WORLDPULSE helped me heal after a very traumatic event

LuxG
Posted July 2, 2020 from Mauritius

I was only 22 years old when I discovered Worldpulse and decided to become a member, after reading stories from all around the world that deeply resonated with me.  At the time, feminism was my foremost ideal and it still is, but Worldpulse empowered me to share my stories, to reveal the subversive nature of culture, that oppresses and silences women.  I could relate to the countless stories about sexism and subjugation as I grew up in a highly patriarchal setting and I believed that through storytelling, girls would become better equipped to deal with overt and covert sexism.

I used to share articles on a weekly basis, but something bad happened to me in November of 2017, which actually made everything more real.  My fight for equality was bolstered and my resolve strengthened.  Sexism in my country was no longer a topic I had only ever been interested in, I was personally affected by sexism and male dominance.  I was assaulted by my then boyfriend, disfigured, beaten and I had nowhere to go, no one to confide in, no one who would comfort me.  Fortunately, I realized I wasn't alone and I turned to Worldpulse and shared my story with women, who went out of their way to bring me comfort and to empathize with me.  They made me feel heard, understood and loved, more than my kin did.  

I live in a country where the idea of sexism doesn't seem wrong to many people, where men want to uphold the patriarchy because they know it benefits them.  In my country, women who are abused and beaten are seldom helped and men routinely get away with rape and murder.  Just recently, I read about a 3 year old who was raped by a man in her neighborhood and, to my horror, I wasn't surprised.  Nothing has been done to address this broken culture and activism within my country is usually limited to sex workers' rights and the like, as people are afraid to tackle and question the status quo who are very close to the religious and cultural organizations that still view women as the second, inferior sex.

Even on social media, men are extremely vicious and get away with sexualizing, demeaning and belittling women, but I want to change all that, I know that change takes time, but I'd be a coward to give in.  No one should have to live in fear, no one should bear the burden of their gender, and thanks to Worldpulse, I've embraced the power of storytelling.

This story was submitted in response to #OurImpact.

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Jensine Larsen
Jul 02
Jul 02

Oh dear one, we are so glad you found World Pulse, we are hugging you! We are claiming our stories to write a new one for womankind. To transform these cultures of violence into cultures of healing. Your story is adding to the unstoppable river of change. Thank you for this.

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you for your dedication Jensine! Thank you for providing us with a platform on which we can share our stories and raise our voices!!

Alaine2020
Jul 02
Jul 02

This is so amazing you so strong
Thanks for sharing
Stay safe dear.

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you Alaine!!

Chi8629
Jul 02
Jul 02

Thank you for sharing.

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you!!

JJB
Jul 02
Jul 02

WorldPulse and your passion saved you and will one day very soon save the women of your community. Be strengthened by your story which will see change come about. Plenty Love Sis.

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you for your kind response!

ANJ ANA
Jul 02
Jul 02

Dear Luxg,
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so happy that you found world pulse family as a comfort zone for you, so do I. You are true no one should have to live in fear and bear the burden of the gender. I have all my solidarity with you and lets work to fight against the inequality.
best regards, anjana

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you for your kind response Anjana! Thanks to Worldpulse, we feel empowered enough to share the injustices meted out against our gender!

Arem
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you for sharing your story!
What strength you have!
You're absolutely correct - nobody should have to live in fear and bear the burden of their gender.
Take care and I look forward to more of your stories!

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you Arem! I look forward to reading more from you too!

Hello, LuxG,

We love you, dear sister. With World Pulse, you will not be silenced anymore. Instead, we stand with you as you raise your voice against the violence in this world. You won't be alone again.

Your intention to end violence is a great place to start. Yes, it will take time and it won't be easy. Just remember you have a global sisterhood to back you up, Courageous Sister!

Please update us. Keep writing!

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you for your encouragement Karen!

You're welcome, love.

Chidimma
Jul 03
Jul 03

Hello Dear Luxg,Thanks for sharing your story.
Hugs
Chidimma

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Thank you Chidimma! Hugs to you too!

