''Rape'' is a symptom of a diseased society

LuxG
Posted December 7, 2019 from Mauritius
Stop Violence Against Women by Artist Hitesh Dhall

Every 20 minutes in India, a woman is raped.  Her dignity and consent are taken away from her and her case ends up in a pile of similar cases that will most likely never see the light of day.  Only the most gruesome cases are reported and the aftermath is a turbulent chasm of sensational headlines, an outpouring of sympathy and mob reaction.  Yes, it's important that justice be served, but killing the perpetrators isn't the answer.  Why?  Because they are merely the instruments of a diseased society, a society that dictates a woman's life at birth.  A society whose religion dictates that women fall to their husbands' feet, that women shoulder the burdens of domestic life, that women give up any pretension to freedom.  They are NEVER isolated cases, they are the very SYMPTOMS of a culture that needs changing!

Before the British colonized India, certain ritualistic practices were set in place to send a very clear message; that women were men's properties.  ''Sati'' was a barbaric practice in which a woman would be set alight near her husband's pyre.  The reasoning behind said practice was very simple, women were inferior and didn't possess property or the economic means to fend for themselves, they were a burden to their in-laws and had little purpose without a husband in their lives.  This practice was abolished a few centuries ago, but nonetheless, there have been reported cases in isolated villages.  Another practice that is still very active, is the ''dowry'' system, in which men pay in whatever way they can, to basically buy their bride.  Talk about chattel slavery!  All of the systems involving women are downright demeaning to their gender, be it being cast away when they're menstruating or having their virginity define their existence.  Why would men rape, you ask?  Well, for eons they were taught that they were the GODS and women were there to serve them.  In a country where religion still defines people's way of life, how can you expect uneducated men, who've never been exposed to secular teachings, to radically change their whole belief system?

I am appalled that nothing is being done to protect my sisters in India.  My ancestors were from India, and they brought their traditions with them when they came to Mauritius.  It's good to be proud of your heritage, but I could never condone some of its overtly sexist, misogynistic teachings and I do not think it's wrong to discard some ideas that are truly inimical to my gender.  I exhort my sisters to do the same, a religion that has always treated you as an inferior being, has nothing to do with God.  What kind of God would impose such a cruel fate on his own children?  

Rape culture will disappear when blind adherence to overtly misogynistic traditions will have become a thing of the past.  And these so-called rapists, these men whose very idea of women was shaped by the culture and tradition of their surroundings, will become a thing of the past too.

This story was submitted in response to Supporting Our Girls.

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Anita Shrestha
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Jill Langhus
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Hi Lux,

How have you been doing? Thanks for sharing your powerful post. I agree with you that society is sick as a whole where there is GBV present and that it needs to change. I also agree that religion can play a large part in perpetuating harmful stereotypes, beliefs and roles for women and girls. And I do agree to some extent that men and boys are being "taught" that it's okay to treat women violently, however, I just don't understand why anyone would think it's okay to do things that are being to these women now. Why would it even occur to them as an option.... it's very disturbing, to say the least, that it would even occur to these "people" (because they aren't really human to me) that these acts are acceptable.

I hope you're doing well, and having a good weekend, dear.

LuxG
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Hey Jill,
So good to hear from you! I'm doing great, what about yourself?
I've given this a lot of thought and I think it's a combination of their environmental and societal factors. In Indian households, boys are taught at a very young age that being a man is akin to being the dominant person in a family, as most families follow a very patriarchal structure. They're also taught that being unfeeling, cold and apathetic is the way to behave as men. Now coupled with the sexual repression that begins in early adolescence, it's not an environment conducive to growth and maturity. They grow up seeing women as objects, as they were always reminded of their differences, they don't know what to do about all of that pent up anger and frustration, they become sadistic and feel entitled to someone else's body and life. It's a pity that most of these men never had any access to secular resources or education, and it would help immensely if boys from troubled areas are given a secular education in school.

Jill Langhus
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Hey there:-)

Great to hear! Yes, I'm doing well, thanks!!

Yes, I think so, too. Hmm, probably true about the unfeeling, cold thing:-( Oh, wow! I wonder if that's what's going on. It would be interesting to see a study on it. I'm sure there's one out there.

What sort of secular resources or education do you have in mind?

Wusufor
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Dear Lux,
It's true all you are saying. Lately BBC has been reporting many cases of rape in India. It's like it now fetish kind of thing :-).

Oh that is bad! I was happy when Four men were executed this week as regards a gang rape and murder case.
I think it's a good start to detare the others. You all take care of yourself.
Warm regards

Angel Lasona
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Oh dear, well enlightening article you got here.

Karen QuiƱones-Axalan
Dec 07, 2019
Dec 07, 2019

Hello, dear Lux,

Rape culture and its lack of justice to victims and survivors are truly appalling. Thank you for speaking up about this issue. May there be more outrage against this. We stand with you!

otahelp
Dec 08, 2019
Dec 08, 2019

my dear it is really so bad that reading this story brought out the worst feelings in me. burning a woman alive because her husband died. I am sure this will also stop someday. the fight continues. thank you for sharing

Akshaya9
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Hello Lux
Yes it's true what you said, every time I'm watching news i saw about India the raped case and some of the victims that cannot take it of what happen will commit suicide. I also heard in the news after they raped, they burn the body. It's so horrible this kind of people doing raped and killing.

Here the Indians they never practice the "dowry" system but Muslims ( malay) yes they did.
Hope the raped cases there will stop and the victims will get the justice.

Take care dear :-)

maeann
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Hi Lux,

Thank you for sharing.

Just like Jill said, I agree with you that society is sick :(

We can do something, right? Let us unite and speak up!