Yes I am a WILD WOMAN and so what I dare ask?

Marie Abanga
Posted October 17, 2021 from Cameroon

I was recently called a wild woman. That I was uncontrollable, too loud, too this and too that...that finding a 'husband' will be hard for me at such a rate (like I was even trying to find one - again hahahahahaha; been there done that). And so this morning I have the following to share in all my WILDNESS...dunno if am the only WILD WOMAN around oooo

#selfadvocacy #selfempowerment #selfconfidence #selfcare #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #selfgrowth #selfesteem #selflove #selfemployed and all the other selfies anyone cares to add. I am very intentional and conscious about a lot of the choices I make in my life for over a decade now. I am not trying to fit in, but to disrupt in my own way so that some 'weird' ones too like myself will know they are not alone. I know where I am coming from and where I am going too as long as I got breath. All the curation and juxtaposition here and there so that this or that person thinks, feels, says or does that about me, was dumped a decade ago. I respect people's choices to be them and avoid having to do anything to do with me if that suits them, and I expect and demand in all ways I can, the same respect because #mymentalhealthmatters

And so this am I wrote this poem with such passion, for the WILD WOMAN I (and probably other sisters) are lol  

 

WILD WOMAN

She yawns with no hand over her mouth

She speaks like she were spitting

She dresses like she were daring

She shows up like not a care

She's a Wild Woman

 

She gives herself names so weird

She engages in actions and reactions

She goes about them with stubbornness

She sings with a croaked voice

She's such a Wild Woman

 

She scares quiet a few people

She smirks at decorum sometimes

She has so many shades it's a blur

She holds her head so high you'd wonder

She's indeed a most Wild Woman

 

What can be done to tame her?

What can be said to maim her?

What can be concocted to rein her?

Or maybe leaving her alone is safe?

Might not be wise to avoid your sane.

 

(c) Marie Abanga 18th October, 2021

 

 

 

 

 

 

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megsmueller
Oct 18
Oct 18

Hi Marie

I'm loving it! Every line had me excited...and feeling real! You have spoken for multitudes in your poem. Reminds me of a song "please don't change me, I'm changing the world"... Thank you for your intense freedom of expression, it is well received.

Much love to you dear.

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

My dear Megs,

Your comment is the type that makes me keep at and really ignore the detractors. Imagine how many sisters have let their lights dim out because they were called wild or 'unsubmissive' etc crap. Let's keep doing us sis
hugs

karadevita
Oct 20
Oct 20

Marie - I feel your energy and hear you loud and clear! I LOVE your poem and am inspired to be bolder with your words. I love the mention of disruption!! Thank you so much for sharing your voice with us all!

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Hi dear,

Thank you so much

Yes yes let's disrupt if that's what it will take for our voices to be herd and our bodies left alone oooo

Go bold all the way

Anna Dylewska
Oct 20
Oct 20

I like all your SELFIES :-) Keep going! And good luck :-)

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Dear Anna,

Thank you so much

Let's all keep going right sis

xo xo

mgutierrez
Oct 20
Oct 20

All my best friends are "wild" in their own way! :)
Some call it wild, others call it unapologetically their beautiful selves.

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Hi dear and isn't it so beautiful?

I don't know why some expect everybody to be the same or tow some donkey line called conforming to societal norms, customs and traditions etc

Sarahd23
Oct 20
Oct 20

Marie, I love how bold and powerful your statements are. I too have been called 'feisty', 'critical', 'opinionated', 'stubborn' etc as if these words are meant as feedback for me to change. However, I take them as compliments, you're right when you say 'disruptor' this is exactly what being authentic is to me and I won't apologise for it. I don't want to be a sheep I want to set my own path and have impact. Thanks for speaking out for the disruptors!

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Aha dear Sarah,

Stubborn and co I have been called too and also wear them as badges of honour so no one messes with me periodtttttttt.

Let's keep disrupting

Grace Iliya
Oct 20
Oct 20

Dear Marie, any one can be said to wild at some point depending on the circumstances. What others see as wild could indeed turn out to be mild in some other persons eyes. Your boldness is unique. Please be who you are.

Much Love

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Sis oooooo,

Come see me sef see trouble

Let me never be 'mild' sef whatever the measure for that is and how it helps one in this rustic world where sometimes it's a burden and battle being a woman/
Thanks for your comment and compassion

METIEGE OKON NOEL EVE

Hello sis don't be bothered being called a Wild Woman. With time I have come to realise that every Strong and Bold African WOMAN is labelled A WILD WOMAN. Dear keep being you and keep frustrating their insecurities. Just keep surfing higher while the weak minded and not daring people will keep wondering what is her drive. Remember that success is for the BOLD and DARING PEOPLE
SENDING HUGS

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

awwwwww my own GS,

Thank you so much. I will indeed 'keep frustrating their insecurities'; it just gets to me sometimes but I now let it fuel some inspiring, motivating and encouraging creativity in me.
Hugs all the way back

Queen Sheba D Cisse
Oct 23
Oct 23

Greetings Marie, how are you doing my dear sister?
I am reading the poem and article , it is very inspirational, I feel we women can relate to your words and meaning and I want to add my two cents loud and clear: yes we respect others choices and opinions of freedom of speech, "Be You"!
Thanks for reminding us to simply be ourselves and for sharing,

Mama Queen

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

The Queen herself,

Thank you so much not only for your support but for you two cents. Indeed can we just let each other be so long as there is no danger tour lives and wellbeing?

I hope all is well with you sis

Queen Sheba D Cisse
Oct 25
Oct 25

Thanks Marie, it's nice to read your stories and hope you are safe and well, blessings to you!

Mama Queen

Maero
Oct 24
Oct 24

Your wildness is what makes you YOU....be unapologetically YOU

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Awwwwwwwweeeeeee dear Maero oooooo,

Thank you so much

Be YOU always too

Maero
Oct 25
Oct 25

Always

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 24
Oct 24

Marie, dear Sister,
When I began to read your latest news out to us all, I felt the biggest smile begin. As I read your poem, I laughed out loud all the way through. So much love to you, from one wild woman to another, feeling acknowledged by your open and generous wildness. You are an inspiration to us all.

Marie Abanga
Oct 25
Oct 25

Dear Tam,

Thank you ever so much for your comments full of love and solidarity. I think we'll just start owing all those labels or titles they throw our was right?
Light and love always
Marie

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 26
Oct 26

Dear Marie,
Yes! Yes! I love the way you melt down their insults into ownership. Every time you make us laugh we are empowered.