The Woman in the Arena

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Posted September 8, 2019 from Philippines
Dare to Show Up. Photo of Brene Brown's Daring Greatly Book Cover. Taken from the internet

There is a quote that Brene Brown, an author and researcher about shame and vulnerability, keeps mentioning on her talks.

For her, this was a life-changing quote moments after her Ted Talk about  The Power of Vulnerability went viral.

She was a very private person, and suddenly, she was the talk of the town. Her fame, albeit blissful,  was accompanied by negative comments. It affected her. This quote from former US President Theodore Roosevelt became her source of inspiration and wrote a book about it entitled Daring Greatly.

I want to share this quote by President Roosevelt's  A Man in the Arena speech. To make it more meaningful to you, World Pulse sisters, I changed it to "woman" instead of "man". 

No matter where you are now in your journey, there will be people who will criticize you for doing what you are called to do, people who question your ability or skills, people who think you're simply not enough for the role you are taking. These critics sometimes hold us back from pursuing our passions or goals. I hope we'll remember this quote from time to time as women warriors who fight daily in the arena full of critics. Here goes:

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong woman stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.

The credit belongs to  the woman who is actually in the arena,

whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood;

who strives valiantly;

who errs,

who comes short again and again,

because there is no effort without error and shortcoming;

but who does actually strive to do the deeds;

who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions;

who spends herself in a worthy cause;

who at the best knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement,

and who at the worst, if she fails, at least fails while daring greatly,

so that her place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

Whatever role you are doing today, dear sister, --a World Pulse storyteller, encourager, Ambassador, changemaker, vocal contributor, mother, sister, daughter, wife, home maker, start-up leader, employer, businesswoman, freelancer, teacher, emotional healer, listener, and more-- as long as you are a doer, rather than a critic, you are that woman in the arena.

Keep showing up.  Be ok with failing, it would hurt, but keep fighting! Even so, DARE GREATLY.

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Wusufor
Sep 08, 2019
Sep 08, 2019

Dear Karen,
Thanks for sharing this with me but post for us. It actually made my day. It's very comforting and I appreciate it very much.

I hope you are doing very well? It's been a while. My kind regards and have a good Sunday.
Hugs

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hello, Sis Lisbeth,

How are you? It's my pleasure to share this.

It's been a while since our paths cross. I want to commend you for being an awesome active encourager. You rock, dear! I've been here on World Pulse, but more on sending private messages to our sisters. :)

I'm glad you appreciate it. :) Thank you for taking the time to read. :)

Hope you have a great day!

Hugs!

Wusufor
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Oh dear Karen, you Know am just following your footsteps haha. A good teacher for a student, will become a good teacher too.

Yes it is a while our paths cross. Ohk that is also great the personal mails. I am waiting to receive mine.

Warm regards

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 12, 2019
Sep 12, 2019

Hello, dear,

Ohh, haha. That's nice to know. You're great at what you do really. You can create a unique path of your own because you are such a strong, positive woman leader.

Sure. :) You're already doing a great job as an encourager. You comment to almost every post. Kudos to you, dear. You are that woman in the arena. :)

Wusufor
Sep 13, 2019
Sep 13, 2019

Thanks for the commendation and have a great weekend.
Hugs

Adriana Greenblatt
Sep 08, 2019
Sep 08, 2019

Ahhh Karen this quote is so, I have ...no words ...for how motivating this is.

You just encapsulatated the spirit of WE GOT THIS! So wonderfully.

I am sending you to the biggest hug I can muster right now!!

Adriana

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hahaha. I love that biggest hug, dear Adriana. :)

Yes, WE GOT THIS! Cheers to us! Thanks for reading and appreciating. I know you love Brene Brown. I'm reading her Gifts of Imperfection now. I decided to read her books according to her recommendation (although I'm tempted to jump on her Dare to Lead one already.haha).

Have a great day!

Wusufor
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Dear Adriana, pls encapsulatated what does it means? It took me off guard haha. Hear from you and thanks

kunda
Sep 09, 2019
Sep 09, 2019

wow this is so great am inspired

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hello, Kunda,

Thank you! I'm happy it inspired you. This is my motivation now. Let's choose to be courageous always. The critics don't count. :)

Tarke Edith
Sep 09, 2019
Sep 09, 2019

Hello Karen.
Wao your story has impacted me alot ,yes l will agree with you that they are poeple who will spend all their time criticising and trying to bring others down but a strong and determined woman will synop and move on , such women excell . Thanks for being there for women sis

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hello, sister Edith,

I'm happy this post has an impact with you just as it has with me. Yes, you are true. There are more critics than doers. Sometimes, doers want to quit because of the critics, but at the end of the day, the doers achieved more because they dared greatly. :)

Keep on fighting, sis! My pleasure. Thank you for being a committed encourager, too!

