Suddenly you woke up in the middle of the night, you went to pee, when you went back to bed you couldn’t get back to sleep. You’ve started thinking about your work that needs to be done, things that you haven’t started yet, the deadlines that you need to meet, then your thinking about the next meeting and you need to report again.
Or a debt that you need to pay because the deadline is getting nearer. And you felt like exhausted and it’s getting 4 am you are still awake. You said to yourself I wanna go back to sleep, but you can’t. So you pick up your phone and watch something so you will not think about your work, your debt, or issues that bother you…. then your eyes started to close.
When you are about to sleep your alarm rang it’s time to wake up… Oh my, it’s morning once again, you don’t feel like doing anything. At work, even if you extend more hours, still there’s more work to do, and then you thought that your work seems pointless because even if you tried to do your best there is always mistakes with what you do.
You are no longer efficient. You recognize your lapses. You complain that you want to quit and give up your job. You feel tired of the same thing you do every day from work to the house. You left the office unfulfilled. You queue for a ride, waiting for 30 minutes or sometimes 1 hour till your turn, and face long traffic till you arrive home. You’re home, and it’s past 9:00 pm. You had your dinner and went to bed because you’re tired, you like to browse your Facebook and watch some youtube, then it’s almost 1 hour, your eyes tired, so you don’t have time for your devotion because you are tired. So you have a short prayer, then sleep.
Then repeat. You push yourself beyond your limits. Even if you lack sleep, you still woke up early. Even if you know that you are tired, you still slept late. Even if you are gaining weight, you still eat sweets. Even if you know that it is bad for your health, you still do it. You hear them, but you don’t listen. And when you encourage them, it’s like you don’t need one. You are telling them it’s all right, but they don’t know, you are not all right.
But you continue to ask how are they, yet they don’t even ask how are you. You find yourself running away from things. You are not interested in others life. You try to join other groups of people, maybe you can belong or you can learn from them or go someplace to find what you look for.
You compare yourself to others and thought that life is unfair. You would tell yourself, I am doing better than that person, why does he/she have this, why I don’t have. Then you start feeling down. You tried to save and work hard, but still, the debt can’t leave you behind.
The worst things are that you don’t find any hope and think to hurt yourself. You look around and you don’t feel joy in what you do. You just did what you do, for you to survive. You find life stressful. You are physically present but your mind is out of sight. Not interested in things anymore.
What are these? These feelings are signs of emotional exhaustion. You might be experiencing burnout or depressed. There is nothing wrong if you feel weak and honest with yourself that there will come a time that you cannot be strong for others.
There will come a time that your tank will get empty because of how you have been filling other people’s tank so that they can be encouraged and move on with their lives.
It is normal. Just like how Elija felt after he defeated the pagan prophet. He received a death threat from the Queen, so he fled for his life. He went alone into the wilderness, traveling all day (read 1 Kings 19:3-4 NLT).
Even Christians who are active in the Church knows the word of God, active with their ministry and with life group can experience emotional exhaustion.
What more of those who don’t have a church family. Those who don’t read the bible. Those who don’t have a relationship with Jesus Christ. How they will cope up with this emotion.
So what did Elijah after feeling exhausted? He told God, his frustrations. He complains to God. In 1 Kings 19:10, Elijah says this to God: “I have been very zealous for the Lord God Almighty. The Israelites have rejected your covenant, torn down your altars, and put your prophets to death with the sword. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me too” (NIV).
How then we recover from being emotionally exhausted?
Reveal your feelings. Tell God how you felt. It is okay. Complain to Him. If you are irritated tell him. If you are angry, tell him. Release all that you feel. Let God heal you with what you feel. You can cry to the Lord. Psalm 34:17 says “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles” Expressing your feelings to a trusted friend or family is a big way to unload those emotions. Cry and let it be heard, then afterward you will feel a release.
Remember God’s promise. Psalm 145:13 says The Lord is faithful to all His promises and loving toward all he has made” He is faithful to his promises. Be assured that at the right time whatever you are waiting, he will fulfill that promise to you. Isaiah 60:22 says “I am the Lord, in its time I will do this swiftly” There is a desire or a dream that we wanted to achieve to happen. And this makes us sometimes frustrated.
It is very hard to wait, especially if it’s been too long. And sometimes, we tend to get tired of waiting when you know that you have been faithfully obeying or getting older. But still, remember that God is faithful to his promise of your life.
Rest and Relax. Sometimes all we need is to rest our body. We are so hard with ourselves that we don’t give time to rest and relax. God simply let Elijah sleep in 1 Kings 19:5, “Then he lay down under the bush and fell asleep” (NIV). Sometimes we deprive ourselves by resting our body. We thought that we don’t have time to rest because we are busy to be emotionally exhausted.
That result, of migraine, too much eating, has no appetite, can’t sleep or bothered. We relax by simply go to a place or do something that can give us peace.
Refocus on God. Oftentimes, we thought that we are the only person who can solve everything. We forgot that we cannot control things. We tend to put all the things in our hands. You know the word of God, but you doubt if it is going to work out. You ask yourself, Lord why I am feeling this way. What is happening to me? Do I need to undergo this? What are you teaching me right now? Why I felt so tired of things around me.
Those questions are valid. But God says to focus on me and not with your problem. He is in control and not you. Psalm 46:10 says “Be still, and know that I am God” Let God be God in your life. You are not God, and He is God. You don’t know what’s gonna happen tomorrow. You do not know what will happen at this time, in the minutes of the hour. Only God knows. Just refocus on God. Run to Him. Go back to Him. If you think that you know already the word, just read it again, meditate on it. Listen to Christian music. Let refreshes you with his words. You cannot escape from him anyway, so why hide.
Lord, when I am emotionally exhausted, let your presence be upon me. Do not let this emotion ruin my relationship with you. Let this be a strength instead, so I could continue to be fruitful in my life. If there is a purpose of why I am undergoing this, may this strengthen my faith with you. I know Lord, that I am not the only person who is experiencing this, I pray that they would be able to find the courage to reveal their feelings to you, remember your promise to them, to rest and relax and refocus back to you.
Lord, I cannot do this by myself, I humbly need you. Thank you for the good rest of my body and mind. Let this prayer be heard and claiming for healing emotionally in Jesus name, amen