I am Dis-Abled and so what???

Marie Abanga
Posted December 3, 2018 from Cameroon

 

Today is World Disability Day and here is a basic definition I got from the world wide web: Collins dictionary defined disability thus: "Disability is a permanent injury, illness, or physical or mental condition that tends to restrict the way that someone can live their life."

Do I need to remind the world of my dis-Abilities? I wear hearing aids (and so what?), I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis and suffered for two good years limping and downing meds (and so what?), I was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disoder aka PTSD in 2014, indeed I used to be so messed up up there I attempted suicide in February 2009 (gimmie a big break here - and so what?). 

Now, if I can't remember anymore of dem damn dis-Abilities, need I start writing about Marie Abanga Global? About the association Hope for the Abused and Battered? 

Come on people stop giving words so much limitation powers.

Find the ability in your disability, show some empathy, compassion and even sympathy ( who knows which you know or prefer?). 

Dare to turn your dis-Ability into something beautiful, stand up, speak up and shine on.

As far as I am concerned, I now know how to take care of me, all dem damn dis-Abilities and more #StoptheStigma #StoptheShame #DisabilitynotInability #IamMAGnectic

 

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Jill Langhus
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Hello Miss Marie:)

How are you doing? I think it hit a tender spot with this topic. Sorry you have been the but of stigmatization, dear. I love your empowering words, though about turning disabilities, or even perceived disabilities into something beautiful. Doesn't this usually mean that we have strengths in other areas and/or we are meant to heal parts of humanity that need healing/understanding around this topic? I'm interested to hear what you have to say about this...

Hope you're having a good day.

Marie Abanga
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Dear Ms J,

Thanks for your comment. Indeed, we have so much in each and every one of us, it's so sad we stigmatize one another based on some labels like 'disability' or even the name of your country come to think of it. And you are right, I speak up sometimes even so 'forcefully' because I feel it in me to raise awareness and sensitize as many as possible about these otherwise 'taboo' or 'stigmatized' subjects. I had to live some of those experiences myself for greater empathy and impact when I share.
Hope what I say makes sense lol
Yes my day is coming up cool
Hugs to you

Jill Langhus
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

You're very welcome:-) Too true, and too sad:-(

That makes a lot of sense about speaking up, and about having to live some of the experiences to gain greater perspective and empathy.

You, too, dear...

Lisbeth
Dec 03, 2018
Dec 03, 2018

Hi Marie,
Thanks for your story. You summary it beautiful but honestly the reality on the ground is shocking. Come what may we might try as hard to equal ourselves up to the so-called able persons but reality will always hit us.
Its always the norm especially with our hearing impaired family thinking nothing is wrong with them, refusing to see a limitation.

The other day in a bus in Accra I was seated next to a hearing impaired man. Even as visible as his hearing aid was, he was shouted and scream at on top of voices to drop down for a passenger to exist. I have to intervene that he was wearing a hearing aid, until then he would have received a quick slap as notices.
You see, we just saying we want to be accepted and respected as any person in the society. We not saying we do not have abilities? We saying our abilities are challenge by society and we do not want that period!

I hope you got the point :-).
Regards
Lizzy

Marie Abanga
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Hi Lizzy,
I really appreciate your comment and experience sharing. It is true that reality is still very different from what we would have longed for, but that's the more reason we have to continue talking and sharing. Sometimes, we have to be even as blunt as I tried to be in this write up.
I am so happy you spoke up for the man, since I am now a 'sort of public figure', anyone daring my hearing impairment to my face will get what they are looking for, same goes for any of my other dis-Abilites lol.
Hugs all the way
Marie

Beth Lacey
Dec 03, 2018
Dec 03, 2018

Thank you for sharing. People can be so intolerant on many fronts and this is one of them.
Beth

Marie Abanga
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Hi Beth,

Thank you for your comment. Empathy is so needed and I keep speaking up so we keep thing about all these.
Marie

Mauwa Brigitte
Dec 03, 2018
Dec 03, 2018

Hi MARIE ABANGA!

Thank you for sharing your story about the person living with a disability. I will say that disability is not the end of the world but it is an accident that happens without wanting to say that I want to commit suicide there you commit a sin; God is faithful will develop the other resting member to make life go on; put all your trust in Christ he will make you a hero and the world will be astonished. Take courage God will know you and he will support you.

Marie Abanga
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Dear Brigitte,
Thank you for your comment. Sure dis-Ability is not the end of the world.
Yes spiritually helps indeed.

Mauwa Brigitte
Dec 06, 2018
Dec 06, 2018

Thank you so much!

Theresa Takafuma
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Dear Marie
You write so beautifully. The way you write about your struggles and how you managed to get over them gives me so much hope. Shine on sis!
Lots of love.
Theresa

Marie Abanga
Dec 04, 2018
Dec 04, 2018

Dear T,

Thanks so much for your appreciative feedback. The point indeed of my writing and sharing is almost always to #BetheHope. Let's keep shining on o
lots of love
Marie

Tarke Edith
Dec 05, 2018
Dec 05, 2018

Dear sister Marie
thanks for sharing this on our platform

Marie Abanga
Dec 06, 2018
Dec 06, 2018

Hi sis Edith,

With all my pleasure always

Hugs

Ngala Nadege
Dec 07, 2018
Dec 07, 2018

Hello sis,
Thanks for sharing. Its not really easy in reality but if we could all join hands and voices to say no the stigma that comes with disabilities then it will greatly help.

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 09, 2018
Dec 09, 2018

Hi Maria,
Your message is so important and the video is powerful. I so agree...empathy, compassion, sympathy...and the understanding that can come through the demystifying and educating you are doing in your country and here, globally.
Hugs,
Tam

Jacqueline Namutaawe
Dec 11, 2018
Dec 11, 2018

Hey Marie, I love this statement it stands out for me...
Dare to turn your dis-Ability into something beautiful, stand up, speak up and shine on.
Shine on girl...Ulta continua

Olubee
Dec 20, 2018
Dec 20, 2018

Dear Sis,
I totally agree with you , that there is always an ability in disability.
Infact we are all handicapped in one way all the other,because there is no perfect human being.Everyone has an ability and a disability.
cheers.

Adanna
Jan 02
Jan 02

Dear Marie,

Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry about the stigmatization.

You are a courageous woman :)

Love,
Adanna

Marie Abanga
Jan 02
Jan 02

Dear Adanna,

Thank you so much for your comment. That's life sometimes we have to deal with so much. I thank God for the Grace to keep sharing and inspiring and motivating. I am equally humbled and honoured to keep learning too.

Love
Marie

Beltivate
Jan 13
Jan 13

This will go along way to impact so many lives,thanks for sharing and courage in your endeavors

Marie Abanga
Jan 16
Jan 16

Dear Beltivate,

Thanks for the feedback. My pleasure always. Thanks for the wishes too

Elizabeth Brewah
Feb 14
Feb 14

This is inspiring, I have a friend that is disabled, she stepped on a landmines during the civil war in my country and lost one leg, she is one of my best physical inspirations. Live in your present my dear, believe in yourself and live in peace at all times.

echo demitrez
Apr 22
Apr 22

serra werntyuiko jibbah seirl wontyio,

teekas yerben togghyuas dyuli yepto, dosgyhu awnchyuwas!

glyreeas.

Echo

Hadebe16
May 12
May 12

Marie you beautiful woman well done love the words you have used for awareness Rise up and Shine Let our words be transferred to actions and support Stay positive