a letter to all women out there

Isaura Diniz
Posted August 10, 2020 from Portugal

This is a letter to every woman, I hope you can feel heard and understood while you read my words, even if just a little bit, because while introducing myself to the world and sharing my beliefs, can also resemble bits and pieces of other amazing women.

Today, being a feminist is a huge part of myself, my desire to perpetuate equality gives me a sense of purpose; however, my journey into getting introduced to the concept of feminism was not a road filled with wildflowers and sunshine, there were days where everything just felt out of place, including myself, but today I can say that I am proud of every step I took.

I am 17 years old, I am very young and the society we live in already made me feel scared, weak and less of a person, only because of the gender I was assigned at birth and actually identify with, I know I am not the only one thinking this way. 

What made me the person I am today? I grew up surrounded by good moments and good people, still there is always bad experiences mixed with bad intentioned individuals. Take it as an example, what made me so intitled of my body and clothing choices? Well, it took me some time handling misogynistic and toxic words, to understand that no one has the right to say that my weight made me look disgusting or that wearing a short skirt made me a whore, it is crazy to think that for a period of time I believed in every word, I believed that the respect I deserved came in with a lenght of a skirt.

Being a girl has also consequences inside my house, what I once thought it was a love gesture, today is a feeling of being forbidden to discover myself, sexuality and freedom are never discussed inside my home.

What I want the world to know about me? That it disgusts me how we are victims of a society built on rape culture, men supremacy, female rivarly and toxic masculinity. My heart aches for everyone that does not have access to education, every person that does not have the money for sanitary products, everyone that has felt unsafe inside their room or on the streets, to all of the survivors of sexual assault and everyone that is fighting their own battle, that is always hard.

And this is who I am, a white privileged woman, with all of my basic needs fullfilled and able to have an education, that will not shut up until all of us live in freedom, in equality and peace.

To you reading this, I hope you are having a good day, I am sending good energies your way, thank you for being here. 

Sincerely, Isaura

This story was submitted in response to The Real Me.

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Nini Mappo
Aug 11
Aug 11

Hello Isaura,
It is lovely to get a glimpse into who you are, thank you sharing with us :)
In the words of Soren Kirkegaard, "Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. "

Our knowledge of ourselves and our world is always growing with every minute of every day and we're always forming new beliefs and letting go of others as this knowledge increases, growing.

I'm sorry to hear that life feels inhibitive at the moment, and that you have believed lies about your person and your worth said by broken people who did not even know you, or know themselves and their purpose in the world.
I am glad to see that you are pushing against that and stepping into you as a young woman with worth, with value, with a voice. Good on you!

I will join you in hoping for a better world for all the disadvantaged and the oppressed.

Thank you for standing with the vulnerable in our global community.

In sisterhood,
Nini

Isaura Diniz
Aug 12
Aug 12

Nini, thank you so much for your comment, I could not agree more with you, and thank you for sharing that quote of Soren Kirkegaard, so powerful.

We are together on this fight for a more beautiful world,
all my love to you, Isaura

Hello, Isaura,

You are right that women experience the issues you write about on your posts, how we are defined by what we wear, how much we weigh, and other limitations society impose unto us simply because we're women while men get away with what they can wear or how they weigh or not lifting a finger to help with the chores at home.

I share your disgust on "rape culture, men supremacy, female rivarly and toxic masculinity", too. I was made to believe women compete against each other, like what pageants do (very popular in our country by the way).

This resonated with me, "My heart aches for everyone that does not have access to education, every person that does not have the money for sanitary products, everyone that has felt unsafe inside their room or on the streets, to all of the survivors of sexual assault and everyone that is fighting their own battle, that is always hard."

Yes, dear. You're only 17 but your voice is already heard. Keep amplifying it "until all of us live in freedom, in equality and peace".

What a powerful post. Thanks for sharing!

Isaura Diniz
Aug 12
Aug 12

Dear Karen,
Thank you for reading my words and I am so glad we both can agree. I had no idea pageants were big on the Philipphines, we are constatly learning.

Your words made my heart warmer, I am sending my love to you, hoping you can feel my gratitude towards your comment.

Isaura

You're welcome, love.

Oh, yes. The Miss Universe pageant is like a holiday. There are super fans who take a leave at work to watch it live. It's a national pride when our country wins or makes it to the top 3. It has its own industry where agencies help women how to act, speak, and look "pageant perfect".

They made these pageant queens the standard of beauty, and women invest in beauty products to be "beautiful".

Aww. I feel you love and gratitude, little sister. Keep writing and shining!

Shirin Dalaki
Aug 11
Aug 11

Dear Isaura,

Welcome to WP and I enjoyed reading your story. You are so wise for your age, only if I was as smart as you are when I was seventeen and I hear you and also know what you are saying very clearly but you said something very profound that everybody else can listen, "to understand that no one has the right to say that my weight made me look disgusting", and you are right because it puts us in charge of our thoughts and our bodies.
I also encourage us to change our language, it is time. We are not "victim", there is no such thing as "victim". This is something the mind associate with which is total lie. If we want change we need to let go of that label.
Freedom, equality and peace is what we are and we can train our mind in that direction and stick to it to bring out power, clarity and good energy. I want you to cherish your heart and thanks for good energy.

