I See you! I Hear you! I AM LISTENING!  I AM HERE FOR YOU. I will be your VOICE!  

maeann
Posted October 19, 2020 from Philippines
I See you! I Hear you! I AM LISTENING!  I AM HERE FOR YOU. I will be your VOICE! 

In the last month of July this year, we received the saddest news… a far relative which we consider a good friend committed suicide. At first, we cannot believe it. We never thought that he was suffering and this pandemic added anxiety, thinking he can’t handle the things that are happening and will happen. 

It is scary to know the last thought and feelings of a person who finally decided to finish his/her own life.

If only we reach him. If only we know his situation. If only. 

But If, is already too late.  

These words… I see you! I hear you! I am Listening! I ask myself who needs this most? And how can I send this message to let them know that I CARE and that they are not ALONE?

Usually, I invite a friend for a coffee to have a chat. I go home and visit my family/relatives. But because of this covid19, it limits me to interact with my family and friends face to face.

When you chat with them or a video call, they don’t usually share their feelings. Seldom do people say that they are depressed because they are shy to show their weakness.

When did you ask how are you? I am okay, but deep inside they are not okay.

I want them to know that, they are important, they have a purpose, they are loved.  

Some may not aware that they are depressed. I once had the experience of being depressed, never thought I was. But I was able to write down how I felt and realize I was depressed (https://bit.ly/31kCvbj). 

I choose to fight and live because I have a dream and a purpose. I have to make things beautiful around me. I am responsible for creating my memories. The best investment is me, so I need to invest in myself.

I cannot control what other people do to me. I cannot control what other people do around me. But I can control how I respond. I should not please others by what I wear or what I post on social media. I avoid posting on my newsfeed things that trigger envy, jealousy, or comparisonitis.

Do not try to change anyone. You can only change yourself. Don't put yourself under stress or pressure, on something that you cannot control.

We are equal to complete each other. 

How I reach and send this message to those who are feeling down?

I challenge myself to make a video of an exercise that I will do daily for 25 days. This idea is not originally my idea. My main purpose is to send this message to those who are undergoing depression whether he/she acknowledges it, hiding it, or in denial. 

This is not about who had the first idea (I admire who initiated this idea, I give credit to them). This is not getting more likes and love on social media.  

This is about the PURPOSE of the MESSAGE. The message is no one should feel that they are alone. The message is to SAVE LIFE. The message is I LOVE YOU! I SEE YOU! I HEAR YOU! I AM LISTENING! 

Not everyone can express their feeling thru writing. Not everyone can express their feelings thru speaking. My action of reaching them out is a simple way to let them know I AM HERE FOR YOU. I will be your VOICE!  

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Here is what I post on Facebook, and I’m on the 3rd Day Challenge.

BREAK the SILENCE!!!

I see you! I hear you! I am Listening! 

Depression is real, not to be ashamed of. I was there too, but I choose to fight and live because I have a dream and a purpose. You too! 

You are IMPORTANT! 

You have a PURPOSE! 

You are LOVED!

I will do this to show YOU that I CARE for YOU! 

A 25 days Physical Challenge (any fitness, exercise will do) 25 counts for 25 days.

How?

*Choose any exercise you preferred daily or depends on your pace and finish it by 25 counts for 25 days

*Take a video of yourself

*Copy-paste this and post your video on your newsfeed

*Each day/post nominate a family or friend 

Day 3 of 25, I am challenging ___________

Together let us BREAK the SILENCE!!!

You are not ALONE! 

I am here...

Ways you can help someone who is feeling down:

1.let them know you care and are there to listen

2.accept them as they are, without judging them

3.help them to stay active, eat good food and get a good night's sleep

4.find support groups and psychological therapy services which may be available

5.stay in touch with them by messaging, texting, phoning, or meeting for coffee - people who are depressed can become isolated and may find it difficult to leave their home

6. try to be patient

7.take care of yourself

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I am not an expert advisor on mental health. What I know is I need SELF CARE to improve my health, sustain my well-being and happiness.

Send me a message if you need a friend to talk with or need a prayer: https://bit.ly/3m3n2nU

The Aspire Reinvent Women conference I attended ignited myself to continue to encourage because encouragement is an elixir of love. This is iReinvent myself.

I see you! I hear you! I am Listening! Is an inspiration shared by Karen Axalan (https://bit.ly/3kbCe1Z) World Pulse Encourager Advisor and Ambassador | Storyteller | Feature Writer | Development Worker. She was one of the speakers at The Aspire Reinvent Women Conference last October 13-14, 2020.  

To be an encourager join: https://bit.ly/3jaTPWC

If you think and feel that you are DEPRESS here is a link, a warning signs for you to see, and if it’s time for you to seek help toward healing and recovery: https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/recognizing-symptoms

Free telephone Counselling Hotlines in the Philippines: https://www.opencounseling.com/hotlines-ph and Mental Health Resources: http://www.silakbo.ph/help/

 

This story was submitted in response to Stronger Together.