Isabelleize
Jul 03
Jul 03

Bonjour, Je crois sincèrement que ton histoire, notre histoire, nous à rendu plus forte encore, en tout cas je te souhaite de belle choses,

LuxG
Jul 03
Jul 03

Merci Isabelle, je vous souhaite beaucoup de belles choses aussi!

SHILPA KASHELKAR
Jul 04
Jul 04

Dear Luxg
thanks for sharing your story
you are really strong ...
you are very rightly mentioned world pulse
with love
shilpa

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you for your kind words Shilpa!!

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 05
Jul 05

This is so powerful! Thank you for your courage to share your story! Founding World Pulse, you have a safe haven, Sending you a big hug my sister and please continue to thrive here, you have that power!
Love
Busayo

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you Busayo, this means a lot to me!

Bakhita.Atit
Jul 06
Jul 06

Hello Luxg,
Thanks for sharing this beautiful and yet powerful story. Keep sharing your strength with us, in as much as World pulse stories inspires you well it does the same to me. I like relating to strong women like you because that is where I get my inspiration from.

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you Bakhita, there's strength in sisterhood, I'm touched by your message!

Bakhita.Atit
Jul 15
Jul 15

You are much welcome Dear.

Kika Katchunga
Jul 06
Jul 06

Hello LUXG

wow, that’s great; i love to hear how Worldpulse could heal you; that’s, wonderful. thanks for sharing

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you for your kind message Kika!

Leonida Odongo
Jul 06
Jul 06

Thank you for sharing LuxG. Solder on .

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you Leonida!

deodatte
Jul 08
Jul 08

merci pour le partage.vous etez forte et courageuse

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Merci a vous pour ce message tres sympathique!

Millynairi
Jul 08
Jul 08

Dear Luxg,
Thanks so much for sharing this wonderful story. Indeed WorldPulse gives us a platform for our voices to be heard and the sisters here are such an encouragement. Makes one feel you are not alone. Thanks dear.

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you for your support Millynairi!

Flavi
Jul 08
Jul 08

Eu estou muito feliz de ter você no world pulse, seu desabafo foi bastante marcante, voce é uma mulher forte. É horrivel essa violencia ainda existir nao imagino o ue passa na cabeça dessas pessoas maldosas. fique segura, estamos unidas! espero que oce possa compartilhar ainda mais coisas

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Felizmente esse mal será derrotado, pois as mulheres não estão mais caladas, obrigado por sua mensagem!
Obrigado!

Flavi
Jul 08
Jul 08

o world pulse tambem me ajudou muito

Isabelleize
Jul 08
Jul 08

you are strong, don't let no one make you feel different,

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you, this is very kind of you!

Isaura Diniz
Jul 09
Jul 09

You are strong, thank you for sharing with us a part of your life, that no one deserves to go through.
stay happy.

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you, I do hope no one has to go through this.

Jeanine A
Jul 09
Jul 09

Story telling is a powerful tool! I'm glad you found your strength. Thanks for sharing

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you Jeanine!

teena machaiah
Jul 09
Jul 09

Thank you for sharing your story! I definitely relate to this as I come from a similar patriarchial social setting and have been witness to these traumatic events. You are amazing! Women with a resolve like you strengthen our resolve to support victims and be an encourager for them and that's what I have been doing. We are here for you and as one force, I'm sure we can stand up to it. Keep pushing forward and do stay safe girl.

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you for your sweet message Teena, I hope to read more from you! It's amazing that we're able to unite in our fight for equality, and all the women here on Worldpulse have a strength of character that is just so inspiring!

Jul 10
Jul 10
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Tamarack Verrall
Jul 11
Jul 11

Dear Luxg,
Welcome back. I am so sorry for what you have been through and so glad that you had found World Pulse, and knew that we have this now, able to hold one another virtually as we make our ways through this life with the violence that can suddenly be right there in our lives. we survive the horrors knowing we are here to change this. In so many of our countries we are witness to such tiny girls being raped, and men getting away with viciousness. Your message is powerful.
"I want to change all that". This determination and commitment is way makes our connections here so special.
In sisterhood,
Tam

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Dear Tam, thank you for your message, this means a lot to me, I have been through hardships because of my gender and some have been through even worse than that, but I think the tide is turning, and because of platforms like Worldpulse, women are no longer suffering in silence. All these injustices and gender motivated crimes are being exposed.
Thanks again Tam!

