A Letter to my Single Friends

maeann
Posted October 7, 2020 from Philippines

Dear Single Friends,

When I was young, I dreamed of a wedding on the beach, wearing a white dress, with my feet in the loose sand, smelling the salty air.  The breeze gently caresses my skin as my hair swing by the wind.

I can hear the waves celebrating while the clouds give shade for a warm sunny day. I smile like a flower, dancing in the wind.

As my man approached carrying his love to me, it was a serene wedding.

I am sure you also dream of a wedding, right?

We are all excited for 2020 and the coming years, as I listen to your hope during our conversation. We pray for the right man to come and are looking forward to meeting him.

But then came this pandemic, that limit us to interact with others, and it shatters your dream of meeting the right man to be your husband.

The time is ticking, it is time for you to bloom like a flower, but the wind blows away your petal into somewhere you don’t know where it will be heading.

It seems like you can’t see the future, because you don’t want to think about the future anymore. All you want is to survive for each day. Because each day is a gift that you are still alive.

And what is in the future is no longer important, as long as you survive and live today.

But life is not just surviving and being alive, it is also how we vision ourselves. Don’t forget there is always sunshine after the rain. Certain things can happen and get us really down.

Remind yourself that things will always get better.

When I reached 30, I got worried because I am getting old (duh!) plus the pressure from family and relatives, saying you need to get married, you are getting old, blah blah blah.

I know you also have the same experience. But in reality, in your heart, yes,you would really like to find the right man… but he is nowhere to find.

Sometimes you ask yourself, am I ugly? Am I fat? Am I unattractive? What is wrong with me? I ask the same question too.

For many years of waiting … with effort to socialize and search I learned this.

Acknowledge that you are beautiful and precious.

Not all men will look at you as beautiful and precious. It is just like that, the same thing, how you see men too. But know that you are beautiful and precious. Whether you have pimple, fat, slim, chubby, bad breath, body odor, with slightly physical defect, with allergy… it doesn’t matter. There will be a man who will see you are beautiful and how important you are in his life.

Invest in Yourself.

Take care of your body. As we grow old, our bodies change. You need to treat yourself with love and respect. Make time to rest and relax. Have time to exercise and eat nutritious food. If you are healthy that is your wealth. You can create your wealth if you are healthy. Add knowledge by reading books, listening and watching self-help audio books online. Fill up your mind with positive thoughts. Learn SELF-CARE. Try to hibernate from social media, so you will be able to appreciate small things around you, not thinking of others what they say. Don’t please others by what you wear.  Wear yourself comfortably and confidently.

Surround yourself with good people.

Connect with your family or friends who encourage and support you. Avoid those people who will stress and discourage you. Do not share all your dreams. Keep a secret to yourself. Only share your dream to a person whom you can trust. Sometimes it’s best to keep your plan to yourselves rather than telling it to others. Some people are not happy to hear your plans or dreams.

Keep your integrity

Follow your heart what is right. God will grant you good favor and you will receive His blessings. Do what you know is right, not what looks right to others. It is worthwhile to wait, especially when the man in your life is the will of God.

I am sharing you a prayer, I used for 4 years before God answered my prayers. This prayer was given to me and it is also an answered prayer to her. “Thank you, Lord, for sending me the right man to be my husband”  Keep praying that. Acknowledge that you already receive it. Pray until something happens. But make sure to also take action.  Meet and greet.  Smile always and confidently walk beautiful with a humble heart.

 "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." -Albert Einstein. Try something outside of your comfort zone.

That's right man is also waiting for you, it will just take time.  So, while waiting, use your time wisely.  Don’t think about your age, it is just a number. Look ahead of the days you will meet that right man, it will be a picturesque scene, a moment between you and him carved with love.

Don't forget to invite me on your wedding day.  I am excited for you.

 

Mark 11:24 “Whatever you ask for in prayers, believe that you received it and it will be yours”

 

This story was submitted in response to My Voice, Our Equal Future.

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Beth Lacey
Oct 08
Oct 08

A great message, Maeann

maeann
Oct 12
Oct 12

Thank you Beth :)

ikirimat
Oct 09
Oct 09

Wow wo
Great inspirational advise.
Thank you for sharing your story

maeann
Oct 12
Oct 12

Thank you for reading Ikirimat.

Paulina Nayra
Oct 09
Oct 09

Dear Maeann,
I should have read this when I was single. Gone are the days when ladies just have to sit and wait for the man (right or wrong) to come into their lives. I am part of that generation who just had to get lucky that a good man notice you. I prayed, too, but not for the right man, but for only one man. And he was given to me. He was just perfect when I was dreaming for him. Alas, he is a good man, not my ideal though.

Sigue, good luck Searchers! You got a good tip from dear Maeann.

Huggs. When are you coming back from your honeymoon?

maeann
Oct 12
Oct 12

Te Pauline, kakatuwa comment mo :)

Nini Mappo
Oct 09
Oct 09

Hello Maeann,
I'd forgotten that young people cannot meet anymore and forge new relationships owing to this pandemic. This is excellent compassionate advice for them to remain anchored and established in their identity in God and practice patience as they wait. Choosing a husband is a big task needing sensitivity, self-awareness, and wisdom!
Thank you for caring:)

maeann
Oct 12
Oct 12

Hi Nini, such a timely encouragement for the single ladies who still hopes to find the right man, same with the men too. for the right woman for them... there is still hope for Love. Thanks you.

Chidimma
Oct 10
Oct 10

This has really made my day. What a great message to carry along. Thanks for sharing.

maeann
Oct 12
Oct 12

Hi Chidimma, thank you... hope that this gives hope too for singles.

Sabiha Hasan
Oct 10
Oct 10

Thanks for sharing, I m 42 but agree with you. There is time for everything.

maeann
Oct 12
Oct 12

Hi Sabiha, you are still at the right time... and yes there is time for everything, thank you for reading.