The girl with the green duppata

Janki Hemani
Posted September 25, 2019 from India
The girl with the green duppata #Metoo
This story is an inspiration of how women have the strength to move on with their lives despite obstacles.

She was only 18 years old when she met the man she fell in love with at first sight. Both of them couldn't think of their lives without each other. She frequently wore her green salwar kameez with a green duppatta. The first time he saw her was when her green duppata flew over his face. But one day they had an argument which led to a fight. In no time these fights became abusive. The first time this happened was when he slapped her so hard that she fell on her knees at a bus stop. With tears in her eyes, she ran to her house. She wept all night. He kept calling her till she was convinced that this would not happen again. However, once a relationship gets abusive it's very rare that the behaviour patterns change. It happened again and after every fight he would physically hurt her and then apologise. One day he almost choked her with her green dupatta. This was the same duppata that he loved so much. Yet she couldn't let go. How could she after tolerating so much? She thought it was love but later she realized this was an obsession not love. She had flaws yet this is not the way a man should treat a woman. 

Despite being at fault, he was the one who broke up. Shattered and disheartened, she decided to commit suicide. This was when her family,  friends and work colleagues helped her get involved in work. She finally moved on.

After a few years, they met again at a bus stop. He enquired about her salary but she said it didn't matter as she was happy. She asked him if he had a girlfriend to which he replied he did. They said their goodbyes. A few weeks passed. She received an email from him. This email was the first time he apologised for how badly he had scarred her life. She read it and deleted it. He didn't matter to her anymore because she'd realized that their relationship was a mistake. He never loved her. However this relationship taught her a very important lesson, i.e. to never tolerate an abusive partner. If a person repeatedly behaves violently whether it is verbal or physical, one must step out of such a relationship with dignity. 

Today she is happily married. Her husband respects her and loves her unconditionally. 

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Anita Shrestha
Sep 25
Sep 25

Dear Janki
Nice experience you shared. In the life both good and bad things happen. After bad good things surely come as you saying. Keep it continue to share other more piece.

Janki Hemani
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks a lot for your comment. I would love it if you could check out my blog www.passion-goals.blogspot.com and my profile at https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/my-journey-and-life-lessons

Anita Shrestha
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thank you Janki for giving me link. Surely I will check

Hello, Janki,

What an empowering story! Thank you for sharing this story. Is this yours or from someone you know? Whoever this woman is, she deserves to be celebrated for reclaiming her power. She finally had her revenge by doing something about her life and deleting the man who abused her. She did the right thing by leaving him, and for making him irrelevant in her life.

Janki Hemani
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks a lot for your comment. I would love it if you could check out my blog www.passion-goals.blogspot.com and my profile at https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/my-journey-and-life-lessons

You’re welcome, dear!:)

Elizabeth Ziro
Sep 26
Sep 26

Wow! I love what i just read. It is so empowering, the moment one thinks that things will change they are lying to themselves. Once you are abused know that it will be the trend, just find your way to avoid the same in the future. I am so happy for her

Janki Hemani
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks a lot for your comment. I would love it if you could check out my blog www.passion-goals.blogspot.com and my profile at https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/my-journey-and-life-lessons

Elizabeth Ziro
Sep 26
Sep 26

Sure. All the best

Tarke Edith
Sep 26
Sep 26

Hello Janki
What an interesting story . I very well appreciate the effort of her to make decisions to stay without him and look for a job. Thank God she is happyly maraige.
Thanks for sharing sister.

Janki Hemani
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks a lot for your comment. I would love it if you could check out my blog www.passion-goals.blogspot.com and my profile at https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/my-journey-and-life-lessons

Lisbeth
Sep 26
Sep 26

Dear Janki,
You are very welcome back to World Pulse with this powerful and amazing story. Honestly, you took me to the movies haha.
Lastly, she was married and lived happily after. Thanks very much for sharing. And I also like your artistic impression on the" dupitta"
Pls what does it mean?
Regards

Janki Hemani
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thanks a lot for your comment. I would love it if you could check out my blog www.passion-goals.blogspot.com and my profile at https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/my-journey-and-life-lessons
If you enjoy my work do follow my blog.
The duppatta is like a stole she used to wear often because he loved it and it was also the same stole with which he tried to choke her.

chimdirimebere
Sep 27
Sep 27

Hi Janki,
What a beautiful ending this story has. My heart almost jumped out in suspense as i was reading this. Thank God she took that decision to move out. That's the problem so women who are in abusive relationships has. They keep thinking, 'what would my parents or neighbors say'.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful story on World Pulse.

Harriet