Asexuality Is Not A Disease #IStandWithHer

Laiba Zainab
Posted November 25, 2019 from Pakistan
Asexuality

In our everyday life we always hear that “sex and sexual appeals are natural”. We are always told that opposites attract each other and by “attraction” it is always considered “sexually”. Well I am glad to let you all know that this is not how it works for every human being in this world.

We get to know very little about “asexuality” and “asexuals”. To be very honest people don’t even accept that there is anything like “asexuality”. Due to stereotypes in our society very few people are able to even public that they are “Asexual” because if anyone does that they are always told this is not natural and they only have fear of sex nothing more than that. You get one million suggestions to visit a psychologist for treatment. Well Asexuality is not a disease to be treated.

Asexuals are people who do not like and enjoy “penetration”. They are attracted to people but not for sex (only the penetration one). They do like love making and slow romance but sex is not their goal. “Foreplay” is what they actually enjoy and want with their partner. They are not suffering from any physical or mental disease. It is not only their choice but THIS IS HOW THEY NATURALLY FEEL.

Unfortunately in our society only a bunch of people really know about LOVE MAKING and SLOW ROMANCE and even in them there are very few who don’t have the goal of PENETRATION in their mind. This makes difficult for asexual people to go for any intimate relationship with anyone as they have the fear in their mind that no one would understand what they are looking for.

Just think once that you are with someone who is asexual and they are actually not interested in having sex with you but they want to feel every part of your body, they want you to enjoy the heaven of touch without thinking about next step, they want to play with every inch of your being without even wanting to just have sex and end the moment. With the tip of every finger they want you to remember the curves of their body and with every breath they enjoy the feel of fragrance your skin has. They don’t think about PENETRATION and they don’t want you to convince them for this. So, whenever you find someone Asexual just give them a chance to let you know about their feelings and don’t ever think that they are NOT OK BECAUSE ASEXUALITY IS NOT A DISEASE.I BELIEVE THAT WOMEN SHOULD EXPLORE THEIR SEXUALITY WITOUT ANY SHAME AND SHOULD OWN IT AS A CROWN.

 

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Jill Langhus
Nov 25, 2019
Nov 25, 2019

Hi Laiba,

How are you doing, dear? Thanks for sharing this informative article. I'd heard of asexuality before but didn't know that much about it. I have to admit what you're saying sounds like heaven to me:-) This must be me. How about you?!

Hope you're doing well and having a great week!?

XX

Laiba Zainab
Nov 26, 2019
Nov 26, 2019

I am doing great and totally loving my live right now

Jill Langhus
Nov 27, 2019
Nov 27, 2019

Great to hear!!

XX

Beth Lacey
Nov 26, 2019
Nov 26, 2019

we should all be free to embrace who we are without shame

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Nov 26, 2019
Nov 26, 2019

Hello, Laiba,

This is the first time I read about this, although I have heard those terms before. Thank you for sharing this information with us. Very interesting to know.

Anita Shrestha
Nov 26, 2019
Nov 26, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Jacqueline Namutaawe
Nov 27, 2019
Nov 27, 2019

Thanks for this educative piece on asexuality. Trust me you have enlightened my understanding on this topic.

Lisbeth
Nov 28, 2019
Nov 28, 2019

Dear Laiba,
How are you? Have you already done the party without inviting me? Haha!
I waiting to hear from you.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great weekend.

Paulina Nayra
Nov 29, 2019
Nov 29, 2019

Now I know what asexuality means. Thank you for writing about this. Very rarely that women talk about their sexuality and when a woman talks about it openly, our culture considers it unwomanly. I hope you'll write again so we can learn more. I actually thought that being asexual means not interested or having no desire for sex at all. This post is an eye opener. And I think, married couples will become asexual eventually when penetration is not interesting anymore because of old age. Am I right?

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Dec 03, 2019
Dec 03, 2019

Hi Laiba,
Thank you for this interesting post. Didn't know that word even existed. This is very interesting. Looking forward to reading more of your posts.
Stay blessed

Andra Marasteanu
Dec 23, 2019
Dec 23, 2019

Thank you for writing this, Laiba. I didn't give too much thought on this topic so far, but I agree that every women is entitled to explore their sexuality with pride and openness and joy, whatever that means to them.