Elizabeth Ziro
Jul 12
Jul 12

Wow! Very brief and to the point. Thanks for sharing. Do keep safe

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thank you Elizabeth!

Regina Afanwi Young
Jul 13
Jul 13

Hello sister Luxg. How are you my dear. Am so glad you found this beautiful family. Our world pulse family. Am really sorry you had to go through all that violence. You are a strong women dear and am proud of you. You are even stronger because you can speak up. Yes together we can fight against all these ills in our community. Hope to read again from you sis to know how you are doing.
Please keep safe
Hugs. ××××××× Regina

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thanks Regina, I'm doing great, how about you? Your message means a lot to me, and so does your support!

Deena Anreise
Jul 14
Jul 14

I truly resonate with your story... I am so happy to hear that World Pulse provided you a safe space to regain your strength AND YOUR SENSE OF SELF WORTH. It's so heartbreaking to live in a world where women are truly considered inferior objects to be used up and discarded. Please continue to share your story. There are so many women like us who are not safe. It's up to us to be here for them when they find World Pulse, and to help lift them up as best we can. Peace be with you, my sister xoxo

LuxG
Jul 15
Jul 15

Thanks for your kind message Deena, it's difficult to feel ''worthy'' and ''safe'' in an inherently unsafe setting, but being able to share your story and to have people empathize with it, is just incredible, and I'm grateful for that!

Esther olulode
Jul 16
Jul 16

Thanks for sharing your story, much love for you ma. Welcome to world pulse

Pam A
Jul 16
Jul 16

Thank you so much for being a voice and for sharing your story. Keep sharing and know that we support you!!

MUVUNYI FABIENNE
Jul 20
Jul 20

Dear LuxG,

I am thankful for World Pulse which made you feel heard, understood and loved.
I do love you too.
I am very sorry to hear that the 3 years old baby girl was raped.
We should rise our voices to denounce all forms of violences against women.

Be strong my sister

louise.isaac
Jul 21
Jul 21

Thank you for your powerful commentary. Your strength and commitment for change is truly inspiring

Winterson
Jul 22
Jul 22

LuxG: I am a man who loves my wife and three daughters. My daughters are all young adults and I wish for them equality of opportunity in their careers and positive relationships like the one my wife and I work on all the time.

I am sorry - and shamed as a man - to hear your story and hope that you can find people around you to build you up. On social media - yes, even Worldpulse - I only follow one concept I pulled from Don Miguel Ruiz in the Four Agreements - number 3: Don't take anything personally. ”Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering."

I wish you the best of luck and future happiness.

Usbin
Jul 27
Jul 27

Very amazing story keep it up

Ego Anowi
Jul 28
Jul 28

This is really amazing! Exactly what happens in my country. Women go through shit, but together we can fight this. Cyber love dear.

Loveth

Ponelo Kalonga
Jul 29
Jul 29

Dear Sister,
Thanks for sharing your story you are a very strong woman. I am inspired. Hugs to you.

Kirthi Jayakumar
Aug 04
Aug 04

Dearest LuxG,
I found myself nodding vigorously in agreement and in celebration of your joining world pulse. I hear you when you say World Pulse helped you heal. Sending you love and resilience and holding space for you with love.
Welcome to this thriving, powerful, empowering sisterhood!

Justyneema
Aug 07
Aug 07

Merci de partager cette histoire dear!! C’est inspirant pour beaucoup vraiment!
Continuer de partager

ikirimat
Aug 07
Aug 07

Yes, World Pulse is indeed a home one finds comfort in. Safe space and builds us, removes fear and gives one the courage to move a head. Thank you for sharing how you feel.

Vanora.Lee
Aug 07
Aug 07

I'm sorry to hear your traumatic and hope you are fully recovered. Yes, stay strong and positive! May God bless you, heal you and strengthen you always!