Friendships & You

IyaBeks
Posted November 19, 2019 from United States
Friendships & You by Iya Bekondo-Granatella

The dynamic of friendships are often complex.

Those who go back and forth with details on one thing or the other make it even more so. We need to stop it.

We need to taper our expectations when it comes to friendships. Expectations can be overbearing and can cause unnecessary disappointments.

You don't need to try to impress your friend. They should be able to get you, and you them.

Liking someone unconditionally means liking them for who they are. It requires patience, forgiveness, and a huge portion of humble pie. Sadly, our ego often gets the best of us, and has the potential to ruin even the most intimate of friendships; yes even those that have stood the test of time.

I hate the word tolerance in friendships. Tolerating sounds to me like you haven't taken this person for who they are, flaws & all.

Respect is key. We must respect boundaries. There's a place and time for everything.

Don't take loyalty for granted; it too can expire.

Every friendship is individual; it must be treated as such. Treating friendship as collective can be detrimental. This is because of the varied personalities that exist amongst groups of people. In groups, unity can be introduced under a binding concept accepted by all, and not necessarily by friendship.

Low key competition tends to be an unavoidable phenomenon in friendships it seems. The tendency of wanting to be better than the other at any given time. Unfortunately. Successful friendships however, have mastered the ability to use that as an advantage to uplift each other.

Pacifying wrongs in friendships for the sake of stroking someone's ego leads to nowhere. You'll loose yourself until you crash.

Don't be blinded by material gains in friendships. Aligning personal values goes a long way.

We often use the word friend, loosely. Not everyone you come across is your friend. Friendships can be natural, but also must be nurtured.

Keep in mind, PERFECTION DOESN'T EXIST. IT'S AN ILLUSION. No one is perfect, except in the sight of God; and still we fall short of HIS Glory.

Dynamics of friendships are indeed often complex. Understanding who you are as a person is key to knowing who you introduce to your personal place and space to nurture a lasting friendship.

Save Your Sanity. Protect Your Peace. Mind Your Business. Let Love Lead.

 

#friendships #iya

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Anita Shrestha
Nov 20
Nov 20

Dear Sis
Thank you for sharing this wonderful piece

IyaBeks
Nov 25
Nov 25

You're welcome sister. By the way, my sister's name is Annie :)

maeann
Nov 20
Nov 20

Hi Iyabeks,

In Friendship... respect is a key as you said and I agree.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

IyaBeks
Nov 25
Nov 25

Thank you Maeann :)

Jill Langhus
Nov 20
Nov 20

Hi Again Iya,

Thanks for sharing your very wise post:-) There are a lot of juicy nuggets in this one. I agree that friendships take work, and patience, forgiveness and humility. I'm curious what inspired you to write about friendship?

Hope you're having a great day!

IyaBeks
Nov 25
Nov 25

Hi Jill :)
I have just been really intrigued by the dynamics of friendships and what it truly entails. I happen to have a large circle of friends, and sometimes the relationships have gotten complex but somehow, it seems to always regain its flow...at least for the most part. Its made me re examine my attitude towards friendship and that of those around me. Have a great day.

Jill Langhus
Nov 27
Nov 27

Hi Iya:-)

I love a curious mind:-) I bet.

Well, that's good!

You, too!

XX

nceducator
Nov 20
Nov 20

What a beautiful post! Just what I needed to read today!

IyaBeks
Nov 25
Nov 25

Hi there,
I am glad to know the post spoke too you :)
Take care, and have a nice day.

Hello, dear Iya,

What a beautiful reflection about friendship! Yes, it's all about authenticity, respect, and loyalty. " A friend loves at all times", right?

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. Please keep on writing! Have a great day!

IyaBeks
Nov 25
Nov 25

Hi Karen,
thank you, I certainly will. And yes - a friend loves at all times; otherwise it isn't friendship.

You're welcome, dear. Haha. Yes, you're right! Have a great day!

lizzymark
Nov 23
Nov 23

You must sure have lots of experience in friendship to right this thoughtful ideas. Can two work together except they agree that is accept each other respect and trust. I agree with you. Thanks for shearing.

IyaBeks
Nov 25
Nov 25

Certainly. Thank you sis.