Dear Single Friends,
When I was young, I dreamed of a wedding on the beach, wearing a white dress, with my feet in the loose sand, smelling the salty air. The breeze gently caresses my skin as my hair swing by the wind.
I can hear the waves celebrating while the clouds give shade for a warm sunny day. I smile like a flower, dancing in the wind.
As my man approached carrying his love to me, it was a serene wedding.
I am sure you also dream of a wedding, right?
We are all excited for 2020 and the coming years, as I listen to your hope during our conversation. We pray for the right man to come and are looking forward to meeting him.
But then came this pandemic, that limit us to interact with others, and it shatters your dream of meeting the right man to be your husband.
The time is ticking, it is time for you to bloom like a flower, but the wind blows away your petal into somewhere you don’t know where it will be heading.
It seems like you can’t see the future, because you don’t want to think about the future anymore. All you want is to survive for each day. Because each day is a gift that you are still alive.
And what is in the future is no longer important, as long as you survive and live today.
But life is not just surviving and being alive, it is also how we vision ourselves. Don’t forget there is always sunshine after the rain. Certain things can happen and get us really down.
Remind yourself that things will always get better.
When I reached 30, I got worried because I am getting old (duh!) plus the pressure from family and relatives, saying you need to get married, you are getting old, blah blah blah.
I know you also have the same experience. But in reality, in your heart, yes,you would really like to find the right man… but he is nowhere to find.
Sometimes you ask yourself, am I ugly? Am I fat? Am I unattractive? What is wrong with me? I ask the same question too.
For many years of waiting … with effort to socialize and search I learned this.
Acknowledge that you are beautiful and precious.
Not all men will look at you as beautiful and precious. It is just like that, the same thing, how you see men too. But know that you are beautiful and precious. Whether you have pimple, fat, slim, chubby, bad breath, body odor, with slightly physical defect, with allergy… it doesn’t matter. There will be a man who will see you are beautiful and how important you are in his life.
Invest in Yourself.
Take care of your body. As we grow old, our bodies change. You need to treat yourself with love and respect. Make time to rest and relax. Have time to exercise and eat nutritious food. If you are healthy that is your wealth. You can create your wealth if you are healthy. Add knowledge by reading books, listening and watching self-help audio books online. Fill up your mind with positive thoughts. Learn SELF-CARE. Try to hibernate from social media, so you will be able to appreciate small things around you, not thinking of others what they say. Don’t please others by what you wear. Wear yourself comfortably and confidently.
Surround yourself with good people.
Connect with your family or friends who encourage and support you. Avoid those people who will stress and discourage you. Do not share all your dreams. Keep a secret to yourself. Only share your dream to a person whom you can trust. Sometimes it’s best to keep your plan to yourselves rather than telling it to others. Some people are not happy to hear your plans or dreams.
Keep your integrity
Follow your heart what is right. God will grant you good favor and you will receive His blessings. Do what you know is right, not what looks right to others. It is worthwhile to wait, especially when the man in your life is the will of God.
I am sharing you a prayer, I used for 4 years before God answered my prayers. This prayer was given to me and it is also an answered prayer to her. “Thank you, Lord, for sending me the right man to be my husband” Keep praying that. Acknowledge that you already receive it. Pray until something happens. But make sure to also take action. Meet and greet. Smile always and confidently walk beautiful with a humble heart.
"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new." -Albert Einstein. Try something outside of your comfort zone.
That's right man is also waiting for you, it will just take time. So, while waiting, use your time wisely. Don’t think about your age, it is just a number. Look ahead of the days you will meet that right man, it will be a picturesque scene, a moment between you and him carved with love.
Don't forget to invite me on your wedding day. I am excited for you.
Mark 11:24 “Whatever you ask for in prayers, believe that you received it and it will be yours”