I would never treat you like that.

Jennifer West
Posted April 2, 2014 from United States

Another piece from my blog...

I Would Never Treat You Like That

Remember when he pressed his body into you and pushed you back into a corner last week when he got angry? I would never treat you like that. And when he exploded at you with rage over absolutely nothing right before your little one’s birthday party? Remember how everyone wondered why you were so out of it, while he went about entertaining the party guest like the father of the year? I would never treat you like that. You know how he doesn’t listen when you are crying to him and trying to explain how his behavior hurts you? And how he makes up excuses and minimizes and denies what he has done? I would never treat you like that. I know he is trying to frighten you on purpose when he throws things and I would never treat you like that. I hear the way he threatens you, and I wish that you knew that I would never treat you like that. I wonder who told you that this is okay with me? Because it isn’t, and I would never tell you that. The voice that is telling you to try harder, to be more submissive to keep him calm, and just keep hoping that things will get better, is not my voice.

My voice says…

I love you

My intentions toward you are always good because I am good

You can trust me

You do not deserve this

It is not your fault

What he is doing is evil in my sight

It is not my will for you to be abused

I can make a way out

Nothing is impossible for me

My voice says…

“Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land. The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come my darling; my beautiful one, come with me.” Song of Songs 2:10-13

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pelamutunzi
Apr 03, 2014
Apr 03, 2014

these are words many women around the globe need. thank you. i feel my better after reading and have strength. many times we just feel the world doesnt understand. i feel it is the subtle abuse we are suffering which is worse than even physical abuse.

Jennifer West
Apr 03, 2014
Apr 03, 2014

Hello Pela,

Thank you for the encouragement. I am thankful that my words gave you strength. I think it helps to know that we are not alone and I will not stop writing as long as I know I am helping other women like myself to become strong and whole.

God Bless,

Jennifer

Susan K.A.
Apr 04, 2014
Apr 04, 2014

Yes, Jennifer, as Pela says, women around the globe need to hear these words and may gather strength from them. Thank you for wanting so much to bring light to some very dark places. Keep writing and being a beacon of hope to women who are suffering in isolation. For each and every one of us who suffers in silence, there is a way out and a new beginning.

Much love,

Susan

Jennifer West
Apr 04, 2014
Apr 04, 2014

Thank you for the encouraging words. I will continue to write as long as women are being abused. I truly believe that this is our time and that change is coming. I believe that the abuse of women is a total affront to God and that he is going to rise up - through us - and use us as warriors against this evil. Thanks again for your support :) It means a lot!

With Gratitude,

Jennifer

Joseph-Jacques MUGEREKE KISAHIRA
Apr 09, 2014
Apr 09, 2014

FRENCH Chère Jennifer Faith, bonjour. Merci pour vos paroles, oh combien encourageantes. Si toutes les femmes sujettes à d’abus, ou victimes de violences sexuelles pouvaient avoir le souffle d’exprimer leurs émotions de cette manière, cela leur permettrait de relativiser quelques peu leurs tragédies et d’assouplir leurs souffrances. Des vers poétiques ainsi récités, quelques aires de musiques, permettrait peut-être d’apaiser quelque peu leur psyché et leur donnerait des raisons d’espérer. Salutation et merci beaucoup de la part de World Pulse pour votre contribution. ENGLISH Sympathie, Dear Jennifer Faith, hello. Thank you for your words, oh so encouraging. If all women subject to abuse, or victims of sexual violence may have the breath to express their emotions in this way would allow them to relativize their tragedies and some few to ease their suffering. Poetic verses and recited some areas of music, perhaps somewhat would appease their psyche and would give them reason to hope. Greeting and thank you very much from World Pulse for your contribution. Sympathy, Joseph-Jacques MUGEREKE KISAHIRA (JJM) Bénévole/Volunteer for World Pulse Tél. +243997774376; +243812116997 E-mail: ucopasukijosephjack@yahoo.frWorld Pulse worldpulse.com T. 503.331.3900 | F. 503.914.1418 Follow us on Facebook and Twitter Connecting Women's Voices to Transform Our World

Jennifer West
Apr 09, 2014
Apr 09, 2014

Thank you very much for the encouraging words and support. I am so thankful to be a part of World Pulse and I know together we will make a difference.

All The Best, Jennifer

hanasazi
Apr 09, 2014
Apr 09, 2014

Your courage and your successful escape from abuse is a beautiful example that I pray will give other women in the same position the bravery and the strength to do the same. Every time I read your words tears come to my eyes, my heart seems to get bigger, and I know you are making more of a difference than it may seem. Your story is very powerful and inspiring...Please keep writing!

Jennifer West
Apr 09, 2014
Apr 09, 2014

Thank you Hanasazi :) XO

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