Tarke Edith
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Dear Karen
I will agree with you that they are more critics than doers let me refer you to my story title It seems though but l didn't quite, that story is true example of what you have written about . when I started this production issue ,sis l was laugh at,my friends Did not encourage me, but today l tell they are using my products. Having been l quitted because l was laugh at , where would l have been today.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 12, 2019
Sep 12, 2019

Hello, sis Edith,

Yes! I read it. You are so awesome! Cheers to you. I'm so proud of you. You are exactly that woman in the arena. :)

Jill Langhus
Sep 09, 2019
Sep 09, 2019

Hi Karen,

Thanks for sharing this. She's a very smart, wise and inspiring lady, as are you:-) I will keep daring greatly... thanks for the encouragement:-)

XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hello, Jill,

You're welcome. I have you in mind while writing this because you are always showing up and daring greatly! Keep up the great work, our super encourager!

Jill Langhus
Sep 11, 2019
Sep 11, 2019

Well, thank you, ma'am:-) As do you!

Thank you again. You, too!! :-)

XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 12, 2019
Sep 12, 2019

You're welcome, dear. :)

Jill Langhus
Sep 13, 2019
Sep 13, 2019

XX:-)

Beth Lacey
Sep 09, 2019
Sep 09, 2019

That Teddy Roosevelt was a wise man. Thanks for sharing, Karen

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hello, Beth,

He is. His words immortalize him. My pleasure, Beth. :)

Dawn Arteaga
Sep 09, 2019
Sep 09, 2019

YES! Karen how do you always speak to my soul? I'm reading her latest book "Dare to Lead" and it talks about this quote too. I love her perspective on the importance of vulnerability to be courageous. Thank you for lifting this up!

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 10, 2019
Sep 10, 2019

Hello, Dawn,

Aww. I'm humbled, really. Thank you for your kind words as always. Wow, that's great to know. I'm reading her Gifts of Imperfection now. Yes, me, too. What I love about her perspective is it's all backed up by years of research!

My pleasure, Dawn.

Dennis Weche
Sep 11, 2019
Sep 11, 2019

Awesome

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 12, 2019
Sep 12, 2019

Thank you, Dennis. The original piece by Teddy Roosevelt is The Man in the Arena. Hope you'll read it. That's empowering for you, too. Have a great day!

Anita Shrestha
Sep 13, 2019
Sep 13, 2019

Dear Karen
Thanking you for sharing this story. You are greater contributor for world pulse.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 19, 2019
Sep 19, 2019

Hello, Anita,

Aww. That's so sweet of you. Thank you for reading this post. You are that woman in the arena, too. :)

Juliet Acom
Sep 16, 2019
Sep 16, 2019

Hi Karen,

Thank you for sharing this, i needed to be reminded that criticism whether negative or positive will always exist.
I am determined to ignore it and pursue my goals!

Stay blessed

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 19, 2019
Sep 19, 2019

Hello, dear sister Juliet,

How are you doing? You're welcome. Yes, we all need this reminder. Yes, the critics don't count. By all means, pursue your goals and dreams. :)

I want to commend you for being a committed encourager.:) So great to read comments from you. Keep it up, dear.

Sumera Reshi
Sep 24, 2019
Sep 24, 2019

Dear Karen,

Thank you so much for such a lovely and encouraging post. I swear I cried while reading your post. Often I feel handicapped as I am unable to help my own people. I am like a spectator in a far off land where I can't yell but can only cry stealthily inside my room or some secluded corner of my office. Your post persuaded me to take a more active role at least for my dying people no matter what. I shall save your post and paste it on my wall, in case I fell short of a pat on my back, I will look at it and move on.
Thank you so much, Karen.
Love you,
Sumera

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 24, 2019
Sep 24, 2019

Hello, dear Sumera,

Awww. Hugs to you, dear. You are doing great from where you are, and what you can do at this moment. That is more than enough, dear. You are enough. We would never know about Kashmir's situation if it were not from your frequent posts. Yes, you are that woman in the arena. :) I'm so glad it encouraged you as it has encouraged me.

It's my pleasure, dear. You're welcome. I love you, too. :)

Sumera Reshi
Sep 24, 2019
Sep 24, 2019

It did Karen. I felt as if your write up was meant for me. That is why I saved it, took the print out and kept it on my table so that I can see it daily and get motivated. You are like a real sister and a friend now. Thanks for being on world pulse, Karen.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Sep 25, 2019
Sep 25, 2019

Hello, dear,

Of course, that is also meant for you. :) Wow, you printed it! That's a great way to be motivated. We do need reminders or inspirational messages to keep us going. Yes, you are a sister and a friend. I'm glad you are on World Pulse, too, dear Sumera. :) Thanks for being here, too. :)

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 03, 2019
Dec 03, 2019

Thank you dear Karen for your words of encouragement and of recognition of the difficult and critically important work we are doing together here. Knowing we are working together gives me strength to continue.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 03, 2019
Dec 03, 2019

You're welcome, dear Tam. It's always a pleasure to send encouragement to our World Pulse sisters. We need it to keep going. Have a great day!