The Girl in Me!

Lisbeth
Posted September 17, 2019

 Had it been today, I will have loved to be a different person than who I have become of today. That person I admire, that person who I will love to be molded around and be like in the future.

My upbringing was very controversial, looking back I will have loved to undo the past. Born in the set up of an extended family, my dad was made to forcefully  married  one of his elderly brother  wife as custom demands after his brother's death. Our family became huge. Five kids from the the other woman and three from my mother with me been the elderly kid with a disability.

You can imagine the chaos that might come along with such families. It was not easy economically and emotionally for me. All others kids were made to come first before me. Towards the 80ties to the 90ties it was not easy for a handicap kid to easily be integrated  into society. We were not accepted then as it is today. They rather believe its a curse womb who carried us. It becomes mother and daughter stigma. The man/father is never at fault.

They also  had wrong impression that always physically infirm also means intellectually infirm for the handicap kid. With all these going on,I became timid yet conscious, observant and  Curious about my surroundings. A step at a time.

Later in the ground school my teacher also became observant of me and my good performances in her class, she finally reported this to my mother. My mother was an illiterate so I never showed her my terminal school reports to her. I exclaimed! when my mother got to find out about my good grades in class I began getting all the attentions in the world, it went as far as outside the house. I was a good kid growing up. Obedient, respectful, hardworking even with my limitations. 

This is where I will have loved to undone things. Its sad to say that I regretted being always the good one. I have missed a lots of opportunities been a good kid. Also I have learnt this my years that its okay to make yourself dirty. Its okay for the white t.shirt to become brown. Society never respect good behavior.

They rather think you are the stupid one. I waited my over 30 years listening to people to define me and my faith. I never took risks! Today, I am making that change now. And you must, parent or a girl you have the right to make your kid and yourself. Take all the risks and stand firm with any goals you set before you. Do not let anybody decides for you. You only knows what is best and that which will benefit you. Remember If you win they will come around and if you lost they will walk away. Why let them be your faith. However, make sure of one thing! That is be firm in your faith, knowing and being convince what you do, will yield the needed results for you. I am saying" had I known is always at last" Please Dont say similar in years to come. Be courageous and have Faith whilst taking those risky steps.

I have chopped some success after the brouhaha :-). To me success is a matter of inner peace. Not the big luxury cars and houses but the efforts one makes every day to put a smile on others faces. After my tertiary education in Denmark I returned home so I can be of help to others like me. Currently, I am an initiator/ CEO of TIME Foundation Ghana. We are currently a non governmental organization (NGO) that is into the empowerment of only young teen mothers financially. We give equitable goods to these teen mother's as a start up capital.

Rather than giving them physical money which can be easily distorted. After a year of work with our goods, they return the capital to TIME Foundation to be use to recruit new members.

Please currently we are seeking partners to collaborate with us. Partners can contribute financially or goods wide. You  can be an organization or an individual partner. Kindly inbox me here if you want to come on board.

Hugs to you All!

Lizzy

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Anita Shrestha
Sep 17
Sep 17

Dear Lisbeth
Thank you for sharing and encouragement voice from you.

Lisbeth
Sep 17
Sep 17

Thanks dear Anita. Sadly I was not done with it when you read through. Please if you got time try and go over, especially the later parts. Thanks for reading through and I hope you are having a great day.
Warm regards

Anita Shrestha
Sep 17
Sep 17

Dear Lisbeth
I would like to express my thank to success for your organization. I hope you will get success in this step. D

Lisbeth
Sep 17
Sep 17

I definitely will, success is never giving up your hopes and dreams. I am not giving up on them. Thanks for the concern.
Regards

ANJ ANA
Sep 17
Sep 17

My dear Lizzy,
Let me congratulate you first for being so brave, initiative and working for others. No one and nothing can stop, when a girl determines to do something and from the inner strength, and you proved it already while you were a student despite your limitations. You are absolutely right, success depends upon how you take it, in my case also, its so much satisfying to see another person's smile and make her comfortable. So my friend, Take a risk, you will get an awesome result, if not result, for sure a lesson and we can always learn and improve from the experience.
Keep shining and inspiring my dear,
love and regards,
anjana

Lisbeth
Sep 18
Sep 18

Dear Anjana,
It's good to hear that you related well to my definition of a successful person. We on board haha. Thanks very much for sharing these your nice encouraging comments with me.
I appreciate it a lot.
Hope you are having a good day...!
Regards

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Lisbeth,

How are you doing, dear? Thanks for sharing more of your background story. It does indeed sound challenging, but you know what? I firmly believe that we all signed up for the certain people, lessons, country, places that we do. I say this because you wouldn't have signed up for all of it if you couldn't handle it, and also that there are certain lessons that need to be learned from all of it. They all shaped who you are today. There are no mistakes, and there's no need to have regrets. You are doing exactly what you need to be doing now, and you are in control of what you do and who you in contact with in your tribe. You have claimed your power back and you know who you are. Be proud, dear. Life is a journey and you are doing what you need to do and your are where you need to be. Who you described is part of who you are. There is no shame in that:-)

Hope you have a great, rest of the week!

XX

Lisbeth
Sep 18
Sep 18

My dear Jill,
I am glad to receive your comment this day. Thanks for the encouragement. Yes I agreed that where we are now is the efforts we put in place to attain it, and I am proud of that.
However, it is okay to have set back. Something that makes you to always want to be a better person than you are currently. These are the risks I referred to. Some things that you have missed and wanted to attained it.
Regrets for sure will be with since we humans and make mistakes in our decision taking, however there are the lesson learnt.
I am doing well and hope you are too? Have a great day!

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hi there:-)

You're welcome! Good to hear!

Yes, that's true about failure, in general, that it can motivate us to start anew, if that's what you mean. I see.

