Celebration marks with "Cool feet"!

Lisbeth
Posted June 7, 2019

"God will take care of father's" says a radio presenter.

I laughed continually when this presenter passes above comments during his presentation. I was not surprised that this year's fathers day which falls on Sunday, will as usual receives a "cool feet" attention as it does previous years. As mother's day is always marked on every second Sunday of the month of May in our calendar, so also is every second Sunday in the month of June observed as Father's Day. However I  notices that father's day is always received with "cool feet" as compared mother's Day. This recently mother's days celebration I recalled clearly that before one month count down to the day, all our media channels were very busy with adverts, announcement, and raising awareness as to the day. Lots of interviews held for women's, and in actually fact a lots of preparations towards the day.

So also 16/06/19 June is father's day and I am yet to hear, see any single advert as regards to the day. Tomorrow's Saturday is the only day between father's day this Sunday yet no any single awareness being raised. I ask the question, Are father's this bad, that no body want to celebrate them?

Personally growing up I was never found of my father though, he was always there as a father figure. When he has the money he comes to my mother's aid with a support when necessary.

Always there "stamping" his feet on us to instill discipline in us etc. I remember high school days when we are asked to bring our father's for parent teacher meetings. When the meetings began we will hide and be peeping to see whose parent has come, and when I peep and see him sitting with his hut then I will be very happy he came. You know that feeling of belonging, you will also say to your classmate " my father has come, see see he is the one wearing the hut. Haha childhood is an interesting state to be. We all one way or the other have felt this way before. Even though some of them may seem "useless " to our existence, we are always glad they are there. The sense of belonging we long for when their names are mentioned in class. Especially my own, when ever he visits the school and upon leaving he will asked permission from the teacher to speak with me (her daughter). ;-)

At this state in life I realize he has done his best. Life is not easy as a man and hence I cannot blamed him for not being able to do something's right. Life setbacks, life anxieties, life challenges turns to make us invalid and no one should be blamed when things go wrong.

Today, as I write this about fathers day, I know a lots of you have similar stories to tell about your fathers, uncle's, and brothers that are not pleasurable to hear. But hey, they have done the best they could. When we put ourselves in their shoes then only we can realize how it is to be a father. 

Let's empathise with them on this occasion. Let them know you appreciate the little they have done for you. Let them know you are proud of them as a father with their little efforts. Mother's that are hurt by fathers please forgive them. To air is human, and to forgive is divine. Mistakes are bound to happen as sinful being, that is why we must forgive. Were you hurt like Jesus? I don't think so. Yet Christ died for us yet sinners. Who are we not to forgive one another? If we forgive our colleagues human so only is God also able to forgive us. Let put away(far away) every hurt done or committed by a father. Let hug them tiddly this Sunday looking into their eyes and tell them, Daddy, Father I love you so much for being there for us. 

In conclusion, I say God bless Fathers on this wonderful occasion. To my Daddy, you are late but I still remember all your intentional love for us, even though some never got implemented. God has seen and read your heart regards your plans for the family. I am very proud of bearing your name Salifu. We all from the family wishes you happy father's day wherever you are.

Advanced Happy Fathers Day to all Fathers.

 

 

 

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Jill Langhus
Jun 07
Jun 07

Hi Lisbeth,

Thanks for sharing your story and tribute about your father, and for wishing all the father's a nice Father's Day. I agree that we all need to be more compassionate beings practicing forgiveness.

Hope you're having a good Friday!

Lisbeth
Jun 07
Jun 07

Yeah, its very serious. A lots are currently holding on grudges with their Dad's and husband's because of failure in family responsibility.
I hope this article will help make peace within the family setting during this father's day occasion. I am doing very fine, thanks for checking on me. Take care and regards.

Jill Langhus
Jun 08
Jun 08

Yes.

Glad to hear it! You, too!

Hello, Sister Lisbeth,

I love that you are posting about Father's Day! In the Philippines, we celebrate it every third month of June, while Mother's day is every second month of May. I'm sorry to hear about your father, but I am happy that you decided to understand why he was that way.

As for me, I have good experiences with my father. I just hope he was able to protect us from our mother's abusive behavior towards us. Growing up, my siblings and I were more fond of our father because he acts like our mother. He was the one preparing our breakfast, going to the market to buy food, washing clothes, and more household chores. Perhaps it was because of guilt that he lost his job, and could no longer find an income.

I agree that as adults, we can show empathy to our parents. I've been forgiving them as long as I can remember. Thanks for the call for forgiveness for our fathers. Hope you have a great day!