Shirin

Isaura Diniz
Aug 12
Aug 12

Thank you for your words Shirin, they are deeply appreciated.
You made me see the word "victim" with another pair of eyes and I will not forget it.

Sending you love and I hope you are staying safe,
Isaura

Shirin Dalaki
Aug 13
Aug 13

You are welcome Isaura and you made me so happy with your comment, you are so bright and I am glad my intention was served.
Sending you lots of hug and love dear.

Chi8629
Aug 11
Aug 11

Thank you for sharing Sister.
You are amazing and thoughtful.

Isaura Diniz
Aug 12
Aug 12

Dear Sister,
thank you for your time and compliments.

I hope you are having a good day, sending you my love,
Isaura

Chi8629
Aug 12
Aug 12

Thank you beautiful ,
Iam having a good day,
Hope you are too ?
You are loved .

Busayo Obisakin
Aug 12
Aug 12

Dear Isaura
It feels so good reading your wonderful letter to us all. Our knowledge of ourselves and what we represent gives us the strength to design we should be and put all our strength to turn around for better the beliefs that can be limiting us to remain where we are. For you to bring out your voice in this powerful way shows the kind of powers in you my sister to create that life you so much desire. Thank you for the good energy you are sending to us
Love
Busayo

Isaura Diniz
Aug 14
Aug 14

Thank you for your kind words dear Busayo, they mean a lot.

Sending you love and I hope you are staying safe,
Isaura

Andre Sheldon
Aug 14
Aug 14

Hello Isaura,

Salam, Shalom, Peace, Paz,

Thank you for your beautiful letter. There are amazing huge initiatives in the world promoting peace and good will to stop war and violence. It is time for the people and all the movements to unite under one umbrella -- nonviolence, as Gandhi and Martin Luther King did.

A new global peace plan is prepared - a Global Movement of Nonviolence, For the Children (GMofNV). The children are the motivation for everyone to unite. The twist is that the movement will be led by WOMEN. Women leaders will ask women everywhere - in every country - to be the FIRST to rise-up and unite as the peacemakers.

I am a man, a person, 69 years old, who believes society can change from a male-dominated society to a partnership society (cultural transformation theory from the book The Chalice and the Blade by Riane Eisler) and am dedicated to help bring it to fruition.

Please see www.GSofNV.org and consider joining. Peace and Love, Andre

Isaura Diniz
Aug 14
Aug 14

Dear Andre,
I could not agree more with you, I walk by your side, aiming for peace, always.
Thank you for your time and for such a great suggestion, I will be looking more into it.

Sending good energies your way,
Isaura

Sophia Ngugi
Aug 14
Aug 14

Thank you for this!

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Isaura Diniz
Aug 14
Aug 14

Thank you for reading my words, Sophia!

Prozoe
Aug 14
Aug 14

"Age does ot matter when the matter does not age." you are certainly wise beyond numbers. Thank you for sharing such intricate parts of you and your journey. Your voice is loud enough for all the young worrior girls figthing the same battles as you, but have not found their voices yet. I speak more light into your direction. #BigLove

Isaura Diniz
Aug 14
Aug 14

Prozoe,
I just wrote down that quote on the notebook I keep on my desk, it made so much sense to me.

Thank you for being here, sending all the light and love to you,
Isaura

Great story.
Thanks so much for sharing whom you are with us.

Isaura Diniz
Aug 29
Aug 29

Thank you for sparing some time reading my post.

Abilio Suni
Aug 17
Aug 17

Izaura your everything words as form us to follow as who is the woman .but maybe we need more. Apologize as during the world's in onother country still confused because Covid so why your name and dignity as you support ?

Adriana Greenblatt
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hi Isaura,
Nice to meet you! This was powerful: "Being a girl has also consequences inside my house, what I once thought it was a love gesture, today is a feeling of being forbidden to discover myself, sexuality and freedom are never discussed and I live on this merry-go-round of just wanting to break free from the possessive eyes of my parents. "

WOW! POW! The power, fierceness, truth and freedom I feel emanating from your word is amazing. And the fact that you are now able to name and speak truths - especially about how the personal (our experiences in our households, our upbringing, our personal relationships) are so political. You made this important feminist classic saying so beautifully clear and real, and articulated it so poetically, it just rocks! You rock! Thank you for stepping into and sharing your power with us!

Hugs from Canada!
Adriana
Adriana

Isaura Diniz
Aug 22
Aug 22

Adriana, I am not able to put into words how much your comment made me feel happy. Thank you for sparing some of your time on reading my post, and for every compliment.

I will take advantage of this moment, now that I went through your profile to say that you are what I aspire to be, speaking about your career and studies decisions, and you are the first person in that area that I ever had contact with, thank you for leaving your words.

All the love from Portugal, Isaura

Adriana Greenblatt
Aug 23
Aug 23

Obrigado Isaura for your heartfelt reply (that is the one word in Portguese I know!) Here in Montreal we have a huge Portuguese community actually near where I live, and we have a lot of Portuguese chicken restaurants. That is so great to hear you aspire to work in women's rights, you are actually already there writing about it Isaura, and your voice and analysis is so strong already, I can't wait to see what more you bring to the world.

Hugs from Montreal,
Adriana

No words for your expression, splendid, just keep it up

Isaura Diniz
Aug 29
Aug 29

Thank you, truly, Mausumi.

Sending light and love to you.