Reflecting on the past to visualize the future

Loyce
Posted September 30, 2011 from Uganda

Sometimes I consider myself lucky and unlucky at the same time. why? because I was born with one biological brother and tragedy fell in 1994 and he died so suddenly. This left me with no biological brother or sister. The death of my brother was a huge blow to my family because as boy all hopes were in him and he was seen as the next head of the family. Growing up as a girl in a community that values boys was a very big challenge for me and on the other hand a reminder that I have to challenge what is commonly taken as ‘normal’ that the destiny of the girl child is to get married and produce children only. Despite this, my father managed to educate me with the support of my mother.

Nevertheless, I was determined to work hard, struggle and endeavor to become some body because I had seen some Uganda women who inspired me like Winnie Byanyima, who is the Director, Gender Team, Bureau for Development Policy, UNDP, Hon. Miria Matembe, former Minister for Ethics and Integrity in the Ugandan Government and a re-knowned women’s rights activist.

This confirmed to me that being female doesn’t mean that I cannot become an influential person in society. I made sure that I studied and my efforts paid off. I was the female best candidate in my district for the Uganda Advanced Level Certificate in Education and I got a government sponsorship for my degree.

Immediately after my course at University, I got an opportunity to work with a women’s rights organization. Working with a women’s organization has been more than just an employment because it has opened my eyes wider and sharpened my understanding of women’s status in the society. I realized that actually, the female gender world over is marginalized, dominated, discriminated, exploited, isolated and violated.

Despite, all the challenges that women face, these women have shown commitment, perseverance and loving to their families and communities at large. Women are very creative and quick thinkers, in most cases they spend sleepless nights planning for how to sustain their families, finding food for their children and are always hopeful to achieve better. It is regrettable that all their efforts are not recognized anywhere.

I believe that with collective efforts and little by little, women and girls have the potential to turn everything upside down and change the status quo and enjoy life in its fullness free from violence, discrimination, exploitation just to mention a few.

My personal vision is known as some one who impacted on every person and most especially women and girls that I had the pleasure of meeting and interacting with in a positive way; by inspiring them to dare to make their life better, enjoyable and meaningful. By doing this, I hope to see an informed society that values and respects women’s rights in order to realize their capabilities and potential.

Becoming a women’s rights activist, is a dream come true of touching and changing the lives of women and girls. I remember when I was growing up as very young girl, I would give out some of our food items to women and girls who looked needy in the village and some times my Dad would beat me and indeed, in my adult life, I have done what is in my reach to put a smile on the faces of women I have interacted.

I am therefore confident that becoming Voices of our Correspondent will be timely and will open new windows of opportunities and skills in my life as women’s rights activist. I have already connected with great and wonderful sisters from a cross the world who are also passionate about women’s rights and I have learnt a lot of ideas and experiences from them.

I am also very hopeful that this offer is going to build my capacity to become a professional multi media communicator, a writer and a journalist for women’s stories, a skill I have been lacking and yeaning for.

Voices of Our Future Application: Your Vision

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Usha K.C.
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

your article represents also my community's value that's the giving priority to Son . Here too daughter are taken as valuelesss jsut for producing childern,means of joy, as unpaid helper.

By the way,I do admire your courage,your thought and your vision to change. keep it up dear.

Loyce
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

Dear Usha,

Thank you for your nice comment my sister! We have to beat all odds and to prove to society that a girl is a good or even better than a boy child. The struggle continues!

Warm regards from my country Uganda, the Pearl of Africa

Adepeju (Mabadeje)
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

Thank you for standing up for the women in your community. Examples of your challenges and how you rose above them should inspire other women. All the best dear.

Loyce
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

Its been a long journey full of joy and sorrow at the same time but at the end of it all WE ARE THE WINNERS! Thank you too my sister for encouraging me. Loyce

Stella Paul
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

Dear loyce

I wish a place in the top 30. I really hope you get chosen. But I also want to say that even if you don't win, you will always stay a winner. Every woman here is a winner. Because to reach this stage, everyone has already put behind a bad past and moved towards the future. That is the sign of a winner. And I know you will keep doing great. My best wishes are with you.