Lisbeth
Jun 07
Jun 07

Like seriously haha. This is just the exact opposite of my upbringing. So your mother was rather the "abusive" partner in the family wow
Mine is just the complete opposite. I was never found of my him at all. I was the mother's daughter, whilst my father was so found of me. I saw most of our parenting push to my mother instead of my Dad. He was never at home and I am sure he never knew to cook. He does always his best to put money on the table for my mother to make best use of it.
What an experience you had. Your father was rather doing all these. He must be a very humble man. Is he still alive? You should be very proud of him, I am already haha. Honestly I admired men who takes on women responsibilities. Thanks for sharing this your humble dad's experience, it made my day. Take care

Hello, Lisbeth,

Thank you for appreciating my father. Yes, he is still alive, and is still doing those things to serve my mother. She is somehow authoritative and she is feared by all. But thank God she is beginning to recognize her mistakes and is trying to change now.

I have written an essay about my father and was published in our local newspaper. Hmm. You gave me an idea. I should post a copy of it on World Pulse during Father’s day in our country.

Yup, ours is completely opposite on what I read here. Almost every woman loved their mothers here. I just have a different rather traumatic experience with mine.

Hope you have a great day!

Lisbeth
Jun 11
Jun 11

Yes you should published it, and I think now. I can't wait to read about him. After all its just a week ahead. I thought this day is also a global celebration, am not aware if it differs from country to country?
Regards dear

Hello, Lizzy,

I am still looking for a soft copy of it. But will do. In the Philippines, we celebrate Father’s Day every third Sunday of June. I'm not sure when’s the global celebration. Yes, I’m sure. Our pastor just told us to bring our fathers and husbands next sunday to celebrate them.
It differs from some countries I guess.

Hugs

Lisbeth
Jun 11
Jun 11

Haha! I think its celebrated globally and also the third week of June every year. So 16/06/19 Sunday is father's day. Thanks for the reminder. I hope you are doing very well!
Warm regards

Hello, Lizzy, How's the celebration of Father's day there? Yes, ours will be this Sunday. You're welcome. I am doing well; hope you are, too!

Lisbeth
Jun 14
Jun 14

Oh its same cool feet here. But since is this Sunday 16/06/19 maybe this weekend will be busy with activities. I wish you enjoy your father's day with your family.

Hahaha. Oh ok. Too bad for the dads there. Thank you. We will have a simple celebration this Sunday for my husband. But for my father, he is miles away. We can greet him via phone call. Thanks again!

Lisbeth
Jun 14
Jun 14

Hahaha :-)! Oh that seems "cossy" I suppose. Yeah a video or voice call will do. Take care

I agree. Thank you, sis. :)

Jun 11
Jun 11
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Asherah
Jun 07
Jun 07

Very true Lisbeth! I have been married for 25 yrs. My husband is a great provider for our family and for that I will be forever thankful. I think most men feel as though they must be the "disciplinarians" in the family, when in actuality that can be a shared responsibility between mother and father, and as for myself, while my children have had to be disciplined on rare occasions, I have found that talking about the situation/problem to be WAY more affective/effective with my children than any form of violent discipline. Children understand a lot more than we give them credit. And a key part of being a parent is respecting your children and in the process they will respect you as well. Happy Father's Day!

Lisbeth
Jun 07
Jun 07

Wow, this is a long time experience you got there? Yes, most Fathers are very disciplinarian. My father was one, even though our mother was always the closer with us we most of the time do not fear her discipline. However, immediately our father speaks then we adhere to his authority. So I think to some extend its okay with them in such quality. But they should never over do it so it turns out as an abuse.
I am happy to hear you applying my post to your family. Thanks for listening to me. I hope you have a great day and take care.

Mikaela Kate
Jun 07
Jun 07

Dear Lizzy, This is such a poignant and truthful account of how daughters feel towards, Father. To write honestly and with as much passion, to forgive and wish well, is a healing that goes deep and grows a powerful woman. Thank you for reminding me to think kind thoughts towards my childrens father, this weekend (and always) and remember the good.
Love, Auntkate

Lisbeth
Jun 07
Jun 07

Hi Aunty Kate,.
I hope you are doing very well? I am doing fine here thanks. I am very glad to hear you have a personal application as regards my post. I believe it is for a reasons that families are created, hence whether it turns sweet or sour that blame must be equally shared.
The point always is that because father's are the head of the family, most likely the challenges might be push to them alone. In this case they will always look as the bad nuts. Yes it has happened so what next, all that is left is to forgive. I hope am not getting very sensitive haha. Thanks for your nice comment. Hope you have a great day.
Hugs

Wala Lut
Jun 09
Jun 09

That is nice article Lisbeth..

Lisbeth
Jun 09
Jun 09

Thanks for taking time to read through. I hope you are doing very well? Take care