This was one ofthe disgusting thing that have happen to me and a horrible thing that can happen to any woman ,you can't imagine theemotional trauma I have been in, sharing not only myhusband but a room as with your co-wife.
why should a man in his right sences decideto make two womenshare a room, is that not a violation of the right of a woman how can I share this story with my family and friends, is my heart make up of stone or why are the feeling of women never put into consideration how did I found myself in this situation.
We had travel to tchad I though it was for us to spent the holidays even if itwas not sowhy should he not have prepare for the journey it was later that I came to know that we are going there to be enrolled in an Islamic school toincrease our knowledge on Islamic studies, we arrivedtchad at about 4pm after spending two days on the way,we had a lot of difficulties because it was during the period of BokoHaram and their destructive activities ,we were strangers it was not easy to get a room to let every one was afraid of strangers, fortunatelywe saw a man who decide to help us with a roomfor 20,000frs. That same day we went to the market to buy few items for the house such as mat's, pots and spoons. we had no mattress we were to sleep on the mat it was not easy as I was with my son, we separated the room with a bed shit, i was on oneside and the other woman on the other side.
That night was the longest night of my life he was to spent the night with my co-wife, it painful when you share your husband but is a torture when youthesame room I could not sleep I was on my side of the room but my mind was elsewhere, the night was like a whole year for me my heart was bleeding with pains, does this means that I was brought here to be humiliated.
The next day I made break fast for every body and together we had to go find admission and start classes the following day, I start having misunderstanding with her when I was given money to buy foodstuffs for the house we went to the market together I needed to buy my rubbing oil because I had not bring mine but surprising when we came back to the house she told my husband that I had use the money for foodstufffor my personal use how can I have a problem with my husband in a strange land it took time before he could forgive me but the funny thing was that when ever am fine with my husband she becomes jealous for her is better we always quarrel so that she will be the favouriteshedid terrible things just to seperate me from my husband she was a small girl but hot like pepperI was always given the blame since I was elder to her she was just 15years.
One Friday our husband came back very early since he was doing his part time job i wasabout to inform him that his wife was no were to be found but he told me that she was at the job side asking for money and when he refused she heldhim on the neck and said he most give her the money, she came back late at night she was ask were she wentto but she remain quiet he was force to called her mother to inform her of what her daughter have beendoing but unfortunately for me shesaid i was the evil spirit which was disturbing her I had no one but my little boy who was my comfort, the aimed of us going to tchad was put aside because we had to focus on her getting well, each day the situation worsen and we had to come back to Douala I pray to God for her recovery just so that i willbe vindicated, despite my predicament I knew that one day I will pass through, we fight almost every day despite the fact that she was sick for me it was just a pretend I could not support I had to leave the housealthough at the end I went back to my parent place two week later she too was driven away i have live a life full of up and down but I never gave up for I knew better thing are one the way.
There are millions ofwomen who are face with emotional trauma without no one to share their pains.
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