IF IT AFFECTS HOW YOU FEEL, IT IS PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE

Latoria
Posted June 9, 2019 from Nigeria

Psychological gender-based violence is common. People don't actually see it as an abuse because it has been a norm. An abuse is said to be psychological when the victim is threatened or the perpetrator uses fear as a means of controlling the victim. For emotional abuse, the abuser says or do something to make the victim feel worthless or bad while verbal abuse occurs when someone uses spoken or written words to injure a person emotionally or psychologically.

Emotional, psychological or verbal abuse causes emotional harm and targets someone because of their gender. Some examples include controlling or restricting someone else's movements, threatening another person, verbally disrespecting and degrading another person.

Psychological abuse, often called emotional abuse, is a form of abuse, characterised by a person subjecting or exposing another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. This type of violence can also occur online through social media and might involve taking or sharing intimate photos of another person without their consent, or sending someone unwanted sexually explicit images. This is actually why some people get easily depressed on social media.

Emotional abuse is any act including confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, or any other treatment which may diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth. Before anything can be an emotional or psychological abuse, it must affect how you feel. If your partner’s behaviour makes you feel small, controlled or as if you’re unable to talk about what’s wrong, it’s abusive. If you feel like your partner is stopping you from being able to express yourself, it’s abusive. If you feel you have to change your actions to accommodate your partner’s behaviour, it’s abusive.

Emotional abuse range from name calling; victim blaming; silent treatment; not allowing the victim to see their family or friend; be ridding their possessions; being excessively jealous; humiliating or making fun of the victim; intimidating the victim; causing fear to gain control; threatening to hurt oneself if the other person does not cooperate and threatening to abandon the person to the likes. Psychological abuse can mean all of the examples above and destruction of personal property; verbal aggression; socially isolating the person; not allowing access to a telephone; not allowing a competent person to make decisions; inappropriately controlling the person’s activities; treating a person like a child or a servant; withholding companionship or affection and use of undue pressure. Verbal abuse range from recalling a person’s past mistakes to control them while they feel bad; expressing negative expectations and distrust; threatening violence against a person or their family members; yelling; lying; name-calling; insulting, swearing; withholding important information; unreasonably ordering around; talking unkindly about death to a person and telling a person that they are worthless or bag of trouble.

Verbal, emotional and psychological violence work hand-in-hand because the abuser tends to control the victim by manipulating them to get what they want. According to Centre for Safety and Change, 4 in 10 women and 4 in 10 men have experienced at least one form of coercive control by an intimate partner in their lifetime; 17.9% of women have experienced a situation where an intimate partner tried to keep them from seeing family and friends; women who earn 65% or more of their households’ income are more likely to be psychologically abused than women who earn less than 65% of their households’ income and 95% of men who physically abuse their intimate partners also psychologically abuse them.

Psychological abuse happens to both sexes based on gender roles and stereotypes. Hence, the need to restructure gender roles and correct gender stereotypes. I would be sharing how these factors are causes of psychological violence.

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Lisbeth
Jun 09
Jun 09

Yes its true, if it hurts then something is gone wrong. Ooh every day its happens online too. Those who have strong self-esteem react by blocking such abusers. Its the best solution.

Hello, Latura,

Thank you for sharing about emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse. You have a book on the making already!

Jill Langhus
Jun 10
Jun 10

Hi Latoria,

Thanks for sharing your informative article on psychological abuse.