To become "her" - A poem

Isaura Diniz
Posted August 25, 2020 from Portugal

to become her

 

most of us go through it the chaotic journey of becoming ‘her’

along with the “oh she will break many hearts”                               

 and “can you please not spread those legs apart?”

you know, the souvenirs of presenting yourself, as a girl

 

 

every day is different 

as we grow older,

we understand that choosing pants over a skirt

maybe it wasn’t because of the weather,

but because of those men at the street

that always stand together.

and how boys and girls

can not be just friends

thanks to the world that looks at us       

 through heterosexual lens.

 

 

we all phantasize about a world

where women bloom and don’t ache.

if only our gender identity was the only source of mistreat 

but it goes further,

when the color of your skin is criminalized on the news,

or when a disability  makes you lose jobs interviews,

even getting your period seems unfair 

when you can not even afford tissues

 

 

nevertheless, ‘becoming her’ is beautiful

being a woman starts when you feel like one,                                                                                                                                       it is not related to having a uterus.

it is a life time journey of hurting, understanding and learning.

those who stay around and speak up are as courageous         

as others who did not. 

 

 

we don’t fight the same fights

and no, it is not about what’s between my thighs,

it is about our reflection in societies eyes.

 

(I found the courage to take part on this project, sharing one of my poems, I usually write poetry in portuguese, so I apologize in advance for any bad rhymes or typos. This is a huge part of myself and I am so grateful to share with all of you amazing women.) 

All my love, Isaura

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Nini Mappo
Aug 25
Aug 25

No apologies dear Isaura! I was so impressed with your rhymes actually, because poetry is tricky business, and rhymes don't always flow even for those who speak English as a first language.

You did an awesome translation that brings the journey into 'woman' together, honours the diversity of our backgrounds, societal expectations in who we are told we are, who we are told to be and other challenges we all encounter in our journey to becoming women or as women.

"we understand that choosing pants over a skirt
maybe it wasn’t because of the weather,
but because of those men at the street
that always stand together." describe my teens and early adulthood perfectly because of where I lived at the time...those men on the streets. Except for me it was the other way round, where a skirt was safer than pants, because it doesn't accentuate one's body form as much to attract the attention of idle men sitting outside shops. But your point is still that of lacking freedom to wear what we are comfortable in.

Thank you for bringing bits of us into the poem, to travel together, to count our losses, to see our strengths, and keep hoping to build what we aspire to.

Beautifully done!

Isaura Diniz
Aug 25
Aug 25

Thank you so much for such compliments, it is sad that most of us relate to some issues I touched on this poem, but I am glad that you got to be heard in these words, thank you for sharing your experience.

Love to you dear Nini,
Isaura

Hello, Isaura,

Wow! How deep and powerful this piece is. I'm impressed, too, that you attempted to write in English when you create poetry in Portuguese. Please share your Portuguese poems with us, dear. This site has a translation tool so we can somehow get the gist of your content.

I love the sound of poetry written in different language. Please keep posting more! Thanks for sharing!

Isaura Diniz
Aug 26
Aug 26

Karen!
Thank you for your compliments, they do mean a lot to me, I am glad I decided to take part on this. I am thinking of sharing my other poems, maybe I will translate them myself, even though they are not similar to this one you just read.

Thank you again,
Isaura

You're welcome, dear. You have a gift of writing. It's one way to bring thoughts into words, but it's a different skill to let readers understand what you want to say. Master that gift, dear. It will bring you to place. :)

Yeah, that's a good idea. How about writing your Portuguese poems on the top, then include the English translation below. Looking forward to reading more of your poetry!

Beth Lacey
Aug 26
Aug 26

I am very happy you posted this. You should keep on writing. You have talent

Isaura Diniz
Aug 26
Aug 26

Dear Beth, your words hugged my heart,
Thank you.

Corine Milano
Aug 26
Aug 26

Beautiful!!

Isaura Diniz
Aug 26
Aug 26

Thank you very much, Corine.

Paulina Nayra
Aug 26
Aug 26

Dear Isaura,
Great to meet you through this poem. I love this line, "Becoming her is beautiful" It is pregnant with meanings. Becoming her is a long story. A journey. I wish I can understand Portuguese so I can read your other poems. Keep on writing and sharing here.

Huggs.
I am becoming her. :-)

Isaura Diniz
Aug 27
Aug 27

Paulina, thank you for stopping by and reading my poem.
We are becoming her together, I believe.

Sending love your way, Isaura

Kamariza Byinshi
Aug 27
Aug 27

Salut ma chérie !
Merci de nous rappeler qu'on a une valeur peu importe la douleur, souffrance et humiliation que nous subissons, vraiment votre poème est génial.etre femme c'est un grand privilège et une grâce particulière venant du créateur.
Bisou bisou

Isaura Diniz
Aug 28
Aug 28

Kamariza, merci beaucoup pour vos compliments, je suis d'accord avec toi, etre femme est inexplicable.

