"God will take care of father's" says a radio presenter.
I laughed continually when this presenter passes above comments during his presentation. I was not surprised that this year's fathers day which falls on Sunday, will as usual receives a "cool feet" attention as it does previous years. As mother's day is always marked on every second Sunday of the month of May in our calendar, so also is every second Sunday in the month of June observed as Father's Day. However I notices that father's day is always received with "cool feet" as compared mother's Day. This recently mother's days celebration I recalled clearly that before one month count down to the day, all our media channels were very busy with adverts, announcement, and raising awareness as to the day. Lots of interviews held for women's, and in actually fact a lots of preparations towards the day.
So also 16/06/19 June is father's day and I am yet to hear, see any single advert as regards to the day. Tomorrow's Saturday is the only day between father's day this Sunday yet no any single awareness being raised. I ask the question, Are father's this bad, that no body want to celebrate them?
Personally growing up I was never found of my father though, he was always there as a father figure. When he has the money he comes to my mother's aid with a support when necessary.
Always there "stamping" his feet on us to instill discipline in us etc. I remember high school days when we are asked to bring our father's for parent teacher meetings. When the meetings began we will hide and be peeping to see whose parent has come, and when I peep and see him sitting with his hut then I will be very happy he came. You know that feeling of belonging, you will also say to your classmate " my father has come, see see he is the one wearing the hut. Haha childhood is an interesting state to be. We all one way or the other have felt this way before. Even though some of them may seem "useless " to our existence, we are always glad they are there. The sense of belonging we long for when their names are mentioned in class. Especially my own, when ever he visits the school and upon leaving he will asked permission from the teacher to speak with me (her daughter). ;-)
At this state in life I realize he has done his best. Life is not easy as a man and hence I cannot blamed him for not being able to do something's right. Life setbacks, life anxieties, life challenges turns to make us invalid and no one should be blamed when things go wrong.
Today, as I write this about fathers day, I know a lots of you have similar stories to tell about your fathers, uncle's, and brothers that are not pleasurable to hear. But hey, they have done the best they could. When we put ourselves in their shoes then only we can realize how it is to be a father.
Let's empathise with them on this occasion. Let them know you appreciate the little they have done for you. Let them know you are proud of them as a father with their little efforts. Mother's that are hurt by fathers please forgive them. To air is human, and to forgive is divine. Mistakes are bound to happen as sinful being, that is why we must forgive. Were you hurt like Jesus? I don't think so. Yet Christ died for us yet sinners. Who are we not to forgive one another? If we forgive our colleagues human so only is God also able to forgive us. Let put away(far away) every hurt done or committed by a father. Let hug them tiddly this Sunday looking into their eyes and tell them, Daddy, Father I love you so much for being there for us.
In conclusion, I say God bless Fathers on this wonderful occasion. To my Daddy, you are late but I still remember all your intentional love for us, even though some never got implemented. God has seen and read your heart regards your plans for the family. I am very proud of bearing your name Salifu. We all from the family wishes you happy father's day wherever you are.
Advanced Happy Fathers Day to all Fathers.