Initiative Update

Another suicide in my community: Let's step up self esteem

Marie Abanga
Posted February 13, 2021 from Cameroon
Ndolo Rest in peace
Rest in peace Ndolo

I woke up to the sad news of a beautiful sister in the Cameroonian community abroad who had died by suicide.

The sources say she caught her husband with another woman on their bed and this wasn't the first time.

As a suicide survivor, I know it wasn't about the man but about a distorted cognition which could have been distorted by several things stemming more often than not from a low self-esteem.

I therefore did a Facebook live video and a Vlog on YouTube to share some reflections based on a research study showing that a low self esteem could lead to a mental illness.

She was known as Ndolo...may she rest in peace and may we left behind become more aware, more compassionate, more hopeful and helpful, and above all shun stigma.

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Katrina Maria
Feb 13
Feb 13

I am very sorry for your loss its why a support system is needed sometimes things get too much, just a person to talk too

Marie Abanga
Feb 13
Feb 13

Dear katrina,

Thank you, the collective psyche is shaken and I hope many use this opportunity to make the best choices they need for their mental health.

Jill Langhus
Feb 13
Feb 13

Hi Marie,

This is sad. Thanks for sharing your informative video and helping to continue to break norms and stigmas.

Marie Abanga
Feb 13
Feb 13

Dear Jill,

Thank you so much. I really appreciate and yes I keep doing my best

Jill Langhus
Feb 15
Feb 15

You're very welcome. Congrats on your Spirit Award, too:-)

Tamarack Verrall
Feb 13
Feb 13

Dear Marie,
So many women have felt broken when the man they are committed to betrays. So many disappointments and confidence breaking experiences can lie under that moment of wanting to end the pain. This is tragic, may she rest in peace.

Marie Abanga
Feb 16
Feb 16

Dear Tam,

Thank you. It is indeed so sad and I really wish my sisters could get to the point of loving MEN less if that's such a source of trauma, disappointments and breach of trust. I do agree with you that committing your all like that to another human being forgetting your own self in the process is unhealthy.
Let's take great care of hearts and minds always
Love always,
Marie

rebecca.tang
Feb 15
Feb 15

I am sorry to hear this. It is really sad. On the other hand, really appreciate your meaningful work to help to improve the esteem of women. It can save lives.
Hope the sister RIP! May Almighty God bless all of you!

Marie Abanga
Feb 16
Feb 16

Dear Rebecca,

Thank you so much. With each of such tragedies, I realize how much more I still got to do. I have a dream too that someday we will have many more full of esteem women than not.

The world needs your message, Marie. It's heartbreaking when women succumbed to suicide. There's no judgment at all. But I hope there would be more encouragers rising up to hold another woman's hand during her lowest times.

Marie Abanga
Feb 16
Feb 16

Dear Kaye,

Thank you for your comment and oh yes I just realize my purpose was to be trailblazer on such a daunting path I personally need a lot of steadying on. But, the more encouragement I get from comments like yours, the better my paths become. Imagine now if each woman had such encouragement available to them? You are doing so well helping us all embrace encouraging one another so

You're welcome, dear. Yes, you are a trailblazer for sure. That's exactly what I want to see in this world, women will have encouragers by their side so they will not succumb to suicide. Keep on keeping on. We need your tribe to increase! Thank you for your kind words. :)