Great to hear. Yes, I'm doing well, thanks.

Thank you, and you too!

Lisbeth
Sep 18
Sep 18

Absolutely dear, opportunity that you have missed and wish if you had known you will do the opposite but then it's too late. These become regrets, and the same time it's becomes future lesson to effect correction when you get another chance. Yes you got me now :-).
Xx

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

:-)

Spiritedsoul
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hi Lizzie,
I love your attitude, and your strength, and standing in your identity, you have owned all of yourself and your attitudes. I am proud of you.
Hugs,
And look forward to your next post! Jess.

Lisbeth
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hi dear,
Thanks very much for this nice encouragement comment. Honestly, you have made my day. I am very glad that my post or story has touched you. This is all about world pulse.
Hope you are having a good day.
Warm regards

cbittok
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hi Lisbeth.
I appreciate what you are doing with teen mothers. Most of the time the society judges them harshly and one really looks out for them. I agree with you, that success is how you make others feel.
Thanks for sharing

Lisbeth
Sep 18
Sep 18

Yeah I know very well. I am speaking from experience. My younger sister is a victim. Currently with two young girls.
First we do not know the Dad up to date.
At least the second got a Dad haha. It moved me to initiate this project. We suffered with her and the first girl. We nearly lost them both but tanks to God they made it. So you see I got a root haha. Thanks for your encouraging comment.
Have a great day.

Nakinti
Sep 18
Sep 18

Dear Liz,

You have come a long way. You are a strong woman. Continue to empower women and girls -- no one should be left behind.

Sending you love
NN

Lisbeth
Sep 19
Sep 19

I received your love. Thanks very much for reading through and coming out with this wonderful comment.
I appreciate it. Hope you are having a good day.
Regards

Hello, dear Lizzy,

This resonates with me so much, " I waited my over 30 years listening to people to define me and my faith". I've allowed other people to make decisions with my life until I was completely lost of who I really am. You are such a strong, resilient, courageous woman. A true warrior!

I agree with this, " To me success is a matter of inner peace". One can be wealthy but have no peace. Congratulations to finally taking control over your life, and for choosing to help young teen mothers. You are a successful woman today. With that, I commend you for standing strong, for rising above the ashes, for making a difference, and also, for committing to encourage our sisters as much as you can. You are a success!

Hugs, dear! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story.

Lisbeth
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hi dear Karen,
You are most welcome. I am very glad my story resonates with yours, how interesting.

Yes, it's my dream to put a smile on others and I hope and pray for God to help me accomplished this dream.

Such an amazing encouraging comment from you. That's is why I always want to hear from you.
Hope you are having a good day.

Yes, it does, dear. I consider myself a latebloomer. But who says we’re late? We’re just in the perfect moment. :)

That’s a sincere and beautiful dream, dear. You are God’s extension of Love.

Ohh. Thank you, dear. It’s the message from my heart to yours always. Hugs.

Yes, I’m having a great day. I’m travelling as I reply to comments.:)

Lisbeth
Sep 20
Sep 20

So amazing, enjoy your trip and save returns.
Take care of yourself.
Kind regards

Olutosin
Sep 19
Sep 19

I love your decision......today I am making that change..... go ahead, soar higher my seestar.

Lisbeth
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thank you my seestar :-).
Go ahead and effect it. No shaking! Hope you have a great day.

Tarke Edith
Sep 20
Sep 20

Hello Lisbeth
Thank God you are here. And can share your story .it will go a long way to help your situation.

Tarke Edith
Sep 20
Sep 20

Hello Lisbeth
Thank God you are here. And can share your story .it will go a long way to help your situation.

Lisbeth
Sep 20
Sep 20

My dear so very true. Without World pulse where will we be and who will hear us?
Thanks for that alert.
Have a great weekend.
Regards

Sep 20
Sep 20
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Juliet Acom
Sep 23
Sep 23

Hi Lizzy,

Your story had me tearing! You are such a courageous woman. I am inspired by how you have broken cultural barriers and stereotypes for girls living with disability. You are a true heroine.

God bless you.

Lisbeth
Sep 23
Sep 23

Dear Juliet,
Ooh sorry I made you cry. This is the sad realities in our societies. There are for real.
Thanks for the encouragement. Have a great Monday.
Regards

Marie Abanga
Sep 24
Sep 24

Wow Lizzy,

What a soul and full of purpose write up. I salute you, I have never thought physical disability means anything to disregard someone over. But sadly, yes, our society in general has been so discriminating and stigmatizing for years - the trauma even leads to mental health challenges - and yes they will be the first to laugh. I am therefore proud of you for making that radical paradigm shift to be you - no longer craving to be 'the good girl' at your own soul expense.
Here is to us the daring to be themselves girl.
All the best with your foundation darling

Lisbeth
Sep 24
Sep 24

Dear Marie,
You are such this amazing encourager :-). Thanks very much the comment. I really appreciated your side of view on it.
I will do all I can to make it firm. Have a great day.
Kind regards

HusnaMurad
Sep 25
Sep 25

The girl in you is a blessing of God !
Love & light on the way, Husna

Lisbeth
Sep 26
Sep 26

Thank you my dear :-)

Kadi_lokule
Sep 27
Sep 27

Yours story has made me imagine what you went through - it must have been a tumbling of emotions for you. I am glad you took a stand to do what makes you happy. Pleasing people is an African thing - we are always raised to be accomodating of anything negative. You have become an example of perserverance and personal development in your community - those years were tough years. I salute you for your strength and courage. May God bless you richly.

Lisbeth
Sep 27
Sep 27

My dearest Kadi, thanks very much for these nice uplifting comment. Yes for sure I will be upright hence of haha.
Warm regards