Friendships & You
Nov 27, 2019
First story
The dynamic of friendships are often complex.
Those who go back and forth with details on one thing or the other make it even more so. We need to stop it.
We need to taper our expectations when it comes to friendships. Expectations can be overbearing and can cause unnecessary disappointments.
You don't need to try to impress your friend. They should be able to get you, and you them.
Liking someone unconditionally means liking them for who they are. It requires patience, forgiveness, and a huge portion of humble pie. Sadly, our ego often gets the best of us, and has the potential to ruin even the most intimate of friendships; yes even those that have stood the test of time.
I hate the word tolerance in friendships. Tolerating sounds to me like you haven't taken this person for who they are, flaws & all.
Respect is key. We must respect boundaries. There's a place and time for everything.
Don't take loyalty for granted; it too can expire.
Every friendship is individual; it must be treated as such. Treating friendship as collective can be detrimental. This is because of the varied personalities that exist amongst groups of people. In groups, unity can be introduced under a binding concept accepted by all, and not necessarily by friendship.
Low key competition tends to be an unavoidable phenomenon in friendships it seems. The tendency of wanting to be better than the other at any given time. Unfortunately. Successful friendships however, have mastered the ability to use that as an advantage to uplift each other.
Pacifying wrongs in friendships for the sake of stroking someone's ego leads to nowhere. You'll loose yourself until you crash.
Don't be blinded by material gains in friendships. Aligning personal values goes a long way.
We often use the word friend, loosely. Not everyone you come across is your friend. Friendships can be natural, but also must be nurtured.
Keep in mind, PERFECTION DOESN'T EXIST. IT'S AN ILLUSION. No one is perfect, except in the sight of God; and still we fall short of HIS Glory.
Dynamics of friendships are indeed often complex. Understanding who you are as a person is key to knowing who you introduce to your personal place and space to nurture a lasting friendship.
Save Your Sanity. Protect Your Peace. Mind Your Business. Let Love Lead.
