Pakistan: There is no honour in killing

Mannat
Posted September 28, 2017 from Pakistan

Love marriage is a choice not a crime. In Pakistan honour killing is a serious issue. Women with the fear of the families don’t tell the parents about the guy they like and adopt a way of court marriage. And after to save the so called family honour women are killed.

The story of a girl , who was in love with a guy but both knew that their families would not agree for their marriage. And they did the court marriage , and parents of boy accepted the girl and started living happily. After a few days girl mother came and ask the girl its ok come to your home no body will say you any thing. The boy was not agree but the girl went to her home. She was pregnant at that time and her mother with her sister husband burnt her alive because the honour of the family was brought to dishonour. It happened in a very modern city of Pakistan.

I did love marriage but the time i told to my parents and my parents were angry with me. But i came to my in laws family they welcomed me and after that my mother and my brother also accepted the marriage only this happen because my family was educated and i m living a happy life. They were angry but they did not torture me.

A social media celebrity Qandeel Baloch who was killed by her brother in the name of honour , even her parents had not any problem with the work she was doing. Even they were happy with their daughter. Her fault was that she did what she wanted to do.

In Pakistan honour killing is serious crime. About 500 women are killed each year at the hand of family members over perceived damage to honour. In most cases victim is woman and killer is relative who escape punishment by seeking forgiveness from family members. There were the laws but implementation was not there.

Recently the government as made new law , the new law mandates life imprisonment of honour killer even if the victim family members forgive the murderer. The women are always the victims. It happen in South East Asia where on the name of honour , dowry , giving birth to girls women are killed. Today we are in the 21st century but we are still strangled in the feudal customs. I hope this legislation will stop killing on the name of honour.

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jlanghus
Sep 29, 2017
Sep 29, 2017

Hi Mannat. All I can say is, wow. This is sooo sad. It seems like there aren't any repercussions for these murderers, because that's what it is:-( I don't see how this is honorable, at all. I do hope this newly implemented law will take hold and turn things around quickly for women there. It's so wrong. I hope people don't just disregard/not report the incidents, but real justice taking place so that it ends. Do keep us posted on the progress of this law. I hope to get a positive report from you soon so that this practice can be reversed in the foreseeable future.

Sister Zeph
Sep 30, 2017
Sep 30, 2017

Dear Minnat yes in our country this is a really big issue and we cannot control it until we educate our people, at my school we are working so hard to end honor killing but still in just 7 months my two students have been killed for honor, there are so many reasons behind this horrible crime and we have to be enough bold to speak against them as you are speaking, I admire your courage thank you very much for raising your voice against this crime 

Mannat
Oct 04, 2017
Oct 04, 2017

Thanks, 

I m really pleased that people like you are working to stop this. Every one has to work by raising voice and educating people that it is not honour, its a right  women have as all men have. Why woman is a target?? 

Aysh Khan
Oct 07, 2017
Oct 07, 2017

Oh wow.. This is a small world. 

Dear Mannat..!! Sister Zeph is the woman who encouraged me to write, she is my colleague from PTCL, friend and soul sister. And Mannat is a woman to whom I told further about World Pulse and encouraged her to write. She is my colleague from Educators School and believe me, she is equally close to my heart as a friend and as a soul sister as well. This comment is making me feel so exciting to see both of you talking each other.

Yes.. !! World Pulse is a place where women meet each other and encourage each other. Love both of you.

Your story is great and I am happy that you are expressing your feelings and giving solution to our society problem and the solution is obviously "Education and love"

Regards,

Ayesha. Write and Vocal Contributor at World Pulse

Jensine Larsen
Oct 07, 2017
Oct 07, 2017

Wow, this post thread is so inspiring to see the circle of women connecting that you have created Aysh, Sister Zeph and Mannat!  May the circle widen to end so called honor killings once and for all!!

Aysh Khan
Oct 10, 2017
Oct 10, 2017

Dear Jensine,

All credit goes to you my dear. Its you who have thought such a big thing to connect women from all over the world. Its who took stand for others and we are now able to share our journey. Now when my two stories have been selected for publishing at World Pulse. I feel myself a completely different person. I feel so confident and encouraged. I feel that there are people who understand and care.

Love you and thank you for all of this.

Aysh,

Writer, Vocal Contributor and Encourager at World Pulse

Mannat
Oct 11, 2017
Oct 11, 2017

Dear Jensine,

A small world, really pleased and honour that u commented on y story, yes Aysh encouraged me and i started writing , having a tough life it gives me an honour that i m writing about the women issues. 

Education and change in thinking is compulsory 

Thanks

JulieG
Oct 01, 2017
Oct 01, 2017

Dear Minnat,

Yes, thank you for your courage to speak out.  I hope this new legislation is what is needed to stop this horrific practice.  Can't even fathom honor being more important than your child's life.   Grateful you were able to choose a marriage for love without violent consequences.  Best wishes to you.

Mannat
Oct 04, 2017
Oct 04, 2017

Thanks,

Yes we have to educate people about it , the religious scholars role is also vital. The media is playing very positive role to stop this type of killing.

Olutosin
Oct 05, 2017
Oct 05, 2017

Dear Mannat, thanks so much for writing about the topic. I have also heard about it. It's wrong . I agree that education will solve this problem. It will help to change peoples mindset.

its sad that this is happening.

Jennifer Flaman
Oct 19, 2017
Oct 19, 2017

These stories never fail to shock me.  Laws help.  People like you willing to share your stories help more.  Thank you for continuing to raise our collective consciousness about this.  Beyond people knowing that this actually still happens, we need to raise our collective voice and outrage at this practice.  This is not acceptable and as more and more people state this with courage, society will come to listen.  Thank you again for sharing this.

mae me
Oct 30, 2017
Oct 30, 2017

Dear Mannat,

As I continually connect with different women around the world, my eyes opened from different issues of women because of tradition, cultures and norms.  The story you have shared brings awareness to my mind that beyond my borders, there are more women needs help.