On Sunday I had a chance to spend some time with Juliet(15 years old), the eldest of the three children whose mother separated with the father. Below is what she told me.
"My Mother made a decision to separate from my father because she was fed up of the way she was being treated while at home. My dad would restrict her from going anywhere, visiting friends and never allowed any of her family or friends to come visit at home. This hurt me so much because I feel I have been deprived my right to get to know my aunties and uncles. My mom lived a miserable life because she always had a sad face. The main reason as to why she left home is because she escaped to go and attend a burial of her sister, my aunt and when she came back she was beaten seriously because she didn’t ask for permission. So she took all of us to stay with our grandmother who is very old and currently my mom has freedom to do whatever she wants. She was freed from that bondage. She is now free. However me and my sisters are now suffering because we have to walk a very long distance to get to school every morning and this is affecting my studies."
To me, the story was so heart breaking because you could see it in the young girl's eyes that she was going through a hard time. The poor mother is deprived of her rights and it seems that she lacks her identity and hence ending up in breakage of their family. Leaving the husband should not be the solution to such a problem because it affects the children terribly in the long run and it never shows a clear picture. this is a point where we all need to come in and act against such evil manners that are subjected to our sisters, mothers, aunties and grand parents around the world
Such stories are just enough to get us out of our comfort zones and to step up and do something. Men should stop treating women like their property and this can only happen when me and you give an ear to children like Juliet.Giving them our time is also very important.
I have and obligation of looking out for Juilet's mum next week and will hear her side of the story then will keep you updated.