Share some light

Kike
Posted September 1, 2020 from Nigeria

2020 has been a tough year alright? Corona and all the other drama that has happened is not exactly something anybody saw coming. And even now the year is still throwing more at us. It’s really tempting to just declare 2020 cancelled, but not so fast. There’s something here. Because while this year has shown us some of the worst of humanity, it has also shown us some of the best of it too. It has been an amazing thing to see people rising up to care for those in their communities whose livelihoods have been taken away by the pandemic, it has been awe inspiring to see women raise their voices for the vulnerable and the weak despite certainly going through unexpected difficulties in their own lives.

I struggle with overwhelming anxiety and to say the beginning of quarantine almost took me out is an understatement. I planned to have graduated university in August and gone on to other things, but suddenly found myself sitting at home restarting my final year project after a horrible mistake, while watching the days turn into weeks and then into months. Opportunities I had looked forward to faded seemingly into thin air. I didn’t know if my family would be able to cope financially. I worried for my friends. In fact, I worried. Day and night.

Ironically, in a period where I felt I needed more encouragement than ever, what helped me get a grip was encouraging others. I realized that the weight of worrying and overthinking lifted whenever I shared my challenges and turned them into an encouraging moment for those around me, to say ‘you’re not in your struggle alone, I’m scared and tired too.’

I began to be more intentional about encouraging, checking up on my friends and prompting them to share their struggles with me. I began to leave uplifting comments on social media even for people I do not know personally. During this period more than ever, I’ve been so grateful for technology. I may not be able to hug someone physically, but I can send stickers, emojis, voice notes, and songs to let them know I care and brighten up their day.

From this I learnt that in our darkest moments, if we manage to find the strength to give out just a little bit of light, we will have that light reflected back at us too, perhaps bigger and brighter.

Slowly I began to put anxiety aside and make plans again. I caught up on books I always wanted to read, curated new playlists, broke into spontaneous singing and dancing even though I really can’t dance, learnt skills I had been putting aside, loved on my parents and siblings, cultivated new friendships and deepened old ones, and became deeply anchored in my faith. I stopped seeing quarantine as an interruption but rather an opportunity to realign my life.

I’m sharing this to simply say that we can and we will come out of this year stronger and with new lessons. Let us keep encouraging one another where we can and continue lending our voices to speak for those who cannot speak for themselves. 2020 has been a tough year no doubt, but we are tougher still.

This story was submitted in response to Dispatches from the COVID-19 Pandemic.

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Hello, Kike,

How are you doing? welcome back to World Pulse. I love your empathy and positive outlook. It's true no one was prepared for this pandemic. The start of a new decade seems to be a promising year ahead, but COVID-19 happen, among others.

It's great that you found a purpose by encouraging others. That resonates with me, too. Maybe because as humans we are wired for connection, and encouraging people is one way we show kindness to them. You are such a strong and resilient woman. How you survive this pandemic is a great story to tell one day.

It must be depressing not to graduate on time, and that's valid, dear. I know that feeling, but in a different situation. I was 19, a college junior, when I had to stop my studies, and was out-of-school for six years. My batchmates were all professional when I went back to school. Trust this journey, dear, it will all go well for you. I'm sure of that because you have a greater purpose in life. 2020 has been a tough year indeed, but you are tougher, love.

I hope you can also encourage our sisters on World Pulse! Please join us on the next Encourager Party, too! Hugs to you!

Kike
Sep 03
Sep 03

Thanks, Karen. I want to believe I'm back here for good this time. Thanks for sharing your experience, I relate to that feeling of falling behind too well, but I also believe in purpose through pain, so fingers crossed and prayers up!
About the encourager party, what is it and how do I join in?

You're welcome, dear. We surely need more encouragers here. :) That's true. We are not defined by what happened to us. We carry all the lessons with us.

Yes, please join us. Kindly read this for more details. :https://www.worldpulse.com/community/users/karen-quinones-axalan/posts/9...

Hope you join us this month!

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Kike,
What a powerful description of what encouraging others can do, not only how important generosity of spirit is for others, but what it does for ourselves too. "in a period where I felt I needed more encouragement than ever, what helped me get a grip was encouraging others". By describing how this worked for you, you have sent such an inspiring and healing message to us all.

Kike
Sep 03
Sep 03

Dearest Tam, I'm glad I could inspire through my words. Thank you.

Stacie Dickson
Sep 02
Sep 02

This was such a beautiful post. I sometimes struggle with anxiety as well, and fearing the worse, so this post encouraged me to keep pressing forward with positivity no matter what. Thanks for sharing.

Kike
Sep 03
Sep 03

Yes! No matter what, we move. Dealing with anxiety can be tough but truly we are tougher. Thanks for reading through.

Nini Mappo
Sep 02
Sep 02

Hello Kike
Good on you for finding a way to keep your head above the waves, until the storm of 2020 has passed.

Keep on shining your light so that others can share it, and have it reflected back to you. There's so much insight and compassion in that statement.

Hang in there and stay sparkly ✨ :)

Kike
Sep 03
Sep 03

Dear Nini, thanks for your kind words. I sure am hanging on tight. Hugs to you :)

Andrace
Sep 04
Sep 04

Yeap, Kike. After the dark clouds, we should see the silver linings. Thank you for giving yourself and sharing the fulfillment that comes with it.

Congratulations ahead of your graduation too. Many more celebrations by God's grace-amen. :)

Remain on top and stay super blessed.

Love and hugs,
E. J.

Kike
Sep 06
Sep 06

Thank you Andrace. I'm really looking forward to what's next :)

Regina Afanwi Young
Sep 04
Sep 04

Hello kike, how are you doing dear? Its true 2020 has been a tough year but I am glad you are a strong woman because you were able to encourage others. Dear I understand the feeling about the delay in your school program but at least you gave a reason to celebrate. You have celebrated strong and better relationships with family and friends.
Keep being the best encourager that you are dear. Hope to see you this month end at the encouragers party.

Kike
Sep 06
Sep 06

I'm doing fine, how are you? Thanks for your kind words. I do hope to be part of the encouragers party, all things being equal :)

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 08
Sep 08

Hello Kike,
I hope you are doing well today. I also hope your projects are getting on well now depsite the previous setbacks.
You are right about 2020 being a challenging, yet an equally reflective year.
There is joy in giving like the Bible says.
Keep encouraging and taking care.
Wish you the best.

Kike
Sep 12
Sep 12

Hello Arrey-Echi. Yesss, my project is finally back on track, almost done even. Thanks for your kind words and have a lovely week ahead.