woww... i'm very deeply touched by your story. For too long women, girls and even babies have been subject to violence. I wish I knew the answers to this and many other problems, but i don't. I di believe and hope that with the awakening of each voice we build that world, were we won't permit it to happen to us or others. Mothers won't stand by it, sisters won't keep secrets, grandmothers wont circumcise. Though we can't change what has happened to us, we can find growth and prevent this from happening to another.
I hope all you do help this and many other goals for women.
A million thanks my sister,you are all sources of hope for a better tomorrow
Thank you Leina,
your description was really touching and showed us once more the situation of domestic violence women and girls are still subject too. I think you are a very courageous woman because you speak out about it and you raise your voice and therefor the awareness of what is happening. You are a first step to make your country and the world a better place because you raise against the cliché. No matter what consequences it may have. You take the courage to accuse and to bring the truth to light.
This is a very important step you do. Thank you! You give voice to many women around the world who are not able, by various circumstances to speak for themselves.
What happened to you can't be made undone but your testimony is a light in the darkness and can prevent this to happen again and again, remaining unpunished through the shield build up by society (traditions, culture,...) and by governments. But this will change through you and every women accusing this situations. As long as we keep on talking about, this is going to change. And world will be a safer place for our children and for us.
You are a real hero.
Peace to you
Thank you Eliana,you inspire me
Leina, you and your sister are (s)heroic women! Thank you for sharing the painful reality of your life situation. May we through PulseWire help empower you, our sisters, in Cameroon. +++Merle
Your story is horrifying and saddening, yet an important reminder that domestic violence against women happens daily around the world.
I wish you the best of luck in building your Media Centre, and please do post any calls to action!
How can women in other countries help?
Thank you Pax Femina for your encouragement.I `d post a call for action,thanks for your advice.
I am sorry that this happened to you and your sister, and that the women of Cameroon (and many other places of the world) are still treated like property by a paternalistic, unjust, and outdated system. I hope that you continue raising your voice against this injustice and that you use your networks to bring awareness and change. Know that many women (and men!) around the world are behind you and your cause.
Though heartbreaking, your story reminds us that there's still a lot to be done for our sisters out there.
Stay strong, Leina. You are brave and beautiful and powerful. It's women like you - unafraid despite the beatings and the threats - who will change things for the better.
Hello Violetta,thanks for the encouragement
I'm glad you shared your personal story. Thanks so much. Personal stories are so powerful. By you sharing with us, you are making a positive impact and empowering women. You are so courageous.
I don't know much about Cameroon, but this is the second story I have read written by someone from Cameroon. I'm interested in learning more about your country. I will definitely do some research.
You inspire me :) Best of luck with everything.
Thanks Jenn for the encouragement.I will be glad to be of help to you in researching about Cameroon.
Here I am again as one of the listeners to congratulate you for fulfilling your assignment so bravelly! You are sure fiercefull to raise up after all that injustice and must be really hard for you to still see your sister in this condition. This Cameroon stand is not in the midia, I did not know about this condition there...Your midia center is a trully important tool to bring awareness to the world about what is happening there and to defend women from such suffering. Your text is flawless! I am overwhelmed by your story. I hope for a better tomorrow but I can only see this comming from the evolution of human beings from inside out...slowly slowly we will make a difference...first changing our selves, then our family, after our community and someday the world as a whole...We may not see it for ourselves, but we have to work on this direction in our daily life, spreeding around our values and preventing others from suffering what we´d suffered. I am glad to know that you are taking this stand! I am looking foward to reading your future text :-)
Dear Tallyberry, I am humbled by your remarks,and comforted to know someone somewhere gives an ear to my story and even shares my views,this is soothing! Kind Regards Leina
I am also very glad to know that you are out there making your part in building a better world :-) I wish I could do more in this direction too...
All the best,
Hello Tally, Just your listening ear and soothing words can do more than you imagine.You`d be surprised how many women have no opportunity to speak,talkless of someone to listen to them. Love Leina
Your story truly stands out,Leina.Is there anyway you think someone out here could be of help? Let me know,please.I would gladly help in anyway that can benefit other women and victims. If i may, what was the role played by:
1): Your husband. If i got this right, you were married and pregnant but didn't want your husband to know that your sister's husband had done this to you.Is there any reason you wanted to keep it from your husband who should be your protector and could possibly intervene to rescue your sister somehow? With your "... whole body filled with stripes dripping with blood.." , do you think the physician and your husband believed it was really a bike accident?
Was your husband aware of the miscarriage? If yes,don't you think it would have been helpful or at least,morally right to tell him the true cause?
2): Your parents. I know from experience with women from other countries/cultures that the mother will always raise an alarm once alerted.In some cases the woman's father would call the man for a talk.Did this happen in your sister's case? Or is it just a cultural differnce--the 'don't interfer' type?
3): Your sister's in-laws. I know in some cultures your in-laws are the best place to go. Did your sister try this option?
Have you ever thought of writing a book?
You are a brave woman.Keep the talk.
Thanks dear Keyonna, for taking interest in this.My husband is so much of a protector of women and children.I knew how violently he was going to react towards my sisters husband if he got to know about it immediately.Its not like I never told him,I told him some days later when I was in a calmer disposition to convince him not to react violently.He threatened to report him to the police,but my sister `s husband is a military person,Cameroon being what it is ,he would have used his influence and gotten himself free,so it was not worth the trouble.Given the limited amounts o words we had for the assignment,I had no time to narrate all these.My sister is not willing to tell anyone about this talkless of my parents,she is not happy in the marriage but believes her husband would one day change.That is the same mentality many victims of domestic violence,I liaise with have.A majority of them stick to abusive marriages because they lack the means to sustain themselves and their kids away from the marriage.Providing them with the opportunity to learn a trade or capital to carry out a petit business would be a faster solution to the problem.Convincing the government to take stringent measures against abusers is a long term process,as the issue o human rights is not a priority to the government.I strongly see a solution coming from the empowerment of women at the grassroots.I already have a common Initiative group working for the empowerment of Women.Unfortunately,due to lack of funding,activities have slowed down for sometime now.I am now working to expand it to a media center for Women as mentioned above.Please let me know of any fund raising ideas you have. Thanks
very elaborate. I'll get back to you.
Keep it coming!
Thanks for the encouragement Keyonna!