Bisous et câlins,
Isaura

Kamariza Byinshi
Aug 28
Aug 28

Je t'en prie ma belle

Thelma obani 2020
Aug 28
Aug 28

Your words are sooo deep and you have written well on our daily journey of becoming HER..
The society sees us from different perspective but gradually we will change the narrative.
Thanks for sharing

Isaura Diniz
Aug 28
Aug 28

Thank you so much for your time and attention to my poem, Thelma.
Sending love and light your way.

Hawwah
Aug 28
Aug 28

This is beautiful Isauea.
I love it.
Thank you for sharing.
Keep writing.

Isaura Diniz
Aug 28
Aug 28

A big thank you to you,
all the love your way.

UCHE LIN
Aug 31
Aug 31

Wow! I'm really impressed by your poem. I love this phrase "Becoming her is beautiful" it actually reminds us that we are perfectly made as a girl or woman no matter the colour black or white. We are highly endowed with a lot of virtues.
Thank you for sharing this. More power to your elbow!

Isaura Diniz
Aug 28
Aug 28

Thank you very much, for every word.
I totally agree with you, us, women, are truly amazing.

Love to you!

Prozoe
Aug 28
Aug 28

Dear Isaura, there are typos in feeling dear. You piece is perfect. I once heard that perfection means being willing to do the imperfect thing. I hear you and feel you just fine.

Thank you opening up and sharing your personal pieces with us. I know how much weight such a decision can take. You are valued, your word is valued. Thank you.

BigLove

Isaura Diniz
Aug 28
Aug 28

Thank you, truly. "There are typos in feeling" that really spoke to my heart.
Thank you again for your time,

All the light and love to you sister.

Rebeca
Aug 28
Aug 28

This is a very beautiful piece Isaura
You just explained the journey of becoming a woman in it's simplicity which is relative to different community. Thank you for sharing and reminding us that being a woman is a definition of strength on it's own

Isaura Diniz
Aug 29
Aug 29

Rebeca, thank you so much.
I am happy that my message was understood, being a woman is indeed a synonym of strength.

Sending love your way.

Chinyere Kalu
Aug 29
Aug 29

Woah! You did great translating in English.
What a world! What women must go through to be women.Still we are standing strong.
Kudos Sis!
More grace!

Chinyere Kalu
Aug 29
Aug 29

Woah! You did great translating in English.
What a world! What women must go through to be women.Still we are standing strong.
Kudos Sis!
More grace!

Isaura Diniz
Aug 29
Aug 29

Thank you! You spoke the truth,
Sending light to you, sister!

lemonadelemon
Aug 30
Aug 30

Hi Isaura, you did well. Very deep and full of meanings. Love it!

Isaura Diniz
Sep 02
Sep 02

Thank you so much, really.

Kike
Aug 31
Aug 31

Nevermind any typos Isaura, rhyming isn't easy and your translation is impressive! I especially love the line that says 'becoming her is beautiful'. Despite all the challenges of being a woman in this world, discovering yourself is an amazing journey. And I totally relate too, to the part about choosing pants over a skirt, and how boys and girls cannot be friends. That was my entire childhood and still is my journey through adulting. Thanks for sharing this lovely piece. You're talented, Keep writing.

Isaura Diniz
Sep 02
Sep 02

Thank you so much Kike,
It is a sour feeling knowing you can relate to my words, but I believe it made you stronger.

Light and love to you!

Bakhita.Atit
Sep 01
Sep 01

Hello Diniz!
I read your poem with passion as if I was on actual stage presenting to the crowd ….I felt every peace of words you spoke.....thanks so much for sharing your strength with us. Hope we will be seeing more of this..

Shukran(Thanks).

Isaura Diniz
Sep 02
Sep 02

Thank you for your nice words,
Shukran once again, I am sending light your way.

Michael Kelly
Sep 04
Sep 04

Good morning Isaura,
Of course l am not a women, but your powerful words vibrate a shockwave of your soul, and truthful experiences that many women can relate to. I have said it before, that l have, show & will always have high respect for the treasures that women are!
Blessings on to you, Mike K.

Isaura Diniz
Sep 04
Sep 04

Thank you so much, Mike.
It always amazing to read such words and I am glad that you, as a man, could understand me.

Light to you!

Andrace
Sep 05
Sep 05

Truly, "we don’t fight the same fights", Isaura. Thank you for all you brought to the fore again. We can't afford to be silenced. Together, we can!

Love and Hugs,
E. J.

Isaura Diniz
Sep 05
Sep 05

I make your words, mine.
Thank you for your time and kindness.

Light and love to you.