Wounded Healer.

Kumasi Goodness
Posted November 22, 2021 from Cameroon

I am the first child of my parents with five siblings. Being the first child I was taught by my parents to follow rules so as to show a good example to my siblings. Due to this I couldn't stand up to say NO to my parents even if I was hurting to the extent that I was forced against my will to marry a man who tend out to be an abusive husband. He so abused me emotionally and physically that I almost loss my mind and at a point I had to build up the courage from within and for the first time in my life I took a decision which was to leave the marriage nomatter what the consequences will be. This was the first time I made a decision in my life without my  parent's influence and today I am glad I did because over time I got healed from trauma,bitterness and resentment. Today, I am able to tell my story without fear of being judged. I am able to use my life as an example to educate younger people especially girls without any shame and I am now living my own life.

This story was submitted in response to Disability Justice.

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Hello Goodness how are you. That was a good decision you took in other to be safe from GBV.
My Regards

Kumasi Goodness
Nov 23
Nov 23

Thanks alot.

Rahmana Karuna
Nov 23
Nov 23

Kumasi, it is wonderful you see yourself as a wounded healer. the best. welcome to world pulse. look forward to more about your life, your courage, your voice.

Kumasi Goodness
Nov 23
Nov 23

Thanks alot

Rahmana Karuna
Nov 23
Nov 23

the one man i did marry, i left 10 weeks later. for the next year when telling my story, women told me they knew within 3 months they made a mistake, but waited 2,3,5 kids and 10-15 years to leave

we do not stay with anyone who treats us worse than we treat ourselves.

i learned that one after many abusive relationships. take care and love thyself!!!

Kumasi Goodness
Nov 24
Nov 24

Self love is paramount

megsmueller
Nov 24
Nov 24

Dearest Kumasi and welcome to World Pulse! I am so happy that you are in a much better space to be able to speak without feeling guilt and to use your life experiences as life lessons for others. Your first story is a powerful one and a voice for so many women living in silence while they try to maintain the conservative ways of their upbringing. I am glad that you have found the one element that is so close to my heart - HEALING. You have also found a sisterhood, a support circle right here on World Pulse and we are happy that you have joined us. Can't wait to read more of your write-ups.

All the best.

Kumasi Goodness
Nov 24
Nov 24

Thanks very much Megsmueller. Am grateful for the encouragement.