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Jill Langhus
Oct 23
Oct 23

Hello Dear Mae Ann,

How are you doing?

Thanks for sharing this lovely, empathetic post to encourage people to be more empathetic, and aware to those who are suffering silently.

Hope you have a great week. XX

maeann
Oct 20
Oct 20

Helo Heloo Jill :) thank you for always the first to read and make a comment. You are a truly encourager and truly a sister!

Jill Langhus
Oct 21
Oct 21

Hello there:-)

You're welcome! Aw, thank you!

Hope you're doing well.

XX

Nini Mappo
Oct 20
Oct 20

Hello Maeann,
You are so cute with your jump rope, good speed! I can't jump rope, at least not for a year but you jump for me:)
Thank you for the reminder that expressing care can be the difference for those struggling with mental illness. And good on you for taking the exercise commitment to show your solidarity with those who may be struggling. By the way, why did you use sign language?
I love the autumn in your backyard:)

maeann
Oct 20
Oct 20

Helo Heloo Nini :) thank you for reading and for your encouragement.

It was my 3rd day and the 2nd video is a message for the deaf and with hearing impairment.

I have 22 more videos to finish...

Corine Milano
Oct 20
Oct 20

Maeann, your kind, compassion, and warm spirit shines through in this post - thank you for your words and your caring heart!

maeann
Oct 22
Oct 22

Helo Heloo Corine :)

I am trying to be of purpose and being a voice of those who are living silently.

Thank you and will try to be more creative in the coming videos

Aga
Oct 21
Oct 21

Dear maeann you see me, you hear me, you are listening. Thank you, i often cry, i've been through alot, now i'm separated from ex-husband, divorce under process but my people don't know and don't want to know how i feel, but deep inside i'm so sad, so lonely.

maeann
Oct 22
Oct 22

Dear Aga,

I send my warm hugs to you. Thank you for acknowledging the message of this post. Thank you for sharing how you feel and what you are going through.

I hear you. I see you. I am listening.

May this send you comfort. I also sent you a private message.

Sabiha Hasan
Oct 21
Oct 21

Nice initiative, keep it up!

maeann
Oct 22
Oct 22

Thank you Sabiha.

valem
Oct 22
Oct 22

dear sister maeann
How are you? Thanks so much for your sharing this message this message is about me thank you sister i am taking action

maeann
Oct 22
Oct 22

Hi Valem, thank you for taking action...

LEILA D
Oct 23
Oct 23

Hello Mae Ann!

I love your post. So much feelings on it.

You are right- we can change only ourselves or our reaction to situation.

I would love to share with you my favorite Formula: E+R=O
Event +Response= Outcome.

You are not alone. We are here with you.

Big hug,
Leila

maeann
Oct 27
Oct 27

Helo Leila :) I like your formula E+R=O
That makes me thought of giving meaning to VOICE.
Victorious
Optimistic
Important
Considerate
Empowered

Thank you for listening.

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 23
Oct 23

Dear Maeann,
What an inspiring post, with so many ideas of how we can take care of ourselves, and how important that we reach others, how important to be heard and to hear that others go trough similar hard times. I loved seeing you jumping, living up to this promise to yourself, and watching you use sign language was beautiful.

maeann
Oct 27
Oct 27

Hi Tam, thank you! this is my way of reaching out to those who are hiding or living silently. I hope thru this, I'd be able to let them know that I Care for them.

MUVUNYI FABIENNE
Oct 25
Oct 25

Dear Maeann,

Thanks for sharing your story.

maeann
Oct 27
Oct 27

Thank you Muvunyi, I hope this will work out.

Hello, Dear Mae Ann,

My sincere condolences to you and your whole clan for losing a relative to depression. Thank you for caring by doing this 25 days awareness post of I see you, I hear you, I'm listening. :) You are caring and kind. You certainly deserve a World Pulse Clap!

I haven't been in social media for a while since the Aspire event. I hope all is well with you. Keep your light shining until no depressed person is left behind. We stand with you!

maeann
Oct 27
Oct 27

Hi Karen, thank you. It was indeed sad news. Thank you also for keeping the light shining. We both are the voice of the silent.

Guzel Majidi
Oct 26
Oct 26

This was an amazing one. best of luck Ms. Maeann.

maeann
Oct 27
Oct 27

Thank you Guzel. Hope you are well.

MUKABA ZAWADI
Oct 27
Oct 27

merci d'avoir patager votre histoire c'est vraiment intéressant, j'adore

maeann
Oct 29
Oct 29

De rien. Merci pour le temps de le lire. J'en suis à mon 12e jour de saut, comptant pour terminer le défi de 25 jours

Lilac
Oct 30
Oct 30

This is well thought. Thank you for being the voice of those who feel inadequate.
It is important to listen to people and being present emotionally. Most people are present physically but checked out emotionally.

maeann
Nov 05
Nov 05

Hi Lilac :) how are you?

I agree with you. I am on my 15 days of my campaign and inviting volunteers to join me before i end this.

Thank you for having time to read.