The future In The Past

Lisbeth
Posted November 4, 2018
Story telling
Kids before/kids now
Kids before/kids now (1/1)

It was a very happy family, made up of the Dad, the Mum and their three girls. Sometimes the extended families plays a vital role in this family, I mean the grandfather, grandmother, aunt's, Uncle's and the Cousins. They are not all that a rich family, however their parents are very content with their possession. They were trained by their parents to seek good name than riches. With the family farm, cattle's, and a local small mugs house the family got everything. Every morning he wake up and after eating his local breakfast our father heads to the farm. He mostly wears a sun hut to prevent the scorching sun burnt on him, he also carries a hoe  on the shoulder, in addition to a cutlass for the farm works. As he step out of the gate his pet will run after him. He is called"Do Good", I mean the name of our dog. Do Good was my best friend and stills remains in the heart. When its evenings hours Do Good is always the first to return home. When Do Good returns 4:30pm, then we are certain the time our Dad will arrived . How so lovely they worked in unity :-), and I tell you they loved their routine everyday. Our Dad definitely will have loved to have his own mentee in a form of a son but he can't change the future.

We are all girls, our mother apart from working in the farm is also a petty trader. She retails second hands cloths popularly known as (Obroni wa WO). Obroni wa WO means the whiteman has died. I never get the meaning as very clear as I got it today. Due to the death of the "whiteman" his/her cloths could be used by the blacks how funny. Every local market day she goes to the market to sell her "Obroni wa WO". As a kid I saw a lots of joy in my mother face, she always the smiling type, with a lots of humour. Today, I relate my humour with hers. She never likes pampering us no matter our circumstances, she always trained us by Godly principles. She tells us to be honest, respectful, hard working, show obedience, humility was her backbone quality.  I remember our schooling times after our baths and we have dressed, we all will share a morning meal in one big bowl, actually its all with any meal. No body gets her own bowl of meal in front of her. It was believed its a symbol of unity eating from one bowl. Today civilization has erase such a nice culture of eating together its retarded, how quick tradition can easily fades away. They was total respect in the family, as kids we all have limits in our roles and responsibility. No body override the other roles, our roles were shares according to our strength and talents. While others are responsible for washing plates, others are for fetching water, sweeping the compound, or gathering firewood etc. When we grew into teenage hood, each was trained to take up the cooking skills, until now we still take that turns in cooking when together. This ensures nobody lazy's about. We did not have a brother this makes things a little easier for us. Our biggest challenge's had a little to do with a three square nutritious meal, since our parents were not well off to do, we eat what is served.

Another prestigious culture that has also faded away recently is our story telling culture. When we were kids, always after our evening meals our parents and other extended family members, tells us stories. Due to my interest in such stories I never joke with my early shower(bath) so as not to missed any single lines. I was actually the curious, inquisitive type, always listening and asking questions like why, why? My every answer ends with why? As an adult today I realized how much care I got then because right now honestly I never like answering questions hmmm. :-(

We all sits in circles in the moonlight as it sparkling. Now because of technology we hardly appreciate the moon and the stars now a days. The other day I tried to look in the sky in the night whiles the moon was sparkling but I saw nothing as we used to see when we were kids. The electricity all over has darkened the skies. Again TV, and cinemas has replace story telling in Africa. Worst yet these video games and the smart phones.

Our dressing then was not the expensive type but was decent. As kids we only tides a cloth on out neck that covers our body, with our under pants we are ready to go anywhere. We only changed these cloth when we going to school into our uniforms. And with mother's Obroni wa wo business we got a lots of second hands cloths ;-). In this our modern day a parents dares tide such cloth on the kids, Society will tag them names and even the kids will never accept such cloths.

Our foods then was not expensive but was healthy. Then the farm products never got chemicals like fertilizers today. I remember in our days we got what was called manure as our fertilizer. That was the decompose faeces of the castles. When the raining seasons sets in and before sowing, these manures are spread on every single farm. They were the best harvests we ever got, when the fertilizers set in oh mine, our farm  yield was never the same and is still up to date. Some argue it was due to the land tenure system and that the soil has lost its texture because of excessive farming. Well, agricultural except might have the right reasons.

We then drunk from the Wells, a ground borehole like water. These waters was never contaminated as we have today. I say this because as kids we hardly felt sick like today's kids. Even with the bottle waters, and the dispensers able waters, today is my stomach, tomorrow my head aches they are always in the hospitals etc. 

In a summary, my point is  even as technology and civilization has great impacts today in our lives, our traditions and culture is prestigious and must be safe guarded. When the two are blended it gives us a very rich culture.

Lest I forget, again at my childhood kids were not to pass by an elderly without greeting him or her. Its was a sign of arrogance and disrespect. If the elder had a load it was mandatory for the young energetic youth to give a helping hand and carry the load to the destination of the elder. Ooh today, you thank your stars when they even by pass and greet you. 

Today, as I reflected on my childhood I told my self this is actually a Future in the past. It was very beautiful hence has past, but how can I retain it in the future? Lets all try to retain our future in the past.

 

This story was submitted in response to #DayOfTheGirl.

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Jill Langhus
Nov 05, 2018
Nov 05, 2018

Hi Lizzy,

Thanks for sharing all the lovely customs that grew up with. Your post is a lovely snapshot of what your family life was like. I agree that it's sad that these customs no longer exist. Perhaps some of them will return. I think it's never too late to be respectful to everyone, for a start. I always thought it was a nice gesture to be respectful to elder people. I don't think they just deserve it because they're older, though:-) Some can be cantankerous.

Good luck with your story submission, dear.

Hope you have a great day!

Lisbeth
Nov 07, 2018
Nov 07, 2018

Hi sis. Jill,
Haha I also agree that a lots of the elderly in our today's generation are cantankerous ;-) .

I like your sense of humor too ;-)

Regards
Lisbeth

Jill Langhus
Nov 07, 2018
Nov 07, 2018

I'm glad, because I've got more of it to give...ha:-)

Hope you're doing well, dear!

Olutosin
Nov 05, 2018
Nov 05, 2018

Its the same here too.
Africa is one. May we be able to transfer our best practices to the next generation. Amen

Lisbeth
Nov 07, 2018
Nov 07, 2018

Thanks sis. Olutosin :-) yes I agree in the preservation of our rich culture ;-)

Regards
Lisbeth

Beth Lacey
Mar 10
Mar 10

How lovely. Understanding the culture of the past lets us make smarter decisions in the future.

Lisbeth
Apr 11
Apr 11

Thanks very much. I actually hope so, that our past gives us more insides to decide wisely in the future.

leila Kigha
Apr 29
Apr 29

I am for the preservation of good and sane sultural practices. Not all of them are bad. Our children really need these values.
Respect is one of them

Lisbeth
Apr 29
Apr 29

Thank you Leila, respect t is so very important I agree for sure.
Regards