I don’t know about you but I tend to copy women I see who seem to have the kind of life that looks attractive. I pick up mentors, fictional and real from information that reaches me. I am attracted to women who have it together, women who are big, women whose stories are broadcasted and played up.
I like the way Carrie Bradshaw (in Sex And The City) dresses, I love Olivia Pope’s confidence (Scandal), I was pulled to something in Annalise Keating (How To Get Away With Murder) and Mary Jane Paul in Being Mary-Jane seemed perfect. The disadvantage is that these women have lifestyles which are not entirely commendable and constantly paying attention to them may cause us to think it is okay to live like that.
In real life, there are consequences, real ones. You can't expect to be with Guy A today and Guy B tomorrow and escape the loss of reputation, possibility of unwanted pregnancy and STI's, drop in self-esteem, just to name a few consequences, that come with such behaviour.
The part that concerns me the most is the fact that young girls just like I was, see the glamour portrayed by these ladies on the big screen and feel it is okay to live like that. What these media contents do not show is the fact that people who live like that do not end up with a happy ever after!
I remember my big sister asking me this question when I was caught up in the bubble "Do you think this is Sex And the city? No, this is real life so you better stop behaving this way!" Thank God I got past that phase and I have realized that the information we take goes a long way in affecting our behaviours. I blog regularly about this topic and more on my website Oh May Zen!
On the other end of the spectrum is a beautiful movie I watched called War Room. In it I saw a heroine so it fit the bill of my fictional cravings. I want to point out are the positive things I copied fromthis movie after I finished watching it.
- Just like the heroine, I got a spiritual mentor for myself who helps me along my spiritual journey.
- I got my own prayer closet. I copied how she started off (the heroine) not being perfect as a praying person but grew into a prayer warrior.
- I learnt to confront the devil in situations in my life and use words of faith against him.
I love movies. I wish there were more wholesome media content out there because the effects of the good choices I made as a result of copying that movie are still havingeffects in my life. I believe that more wholesome media content being consumed by the public will help us all to make better choices.