Humble Kindness

Karin vonKrenner
Posted October 14, 2020

It’s hard to always be our best selves all the time. Daily, little things annoy us. Other people annoy us. Days of annoyances pile up through the week. Finally, thoughtlessly, we vent our layers of frustration on a hapless, inanimate object. We kick the car, bang the trashcan lid, slam the door.  No real harm done except to our toes and ears. In spite of the pain, we feel vaguely better.

Those are the “easy” days. What about the times when not only our lives, but the world around us is beyond “annoying”?  What if it is falling apart?  When nothing goes according to plan and it all goes from “annoying” to a downright emotional melt down.  How do we cope in these times?

We can turn to our personal faith for guidance.  Hard times have flowed through our whole history. Religions have a common thread that binds them. Bible, Koran, Torah or Tripitaka all have a common voice to guide us through troubled times.  It is – humble kindness.

They all ask us to reach out to our neighbour, friend or family and ultimately our “enemy” and offer humble kindness.   What is “humble kindness” and how can it help us in tough times?

How many times in a day do we ask “How is your day going”?  The cashier, the waitress, the dog walking neighbour.  We nod and barely accept the standard “I’m fine” reply. But, imagine a different world. One of kindness.  A world where we stop and with humble eyes, see the people around us?  A day in which we stop a moment to understand and not rush quickly by because “it’s none of our business”?  What if we find not a “problem” but an unexpected friend? An angel in disguise.  A world and a day to stop being- afraid.

Jesus made everyone “his business’. He was the biggest “busybody” on the planet. Politicians, beggars, bankers, children. Men and women.  Nobody was safe from his attention or his annoying personal questions. He “did” unto everyone. With humble kindness.

 The stench of a hungry beggar did not distract him from sharing his bread. The bawling baby found comfort on his lap. A fallen women sat beside him and found respect. A politician argued with him and learned tolerance.  He saw our “better selves”.

In our current, troubled world, it is hard to be kind. “They” are not kind. “They” are not like us.  THEY are not –us.  We are blinded by our learned fears. We have lost the trust that our neighbours will “do unto us” in good faith.  Jesus, Buddha and Moses led by example. They have asked us to do the same. “Do unto others as you would have done to you”.  Our actions, however small, have reactions. Hate breeds hate. Kindness spreads kindness. Respect creates respect.

Yes. It is hard. But was life easier in Biblical times?  Tough times are testing times. We are being tested. Fortunately, we can look to those who have gone before us.  We can have faith.

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Jill Langhus
Oct 16, 2020
Oct 16, 2020

Hi Karin,

How are you doing? Oh, I'm feeling pretty annoyed today...ha. I hear you. And most definitely that hate, kindness and respect are always mirrored back in our words and actions and that we need to take care. Thanks for sharing your post. I hope you're safe and well. XX

Nini Mappo
Oct 17, 2020
Oct 17, 2020

Hello Karin,
I enjoy your stories! I love the build up of annoyance, so true. Thank you for the call to humility which fuels kindness. It's eye opening the link between humility, and stopping to see others, and stopping even longer, to care about their situations. I love the image of Jesus the 'busy-body,' and how restorative His busy-ness was for those impacted. Thank you for sharing, and for expressing it so beautifully :)
Sending hugs and sparkles, in case you are in a grimace after kicking a trash can ha ha ;)

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Oct 27, 2020
Oct 27, 2020

Hello, Karin,

I feel like I have found a soul sister in you after reading your post. This somehow has the same message I deliver at the Aspire Reinvent Conference where I was one of the speakers. I spoke of encouragement, and how important our vertical relationship (faith in God) and horizontal relationships (people) are. I also believe that it is takes a lot of courage to be kind in this tough world.

Thank you for mentioning Jesus. I contemplate a lot on how He lived His life. Elevating slaves and presented them as equals. Stopping the culture of oppression to women. Defying culture by speaking about loving your neighbor with an example of a Samaritan, with whom Jews considered lesser than, if not an enemy. Much of how I encourage women on World Pulse, and how I provide a safe space for women come from His teachings of love, kindness, and justice.

Karin vonKrenner
Oct 28, 2020
Oct 28, 2020

Thank you Karen, am finding so many "soul sisters" here at World Pulse. There is such a positive and supportive energy here that does not draw lines of geography or beliefs. So needed in our troubled world today. You are one of those amazing lights- keep shining Sister. Hugs. Feel free to reach out if there is anyway I can help.