being there is a matter of companion but to me it has never been that easy .

       Being a good person didn’t Garantee that others will be  good people,  too ..

You only hv control over your sekf   And how you choise to be as a person  . As for others you can only choise to accept them or walk  away .

   Though it has  not been easy with my infertility conditions . I finally grt married a few months back  to a man  who actually accepted me with my conditions  .,it’s all about just hving a partner with whom you can  make a happy life . But the sad story behind it is that he’s had  brain surgeries and  with his poor health conditions I am forced to manage financially on my own and take it the way it is . How can I find happiness with a man who shuts down always . He is always in and out of the hospital . At the end of the day am a lonely woman . He is  away from me now because of his health issues .,I think where I can find joy and company is only with my sisters in worldpules. 

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Anita Shrestha
Feb 12
Feb 12

Dear Sis
Yes learning is always hard and critical. But make easy, think easily not hardly. I wish your success.

Elizabeth Ziro
Feb 12
Feb 12

Yes, you speak my mind dear, I learn thé hard way in that , I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings. Even if I respect theirs. I have always been really nice to love ones but always being taken for granted .. many a time it has happened to me. I always try to stick around a little longer so that when I go I don't look back. It hurts inside but that is the only way out. Be strong and take a day at a time. YOu are in my thoughts and you truely have sisters in here. Stay happy always

Ekitah
Feb 13
Feb 13

Hello sister!
The hard way is the only way especially when you are pushed to the wall. Thank God you have these sisters which you can confind in them. World pulse restores hope through it encouragement. Stay blessed God is in control.

iNguti
Feb 22
Feb 22

Hello dear sister thank you all for being around me and giving be courage to brave what ever . It’s nice being with lovely sisters like you .

uduakedet
Feb 13
Feb 13

Hello sis, I’m so sorry about your husband and pray he gets better. You are right to say being good doesn’t guarantee that others will be good to you. That’s just life and we have to continue to stay true to ourselves. Thank you for sharing, wish you all the best

Jill Langhus
Feb 14
Feb 14

Hello Dear Irene,

This is sad, love. Yes, we are hear for your, dearie. I hope brighter days will come for you!

XX

ANJ ANA
Feb 15
Feb 15

My dear sister Inguti,
I send you warm hugs and love for your struggle. I am so happy that you found joy and happiness with World Pulse sisters, that is very precious. We are also very happy to have you in this platform.
Based on my personal experience, I can only suggest you that, we have to think of us first and not to expect from others. If you value you and love yourself, then only you will be able to be there for others. It sounds selfish, but its the reality my sister.
I wish you a very best and pray for your husband's health.
best regards,
Anjana

Wukwen Destiny
Feb 17
Feb 17

Hi sister Inguti, its really sad but don't be discouraged world pulse is here for you to give you hope and encouragement. I pray your husband get well soon. With God all things are possible just have faith.

iNguti
Feb 22
Feb 22

Dear destiny thanks so much for thé motivation good to hv you sisters around me

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