SEXUAL HARASSMENT IN SCHOOLS

Latoria
Posted June 25, 2019 from Nigeria

Sexual harassment can be verbal (comments about your body, spreading sexual rumors, sexual remarks or accusations, dirty jokes or stories), physical (grabbing, rubbing, flashing or mooning, touching, pinching in a sexual way, sexual assault) or visual (display of naked pictures or sex-related objects, obscene gestures) according to Equality Rights. The first line is most common in schools which is not supposed to bed. 

Sexual harassment by boys in schools is considered normal. It's seen as a norm and a way of deriving fun. Fun or making mockery of the victim? Healing or leading someone to depression? I don't sincerely understand how sexual harassment in universities or colleges is fun. Just imagine if the girls start spreading false sexual rumours or start cracking dirty jokes about the perpetrators of this act; commenting on them, the size of their dicks and how much of a pervert they are whenever they pass by, how would they feel? Well, the girls are also deriving fun! Oh, how could they?! But it's normal to comment about the girls' boobs, asses and stuff? Isn't that rude? It's sad and depressing when we normalise sexual harassment. 

Sexual harassment in schools can be perpetrated by teachers, boys, girls, staff or anybody. However, girls are the victims of this rude behaviour. It's perpetrated by teachers or lecturers  when the lecturers ask the students for sexual favours before they can pass their tests or exams or register/sign their courses. It's sexual harassment if the lecturer or teacher makes the student feels uncomfortable through eye contact; touches, pinches in a sexual way or ogles at the student. It's sexual harassment when the teacher passes nudes or porn to the student when they are alone with them and the likes. It's not normal, hence, it's wrong. 

Students are also perpetrators of sexual harassment. The males believe they have the right or whatever it is to harass the girls by commenting on the shape and size of their boobs and asses. How rude! Just imagine a boy slapping a girl on the ass or suddenly grabs her firmly. How crazy could they get? I don't know but the boys should try to put themselves in the girls' shoes. I mean just imagine! How would you feel? Depressed because you have a small dick or feel happy when false rumours about you are spread whenever you pass by or something? It's high time you stopped harassing people. If they don't want to be grabbed or held by you, don't! Respect them. They are humans as well. 

The effects of sexual harassment in schools can't be overemphasised. When a student is harassed by a lecturer or a fellow student, they might feel unsafe and uncomfortable. They might find it difficult to go out or participate in activities because of the harassed person or the effects of the harassment on them. For example, a girl is being called names and jokingly insulted due to the size of her boobs by some boys. There is a high probability that she would meet one of them when she goes out or passes through the place where the harassment occured. For this cause, she feels uncomfortable. She might feel unsafe to go out because there's a probability that she'd meet one of those people who ogled at her. She feels scared because her safety is not certain. She might be sexually assaulted or something. 

Furthermore, fear becomes your friend while you start munching on skipping classes because of that lecturer and if you don't comply with them, you might fail their course or drop out of school. It's that terrible. Lecturer-to-student harassment still happens in schools though. I don't know and maybe, I may never understand the type of joy and feeling they derive from harassing students! 

Students who are harassed often feel depressed and anxious. They might be irritated or frustrated. They sometimes isolate themselves from people and often suffer aches. Most importantly, they are embarrassed and are always afraid of what is out there and who they would meet. It also might lead to suicide when unwanted and silly comments are used, especially, when the victims battle with low self-esteem. 

Harassment in schools is not normal and it shouldn't be seen as a way of deriving fun. It is wrong and an uncultured act! It's a way of promoting sexual violence because it's unruly. It does more harm than good to the society. It might eat up an individual's self-esteem or lead to depression  due to the impolite comments regarding their sex. It should be curbed in schools. 

Moreover, you are not to blame for being a victim. It's not your fault. You should report such act to a trusted person. 

 

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This story was submitted in response to International Widows' Day.

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Jill Langhus
Jun 26
Jun 26

Hi Latoria,

Thanks for spreading awareness about sexual harassment in schools. It is depressing and dehumanizing. I quite agree, but this harassment does happen to boys as well, unfortunately. It's just not as known. Either way, it does need to stop, in all realms.

Hope you're having a good day.

Lisbeth
Jun 26
Jun 26

So dehumanizing I agree totally with you Sis. Jill. I hope years to come our generation will never be affected by this. Thanks

Latoria
Jun 28
Jun 28

Hi, Lisbeth. We hope sexual harassment in the next generation would be mitigated if not eradicated.

Latoria
Jun 28
Jun 28

Hello, Jim. Yeah, you are right. Such harassment happens to both sexes in schools. It's not right because it violates the fundamental human right to dignity.

Jill Langhus
Jun 29
Jun 29

Hello dear,

Agreed:-(

Beth Lacey
Aug 12
Aug 12

Such a sad state of affairs in our time