Mother's Day

loretta
Posted May 12, 2013 from South Africa

This was written by our Parish Priest Fr Bruce Botha, and I would like to share with you:

Happy Mother's Day to all of our Parish mothers. I hope that today your husbands and chlldren will spoil you terribly. I think it's only fair because so often it seems as though the other 364 days are all men's days.

It is good that we celebrate these significant women in our lives, but I hope it also encourages us to reflect on how women are treated in general in our community or society. I am sure you have heard some of the proposals to reduce the number of public holidays in South Africa. One group has suggested we do away with Women's Day because women in South Africa don't have much reason to celebrate.

All too often it is they who are left holding the baby when the man has had his fun. All too often it is the grandmothers of our community who have to look after their grandchildren. It is women who bear the disproportionate burden of harassment, sexual violence, rape and domestic abuse.

Maybe they are right in saying that women don't have much to celebrate, but while that may be true today it is not necessarily true for tomorrow. Tomorrow is what we make it, so if we can be committed to a society of respect and justice, then every day could be a Women's Day or Mother's Day or Father's Day or Children's Day or just plain old People's Day.

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Try
May 13, 2013
May 13, 2013

Hi Loretta,

I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed your piece/article. I was surprised, and encouraged, to see a man, a priest, speak like that about women. I firmly believe that if women are to have equal rights, MEN need to be a part of the process. And Father Bruce deserves a big thanks for what he said. I am sure he lives his life with this belief and makes a difference to men and women in your community.

I hope when you see him you will tell him, Wendy, who lives in Chicago where President Obama lives, wants to say "Thank you for opening the door to change for women through his courageous and powerful voice."

Ubuntu (I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

loretta
May 13, 2013
May 13, 2013

That is the reason why I shared with you people on World Pulse, I also felt it was a powerful piece and deserved to be shared with Women Advocates.

I certainly would forward your response, true MEN have to come to the party, for WOMEN to gain the respect they deserve.

Keep well Wendy, and keep your up your work. I am just starting my NPO, so I will certainly need some tips and pointers.

God bless you.

Try
May 13, 2013
May 13, 2013

Thanks, Loretta,

I'm always here for you in any way I can help.

Ubuntu,

WENDY

I agree with you Loretta. Men have to come to the party. BUT I believe we have to reach them in a different way than we reach women. That is the key. We have to connect with what matters to them. For example, their ego, their fear of losing control. So many things. So, we really really havfe to understand them first, I believe, in order to go at them in a way that makes sense to them. And that is the key I believe, In a way that makes sense for THEM to change. That is the challenge.

Keep in touch, dear friend.

Wendy

loretta
May 14, 2013
May 14, 2013

You have got it right Wendy. Will keep in touch.

Bint Zahra
May 13, 2013
May 13, 2013

Thank you Loretta for sharing this piece with us. This is what a true man is all about. A real man is one who realizes woman are the backbone of the society, and to stand up for women's rights is a privilege only few men enjoy. Most of them think feminine movement is a threat to their existence but not this man. And him being a leader among the society, a religious leader only makes the message more powerful. I liked it. Love Deqa

loretta
May 14, 2013
May 14, 2013

That's so true, this is the motivation we need to pick up from and move forward.

Thanks dear friend :)