I am a Woman. Respect me.

maeann
Posted November 13, 2019 from Philippines
I am a woman. Respect me.

Marita is sitting opposite to her friend. She has decided to seek to advise because she feels at crossroads in her marriage and her life. The first few years had been exciting for her but after 5 years, her marriage goes through ups and downs. She always wanted the marriage to work out. She stayed for her children despite violence is present. She had few friends, was very unhappy and somehow felt unloved. Marita is in a time of despair.

A family creates a community that peace should emanate. But how can a family bring peace if brokenness and suffering are experienced within? 

Our home is often a place where peace is lacking, and innocence was one’s deprived because of violence.

The repulse of peace creates the possibility of violence.

When we know of a situation or hear a story of a woman or young girl about violence inside home sometime, we don’t intervene because it is a family matter.

Being silent and doesn’t care boils an impending danger. In some communities, violence is part of societal norms and is acceptable behavior.

Men as heads and members of families are the ones committing harm. A man hand’s grip towards a woman shows weakness.

How then is an appropriate response to someone like Marita? 

I ask a few men about their opinion on why men are causing harm to women. And how they respond to Marita’s situation:

                       “Some men are weak and can’t handle psychological, financial and addiction issues and this result to overpower a woman”

                         “Leave the man because if he causes violence (physical, sexual, verbal) it will recur”

What action should I raise up to prevent violence inside the family?

Let us break down social norms and cultural by discouraging violence through a different approach like raising our voice by sharing our story, her story to convey women’s rights.

Let us raise a leader who is called to be the voice of every young girl and women in the midst of people, to fight for women.

My contribution as we commemorate 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence, I will get involved in an organization who protects the human rights of women and girls.

I will know my right being a woman and bring awareness to the forms of violence women and girls experience.

I will educate myself so that I can also inform other women what I have learned that we can empower each other by claiming our rights.  To know where to seek help in cases of violence.

I will support the campaign signifying the role of individuals in fighting violence inside the home.

I will introduce World Pulse to them, that they can share a story or read stories of women overcome their situation so that they can be encouraged and have hope for their life.

I stand with HER! #IStandWithher

 

 

This story was submitted in response to #IStandWithHer.

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Hello, Mae Ann,

Thank you for sharing your contribution to the call #IStandWithHer. I agree that men who are weak want to show their power to women through domestic violence. This is sad. I can also attest how our culture does not intervene when we know of such cases because it is a matter between the couple. Usually, women victims defend their men when we tell them to report their violent husbands. *Sigh*

What happened to Marita now? I hope she escapes that traumatic environment. Women should leave the marriage when she is in danger. Thank you for sharing!

maeann
Nov 14
Nov 14

Hi Karen,

Good day!

Yes, I agree. And sadly, the most affected are the children, especially when they are young.
Marita still hiding from the shadow of violence.

Hello, sis,

I hope she will be able to leave that abusive situation ASAP.

Njemo Naomi Mabuh
Nov 14
Nov 14

Thank you so much Maenn for sharing this story which depicts a true scenario of what most women face in their marital homes. It's high time the world knows that every woman deserves respect

maeann
Nov 14
Nov 14

Hi Naomi,

Thank you for reading. I agree that to what you said. Every woman deserves respect!

Beth Lacey
Nov 14
Nov 14

Nice to read your story

maeann
Nov 14
Nov 14

Thank you Beth.

Ekitah
Nov 14
Nov 14

Hello sis!
Thanks for sharing . Its a wonderful peace. I feel it right inside me as I read through Your wonderful story. God bless you!

maeann
Nov 14
Nov 14

Helo Ekitah,

Thank you and God bless you too.

Let us hope men realize their weakness, accept it and ask for help.

Anita Shrestha
Nov 15
Nov 15

Dear Sis
Thank you for sharing

maeann
Nov 15
Nov 15

Dear Anita,

Your welcome, have a great day!

Jill Langhus
Nov 15
Nov 15

Hi Mae Ann,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing Marita's story which seems to be the same story for a lot of women, unfortunately:-( I do hope she is able to leave him for not only her sake, but her children's. And, great job with all the goals you have planned for the 16 days of activism against GBV. Let us know how it goes:-) Keep up the great work, and hope you have a great weekend!

maeann
Nov 15
Nov 15

Hi Jill,

I am doing well, thank you. Yes, it is the same story for a lot of women not only in my country but also in other countries. I hope to share how I'd be able to contribute my involvement whether in small ways through speaking and listening to women who are currently living with violence. Have a great weekend too!

Jill Langhus
Nov 16
Nov 16

Hi Mae Ann,

Great to hear:-) Thanks for clarifying. Let us know how it goes:-)

Hope you're having a great weekend!

Lisbeth
Nov 15
Nov 15

Dear MaeAnn,
Thanks very much for standing with us. Every woman knows the value of these four words
#istandwithyou

I also agree that no matter the level if abuse the woman will always want to resolved issues.
My message to such women pls don't beg anybody to love you.
MaeAnn have a good weekend and take care of yourself.
Regards

maeann
Nov 15
Nov 15

Hi Lisbeth,

I agree that is why I asked some men, and they answer the same, leave the abusive man.
Take care of yourself too...

Joy Xi
Nov 15
Nov 15

What a beautiful post, Maeann. Let us all stand with women like Marita so that all women can know our worth and get ourselves out of terrible situations, because we deserve better!

maeann
Nov 15
Nov 15

Hi Joy,

Thank you for reading. I agree, we deserve better and so I #IStandWithHer. I stand for all the women who herself can't experience peace inside the home.

Amarachi Okpala
Nov 16
Nov 16

Great motivation!

maeann
Nov 16
Nov 16

Thank you Amarachi

Tamarack Verrall
Nov 17
Nov 17

Dear Mae Ann,
It is so true that too often there is the decision to not intervene because it is called "a family matter". But now through each other we know it is an epidemic of violence allowed to happen since not all that long ago in the history of our world, to keep women from having equality. There is such strength to your story, laying out the problem, then stating your personal commitment to the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-based Violence, and #IStandWithHer.
Standing with you, sister,
Tam

maeann
Nov 17
Nov 17

Hi Tam,

Thank you Tam.

I stand with HER and to all the women around the globe who are suffering because of violence.

I listen. I reach out. I raise a voice. #IStandWithHer

Spiritedsoul
Nov 23
Nov 23

Hi, i love this post and call to action against this injustice.
Hugs,
Jess.

maeann
Nov 23
Nov 23

Helo Spiritedsoul,

Thank you. Hugs back.

Tarke Edith
Nov 26
Nov 26

Yes Maeann
we should do our possible best to spread this world pulse as we can so that women will be uplifted from their trobles and see a neat to speak out.
thanks for sharing my dear sister.

maeann
Nov 26
Nov 26

Hi Tarke,

I agree... we should use social media and let other people know that women now are raising up our voices.

Kat Haber
Nov 29
Nov 29

Yes, domestic violence is an unacceptable way of males trying to deal with their anger ad insecurity. How might we teach men and boys to honor their feelings and and then to express them with careful kindness rather than leaving it bottled up and then raging at others?

maeann
Nov 29
Nov 29

Hi Kat,

I'm thinking if there is a platform for boys and men dealing issues of their insecurities and help each other, encourage each other on how they can be protective instead of destructive, they can be confident instead of being insecure. A platform where they can release there feelings too.

Kat Haber
Nov 29
Nov 29

Perhaps mothers must become comfortable with boys expressing a wider range of emotions?
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_we_should_help_boys_to...

maeann
Nov 30
Nov 30

perhaps... or maybe because of social norms and culture.... that effect.