Encouragement: Pay It Forward!

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Posted July 28, 2020 from Philippines

"Encourage, lift, and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all." - Deborah Day

It takes courage for a woman to open up about her life. 

It takes valuable time for her to write about her story. 

It takes vulnerability for her to decide to publish a post and be seen. 

Whenever I talk about encouragement, I usually begin by sharing my World Pulse journey: how a deadly typhoon prompted me to write my first story, and how words of encouragement comforted me during those times.

Back then, my husband got a job to manage a livelihood rehabilitation of the Super Typhoon Haiyan survivors. We relocated in Tacloban City, the hardest hit of the strongest typhoon recorded in the world.

That region is the "Welcome Party" of almost every typhoon that visits the Philippines. Storms, earthquakes, and power outage are a common occurrence. It was like a community immersion for me where I experience what's it like to be living in a disaster-prone area. 

Living in a city with a dialect I couldn't speak, I felt so alone and isolated. Not to mention that raising a son with special needs makes one feel lonely and stressed.

To read words of encouragement from World Pulse sisters that time felt like a dried soil being watered for the first time. It was like a rebirth. I began to encourage others sisters with the intention to "pay it forward".

Paying it forward means, "to respond to a person's kindness to oneself by being kind to someone else". 

Since that day, I "encourage all I can".  I try to write comments on almost every post written on World Pulse. There were times when my husband would browse on the posts here and informed me to encourage a sister because she hasn't received any comment yet. Encouraging felt like a mission, and now I can say it is a calling.

Encouraging is important to me because I want women to feel they are valued, worthy of love, and they can become the best versions of themselves.

How many dreams were not realized because women are criticized more than they were encouraged?

How many women's ideas are buried within themselves because no one believed that their idea, gift or vision is worth the try?

In effect, we're left with a wounded world because of ideas, movements, and dreams died with women just settling in, living small, and fitting in.

Women receive endless criticisms from society day in, day out. We hear messages of "shoulds" and "should nots" even before we are accepted for who we are and what we can do. 

Let us change that. 

As an Encourager on World Pulse, I've witnessed it several times when encouragers empower a woman with uplifting words, she heals from her past then pursues her life's mission. 

Leaving encouraging comments is  a simple way of paying it forward. Just as we felt seen, heard, and valued, let us help every World Pulse sister to experience the same.

If you have been uplifted, comforted, validated, affirmed, heard, seen, or valued through words of encouragement, kindly pay it forward. 

Encourage sisters today! Who knows it is your words of kindness and/or life experience that a sister is waiting to read. 

To know more about encouragement, join us the Encourager Party this Friday, July 31, 2020, 11AM (Eastern Time in US and Canada). Please register here: https://bit.ly/EncouragerParty.

Let's celebrate together as we pay it forward!

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Chi8629
Jul 28
Jul 28

Hello Beautiful Karen ,
How are you doing and how
Is your son ? Hope you are doing well ? Thank you for sharing , you are so right , that's why I love to tell people positive things about themselves , naturally people love to hear how you perceive them in a positive light ,all too often we are our own worst critics and it can be surprising up lifting to hear some one external tell us quite the opposite of our words . It gladdens my heart to encourage people , I love to see people happy prosperous and healthy , I love to see people laugh even in the mist of their troubles and pain ,.Karen I want to let you know that you are amazing , thoughtful and sweet and I love you so much .Thank you for all you do. Thank you for taking out time to encourage others sisters even when you have your own personal problems. You are fabulous Ka and I can't love you less . Thank you .

Awww. Thank you for your contribution to the topic and for your kind words, dear Chi. You are one of the women who pay it forward, a light to the world. May there be more women like you. Keep up the great work.

You're a wonderful encourager. We're so happy you're on World Pulse. Stay beautiful and sweet, dear. Love, love, love to you, too!

Manasa Ram Raj
Jul 28
Jul 28

Karen! Such a beautifully written post. You have a really nice way with words! I loved reading this. Thank you for everything you do!! <3

Awww. Thank you, dear Manasa. You're doing a great job in everything you do, too. It's motivating to pay it forward with you as part of the team. Keep up the awesome work, lovely!

Hope to see you on the Encourager Party tomorrow!

Tarke Edith
Jul 29
Jul 29

Hello sis Karen
Yes dear encouragement can move to another level in life
I had the same experience when l posted my first story and l was happy with those who encourage me
Thanks for sharing this with us dear

Hello, sis Edith,

I missed you! I'm happy to know you experience the same. I'm glad you're back!

The pleasure is mine, sis. Hope to see you on the Encourager Party tomorrow!

Nini Mappo
Jul 29
Jul 29

Dear Karen,
Thank you for making encouragement missional, for mobilising encouragers, and for being vulnerable on the healing power of encouragement through sharing your experience.

And for reminding us that encouraging others is a way of caring, of letting them know that they are heard, a soul embrace.

