"The Winter Lady" is a collection of poems from women who become "the winter ladies" of men in the West they met online who seek the warmth and comfort of the tropics. They become subjected to a culture of deception and left alone to depression.

Malou Alorro
Posted August 10, 2019 from Philippines
"The Winter Lady" is a collection of women's voices whose loving relations were experienced with foreign men they met online in dating sites. These women were assured of loving relationships and marriage but left behind for other women. They become "the winter ladies" from men in the West who seek the warmth and comfort of the tropics. They become subjected to a culture of deception and left alone to depression. Last November 18, 2017 this book was launched at the Cebu City Museum located on the 2nd floor of the Cebu City Public Library at Osmeña Boulevard, Cebu City Philippines. It's a collection of poems of women's voices.

The Winter Lady Book Launch last November 18, 2017 together with another book.

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Jill Langhus
Aug 11
Aug 11

Hi Malou,

Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your poem collection, and accompanying photos. Did you write this collection? What prompted you to write these poems? Were you one of the "winter ladies" that were written about in the collection? How was the collection receive at the museum, i.e., I wondered how much recognition the collection is getting. It's certainly sounds interesting and a topic that needs to have more awareness about it, too.

I'm looking forward to seeing more posts from you. Hope you're having a good weekend.

Malou Alorro
Aug 11
Aug 11

Hello Jill. Thank you for being the first to reply to this and to send love. Yes, the collection has a personal ring to it. It took form after 2 years of writing about it and I consider these as birth poems - I met a French Canadian at the internet dating site in 2013 who came over and we stayed together and had really happy times. There was a promise of marriage until his next return. He pretended to be missing and I was out of my wits looking for him and coordinating with the police only to meet him again online telling me he is with another woman and I should stop looking for him. It was very depressing and stressful and I sought the help of a local non-government organization (NGO), Legal Alternatives for Women Inc (LAW Inc.) for counseling and I learned that other women they have counseled also met the same fate of deception from older men who they met online. There's a promise of a loving relationship but they actually play with the woman's emotion. Even the police told me, "it happens all the time." Fortunately, the book "The Winter Lady" generated a lot of support, especially from women's organizations and fellow writers. There were invitations to talk about it on TV (at CCTN, on "The Joy of Women") and in the radio program, at DYSS "Ang Kababayen-an Karon" or The Women Today. You are right, the matter has not been fully recognized as there are few women who talk about it. But it happens. These older men from the West or cold countries who want to savor the warmth of the tropics turn many Asian women into "winter ladies". The poetry collection cautions. Thank you once again for your message. :)

Jill Langhus
Aug 12
Aug 12

You're welcome, dear!

Oh:( That's a sad story. I figured there must be a story like that behind the inspiration:-(

Oh, wow! That's great that you have been recognized and acknowledged for your work, as well as bringing more awareness around this topic. I hope less women will be blind-sided because you had the idea, motivation, and drive to publish this book.

You're welcome. Hope you write more about your whole journey with the creation of this book in the future, like more about your personal story, your tv appearance, and other exposure that you have, or had, received.

Hope you have a great week!

Hello, Malou,

Congratulations on your published book! Welcome to World Pulse, too!

Yay! I’m so happy a new voice is rising up from the Philippines! Bisaya pa jud! Bag-o ra mi namalhin sa Cebu. Hope to meet you!

Looking forward to reading more about your journey. This is a safe space for women.