A Letter to my Single Friends

maeann
Posted October 7, 2020 from Philippines

Dear Single Friends,

I daydreamed of a wedding on the shore with a white dress on me. I stepped on a sandy beach.  I can enjoy the loose sand. I even inhale the sea salt.  Feeling the breeze on my skin.

I see waves celebrate. The clouds give shade for a pleasant sunny day. I’m like a flower dances in the wind.

As my man came carrying his love, it was a serene wedding.

I am sure you also expect of a blissful wedding.

We are excited for 2020, even the years to take place. 

I listen to your hope during our conversation. We pray for the right man to show up, we look forward that day.

But, this pandemic occurred, which hinders us to reach out with others. 

It crushes your thought of meeting the right one.

The hour is dashing off. It’s time for you to blossom, but wind blows you away to nowhere.

Look as if no future ahead. You just needed to get through each day.

What makes matter now is you go through and survive.

But life is not merely survival. We need to have a vision. 

Do not forget sunshine comes after the rain.

Remind yourself that things would become better.

When I was on my 30”s, I feared of growing old and being single.  Count also the pressure from friend, family and relatives. 

I felt you have the same experience too. 

Thus, you hope to find this right man. But, he is nowhere to find.

These questions run to your mind? Am I ugly? Am I fat? Am I unattractive? What is wrong with me?

I ask the same question.

For years of hoping, with effort to get around and search, I learned this.

Acknowledge that you are beautiful.

Not everybody finds you lovely and attractive. Simple as that.  The same how you see men too. Remember you are unique and precious. Regardless whether you have pimple, fat, slim, chubby, bad breath, body odor, with physical defect, with allergy… it does not matter. There would be a man will see you lovely, and how important you are in his life.

Invest in yourself.

Take care of your body. As we grow old, our bodies change. Treat yourself with love and respect. Make time to rest and relax. Have time to exercise and eat nutritious food. If you are healthful, that is your wealth. You can create your wealth if you are healthy. Add knowledge by reading books, listening and watching self-help audio books online. Fill up your mind with positive thoughts. Learn SELF-CARE. Try to hibernate from social media, so you will appreciate small things around you, not thinking of others what they say. Don’t please others by what you wear.  Wear yourself.

Surround yourself with good people.

Connect with your family or friends who encourage and support you. Avoid those people who stress and discourage you. Do not share all your dreams. Keep a secret to yourself. Only share your dream to a person whom you can trust. Sometimes it’s best to have your plan to yourselves rather than telling it to others. This people are not happy to find out your plans or dreams.

Keep your integrity

Follow your heart what is proper. God will grant you great favor and you will receive His blessings. Do what you know is right, not what looks right to others. It is worthwhile to wait, when a man in your life is the will of God.

I am sharing you a prayer I applied for 4 years before God met my prayers. She offered this prayer to me, and also an answered prayer to her. “Thank you, Lord, for sending me the right man to be my husband”  Keep praying that. Acknowledge that you receive it. Pray until something happens. But take action.  Meet and greet.  Walk with grace and a gentle heart.

 “Anyone who has never done a mistake has tried nothing unique.” -Albert Einstein. Try something outside of your comfort zone.

That’s right, this guy is also waiting for you. It will just take time.  So, while hanging, be clever.  Don’t figure out your age, it’s just a number. Look ahead of the days you meet this ideal guy, it will be a pleasant scene, a moment between you and him carved with love.

Don’t forget to invite me on your wedding day.  I am excited for you.

Mark 11:24 “Whatever you ask for in prayers, believe that you received it and it will be yours”

 

This story was submitted in response to My Voice, Our Equal Future.

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Beth Lacey
Oct 08, 2020
Oct 08, 2020

A great message, Maeann

maeann
Oct 12, 2020
Oct 12, 2020

Thank you Beth :)

ikirimat
Oct 09, 2020
Oct 09, 2020

Wow wo
Great inspirational advise.
Thank you for sharing your story

maeann
Oct 12, 2020
Oct 12, 2020

Thank you for reading Ikirimat.

Paulina Nayra
Oct 09, 2020
Oct 09, 2020

Dear Maeann,
I should have read this when I was single. Gone are the days when ladies just have to sit and wait for the man (right or wrong) to come into their lives. I am part of that generation who just had to get lucky that a good man notice you. I prayed, too, but not for the right man, but for only one man. And he was given to me. He was just perfect when I was dreaming for him. Alas, he is a good man, not my ideal though.

Sigue, good luck Searchers! You got a good tip from dear Maeann.

Huggs. When are you coming back from your honeymoon?

maeann
Oct 12, 2020
Oct 12, 2020

Te Pauline, kakatuwa comment mo :)

Nini Mappo
Oct 09, 2020
Oct 09, 2020

Hello Maeann,
I'd forgotten that young people cannot meet anymore and forge new relationships owing to this pandemic. This is excellent compassionate advice for them to remain anchored and established in their identity in God and practice patience as they wait. Choosing a husband is a big task needing sensitivity, self-awareness, and wisdom!
Thank you for caring:)

maeann
Oct 12, 2020
Oct 12, 2020

Hi Nini, such a timely encouragement for the single ladies who still hopes to find the right man, same with the men too. for the right woman for them... there is still hope for Love. Thanks you.

Chidimma
Oct 10, 2020
Oct 10, 2020

This has really made my day. What a great message to carry along. Thanks for sharing.

maeann
Oct 12, 2020
Oct 12, 2020

Hi Chidimma, thank you... hope that this gives hope too for singles.

Sabiha Hasan
Oct 10, 2020
Oct 10, 2020

Thanks for sharing, I m 42 but agree with you. There is time for everything.

maeann
Oct 12, 2020
Oct 12, 2020

Hi Sabiha, you are still at the right time... and yes there is time for everything, thank you for reading.

Jennifer Zeng
Nov 24, 2020
Nov 24, 2020

Dear Maeann,

What a beautiful piece. Thoughtful, compassionate, and full of wisdom!

maeann
Dec 18, 2020
Dec 18, 2020

Thank you Jennifer, have a great week ahead.