May we all indeed purpose to care, and show it by our words, which is all we can do for now.
We sisters value your encouragement:)

Thank you so much, Nini. You bring so much love and light to the World Pulse Community. Thanks for being you and staying true to the calling God prepared for you. Keep it up, dear. I appreciate you!

Hope you can still join us to the party tomorrow to meet the amazing women of World Pulse. :)

Nini Mappo
Jul 30
Jul 30

You sure do know how to put a spark in girls' heart! Thank you my dear:)
I will send you a message about the party.

You're welcome, dear Nini.

Jill Langhus
Jul 29
Jul 29

I bow down to thee, the Queen of Encouragers:-) Your writing and encouragement gets stronger and stronger with every post, dear Kaye... you rock! I hope you know it, and can feel it with every fiber of your being!!!

XX

Hahaha. You're funny, Jill. If there's a Queen of Encouragers, it's you. But I love the idea of Ubuntu. I am because we all are. No one greater than the other. Each one is unique, but equal. :)

Thank you for being that steady and consistent encourager/motivator to all of us on World Pulse. You're one of the reasons we shine...so you rock!

Ah no. I don't feel anything in my being at all. It doesn't work that way I guess. :))

Jill Langhus
Jul 31
Jul 31

Thank you!! Yes, I like that idea, too. Maybe you won't see the transcript for the Encourager Party, then...:-)

You're welcome, dear. So, are you, and so do you!!!

Hmm. Yeah, I know what you mean. We need to work on this, I think:-)

XX

Maya Iwata
Jul 29
Jul 29

Karen,
Thank you as always for both your beautifully written story that lifts up the World Pulse spirit and helps people understand the role and importance of writing encouraging comments. The lines that especially resonate for me are "Women receive endless criticisms from society day in, day out. We hear messages of "shoulds" and "should nots" even before we are accepted for who we are and what we can do. Let us change that. As an Encourager on World Pulse, I've witnessed it several times when encouragers empower a woman with uplifting words, she heals from her past then pursues her life's mission. " It reminds me of a something Rinku Sen, a racial and gender justice activist in the US wrote, "Organziing requires courage, courage comes from community. Mutual aid fuels the audacity to demand more because it reinforces that we are not alone in our suffering." Thank you Karen for your deep commitment to helping women speak and be heard so they can thrive.

Hello, Maya,

Thank you so much for your support and appreciation. I want you to know that you are a source of encouragement to me. I feel like I'm doing the right thing whenever you comment on my post. I'm just a firefly sharing its small light to this dark world.

I like that quote from Rinku Sen. May we all be courageous to demand more because we are not alone in our suffering. May more women's voices be amplified through World Pulse with the help of the encouragers. :)

Thank you so much to you and to World Pulse for everything!

Honorine Ngenwi
Jul 31
Jul 31

Waoh Ka you so wonderful, so loving, you are a genus and you actually removing to timit part of me. What a great work you are do in some of our lives. U are a great woman God will continue to bless and protect you for us. Thanks so so much my regards.

Thank you for your kind words, dear. We all need encouragement from time to time. Life is challenging. An uplifting word can go a long way like what you're doing. Thank you so much!

PearlMeggy
Aug 01
Aug 01

Hi Karen ,Thank you this post is wonderful love your beautiful heart and yes I will "Pay it forward" so moved,so touched. Thank you .❤

You’re welcome, dear Pearl. Yes! Lets spread love and kindness to help women heal and feel heard. Thank you for caring!

Emi' Alawode
Aug 04
Aug 04

Thank you, Karen. I joined that party and I'm not looking back.:)

'Grateful for all you do. It takes quite a lot of time and commitment to encourage anyone. We especially appreciate your husband for supporting you on this journey. You are a power couple here, aren't you? :) We hope more men would support us, truly. Together, we can!

Big hugs.

Hello, dear Emi’,

How are you? I’m happy to see you at the Encourager Party!

You’re right that encouraging takes time and commitment. I grew so much as a person by reading the posts here. It help see different perspectives of life. I learn a lot just by reading stories.

My husband is here only to read posts, but he doesn’t comment because he finds it hard to put into words what he wants to say. He calls me instead. LOL. Thank you, dear. It’s the grace of God that we work as a team.

Hope to see you around here! Keep up the great work. It’s my prayer your World Pulse journey will be a fruitful one.

Emi' Alawode
Aug 05
Aug 05

Thanks for your prayer, Karen. God bless you and your hubby as you keep enjoying divine grace. Stay safe, Sis! :)

Millynairi
Aug 06
Aug 06

Dear Karen,
This is one of the best you have done. You are a true encourager and you have rightly put it that when we are encouraged, we feel loved, it makes all the difference! Karen, every time I read a story on world pulse I see your comments already. This is truly your calling and it is a blessing because when we see all your encouragements on world pulse we have no excuse but to follow your example. Thank you for all you do.

Hello, Milly,

Thank you for your uplifting words. I try my best to comment on most of the posts. I always learn something new about the world when I read stories here. I’m inspired in return.

Awww. Thanks, love. You don’t need to comment on every post, just on the post that you interest you.