Loyce
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

Sweetheart Stella,

Thank you soooo much for the best wishes, I pray that your wish comes true and I agree with you entirely that we are all winners. Going through this application process is a life time experience for me. I must say that I have gained a lot of experience and now, I feel very confident, very strong and energized.

Let us keep us this momentum even after this process has ended. Let us all continue to collaborate with one another.

With lots of love

Loyce

Ify Onyegbule
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

This is a wonderful piece and i wish you the best in the struggle to be the light for women in your community!

Loyce
Sep 30, 2011
Sep 30, 2011

My dear Ify,

Thank you for your encouragement. I cant describe the joy I feel when I receive such compliments from sister like you. Let us kill up a strong fight and we will all win.

Best regards

Loyce

Rumbidzai Dube
Oct 01, 2011
Oct 01, 2011

You have already risen above society's expectations of you as a girl-child and I believe being the voice for those who have not yet risen to where you are is a wonderful opportunity. I wish you all the best in that and as Stella said even in the event that you dont get chosen, this network of women with a like mind that Pulsewire has created will always be there to support your work going forward. Best,

MaDube

Loyce
Oct 02, 2011
Oct 02, 2011

My sista,

We are more than conquerors. This application process has been a wonderful experience for me and I am not looking back. I wish you the best too!

Warms Rgds

Loyce

Okeny-Lucia
Oct 01, 2011
Oct 01, 2011

Hey dear neighbour you have made it.You are already a citizen journalist the rest is formality.Thank and I wish you well. Your article is informative as well as inspiring. Regards

Okeny-Lucia
Oct 01, 2011
Oct 01, 2011

Hey dear neighbour you have made it.You are already a citizen journalist the rest is formality.Thank and I wish you well. Your article is informative as well as inspiring. Regards

Loyce
Oct 02, 2011
Oct 02, 2011

My dear Lucia, I agree with you I am already a citizen journalist! This application process has been a wonderful experience and I would like to thank World Pulse for the creative recruitment process. I enjoyed it and it kept us on our toes.

Loyce

Joya Comeaux
Oct 04, 2011
Oct 04, 2011

Wow,

Your voice can really tell the truth and give courage and hope to others.

All the best, joya

Loyce
Oct 09, 2011
Oct 09, 2011

Dear Joya,

Thank you for your kind words. I also feel encouraged when I read your comments.

Loyce

Myrthe
Oct 06, 2011
Oct 06, 2011

Thank you for sharing your story and your ideas! I think you already are a great example to women and girls around you! I wish you good luck continuing to grow and develop yourself and become even more of a leader and an example than you already are. I hope that no matter what, you will use your place here at World Pulse to continue sharing your thoughts and your stories.

Loyce
Oct 09, 2011
Oct 09, 2011

Dear Myrthe,

It is through sharing our stories that we transform others. Thank you for encouraging me and I fell honored and blessed. I will continue sharing and even working harder no matter what happens. This process has also sharpened my saw to do more greater things.

Lots of love

Loyce

Sally
Oct 06, 2011
Oct 06, 2011

I am first sorry to hear about your brother. I think that it is great that your family supported you and your education and what you have done with that is amazing! You truly are an inspiration to women all over the world and I think what you are doing is fantastic. I wish you the very best in all everything you do!!

Thanks again,

Sally Smith

Loyce
Oct 09, 2011
Oct 09, 2011

My dear Sally,

Yes, I am grateful to my parents for bringing me up and supporting me all through despite what society believes. By the way, My mother always tell me of how she missed out on good education because she was a girl. She was very bright and her Dad never gave her that chance. Thats why she fought so hard for me to make sure that I attain the highest level of education.

Love

Loyce

ccontreras
Oct 09, 2011
Oct 09, 2011

I really enjoyed reading your post, you gave me a visual of what your life has been and how far you have come. I really admire your efforts as a women's activist and I do believe you are a role model for all those girls in Uganda and everywhere in the world. I feel very inspired by your writings!

Loyce
Oct 09, 2011
Oct 09, 2011

Dear Contreras,

Thank you for reading my article and I am happy that you enjoyed it. its a great honor that when we tell our stories of transformation, and someone listens.

Rdgs

Loyce