The Secrets we keep and their effects on our mental health

Marie Abanga
Posted October 10, 2021 from Cameroon

Today is celebrated as World Mental Health Day and the theme for this year is "Mental Health in an Unequal World". This is so broad and can be looked at from several angles beginning with understanding what mental health is. 

Mental health is a state of holistic wellness which enables us to live a holistically balanced and productive life. 

Well, when we keep secrets maybe out of shame for what we did or what people did to us, or out of fear of what people will think/say/do, we suffer and our mental health starts to deteriorate. I know what am talking about because I had once gotten into a situation I could as well hide as a secret for life. 

I had/have a son with a priest of the Roman Catholic church. The video made on my special son's 18th birthday narrates that all.

I didn't want my mental health to take more heat than it was already taking from and following my parents awful divorce.

I share my story which I owned from the moment he was born, to inspire motivate and encourage someone out there to free themselves of the yoke of a secret and the stigma the world can throw on them if they come to find out your secret.

Inequalities will.always exist but you can learn to navigate the scenarios and then walk away head high "yes I fumbled but am back in my feet"...

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Adriana Leigh G.
Oct 10
Oct 10

Ooooh my Marie, I just logged in to see this as the first post on my feed and it was meant to be. This. is. bravery. embodied. I channel your truth naming and honour it. May this naming inspire us all to name truth, unequivocally. It takes women like you to push the truth into the light, out of the darkness. The murkiness of shame dissolves in the naming of truth. Keep speaking, keep naming, keep shining.

Hugs from Montreal Marie on this day,
Adriana

Marie Abanga
Oct 11
Oct 11

Dear Adriana,

Oh how I feel you my dear sister. Thanks for the comment and encouragement, I am really grateful. May we all avoid such murkiness lures in our lives the best we can

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 10
Oct 10

Dear Marie,
Always pearls of wisdom from you. This reminder not to hide things that we may have done or that have been done to us, out of shame or feelings of responsibility. Not only do you rise above what this priest did in his position of power, you freed yourself to love your son and celebrate his birth and his life. You so beautifully remind us that throughout our lives we face being hard on ourselves for so many reasons. Thank you for the reminder that we are capable of navigating the times that we have a tendency hold onto as imperfect.

Marie Abanga
Oct 11
Oct 11

Dear Tam,
Thanks indeed, and yes yes why burden ourselves further when the world also suppresses us so much?
I always remind myself I am as mere mortal as anything and so should just relax and enjoy the trip as free of murks as possible hahahahaha

Shirley Asiedu-Addo
Oct 11
Oct 11

Woow...strength...may we all live above our "shame".

Marie Abanga
Oct 11
Oct 11

Hi Shirley,

And yes yes Amen my sister

rebecca.tang
Oct 12
Oct 12

Thank you for sharing. Mental health is important to everyone. Everyone has their emotion and stress. We have to handle it in a positive way. If there is issue, it is really recommended to look for professional assistance.
Be strong! Take Care!
May Almighty God bless you!

Marie Abanga
Oct 12
Oct 12

Dear Becky,

Thank you so much for your comment. Yes yes yes to all you remark
Take care too sis

Beth Lacey
Oct 12
Oct 12

Hi, Marie. I missed that 10/12 is World Mental Health Day. Thanks for raising it up to us.

Marie Abanga
Oct 12
Oct 12

Dear Beth,

I am grateful you are catching it up via me lol. Will do a post sharing the chat I had with a fellow pulser from Cameroon on the ground zero where the crisis is going on, and how they are struggling to survive it all

megsmueller
Oct 13
Oct 13

Hi Marie
Thanks for your story. Shame and fear really causes instability. Truth is freedom. I do admire your strength and you are always such an inspiration. You have entered a new realm, fresh with lots of light beaming outwards and hurting the eyes of the spectators. Yes, there will always be spectators but what they don't know is, they are being educated and entertained with what is yet to transpire.
I love the video!!!!! vibrant and interesting.

Thank you.
Much love to you.

Marie Abanga
Oct 14
Oct 14

Dear Meg,

Thank you very much for your lovely comment. I am so touched and grateful for the opportunity to create such an impact by my authentic, vulnerable and intentional living.
Light and love to you always