World Pulse: The best advocacy platform I found just as I close the 3rd chapter of my life

Marie Abanga
Posted January 16, 2019 from Cameroon

I will be turning 40 in exactly 16 hours and when I look back at my third chapter, I am in awe. For starters, I am from Cameroon Africa where becoming wife, mother and stuff like that is more important it may seem than,  pursuing academic and professional goals. Let me put it another way; you sure know this thing about clocks - em biological clocks they are called. A woman's biological clock I gather picks up its ticking momentum as you enter your 20s up to mid 30s maybe? So, bottom line, get busy with life but mind the 'B' clock. And that I did mind to the point of even mixing it up, sort of became a mother even before becoming a wife. I was 24. Before any of you not from Cameroon or Africa roll your eyes, well that's our reality.

Life kept happening, and by 30 I was having my last son. This also means that, some of the other aspects of my life like my career were either on pause or jeopardized because motherhood and now wifehood took precedence. Couldn't they share me equally you may ask? Nope once again, in Cameroon or Africa for a larger part, those are difficult to cohabit o. Motherhood is challenging, wifehood double portion challenge. Add husband and unprepared then sit back and watch the different lab reactions. By the time I had dabbled and paddled and near taken myself out of life altogether in that marriage, I was a big big mess.

Get out, clean up, steady up, come back and speak it loud and clear. That was sort of the self talk which kept me going from the 11th May 2011 when I did start putting that into action. It wasn't easy one bit, but gradually I did. It took me sort of 2 years from that date to clean up. Look when you fall into a pigsty, you are so filthy you are prepared to use the hottest water possible to clean up and steady your steps once and for all - no more you say, no more. And so I steadied up slowly but surely until I was ready to come back. I mean, staying out there in Europe in my new found cozy and super comfort zone was so appealing, but nope once again, my sons were back home and bringing them over was beginning to look like not feasible after all. But, I had already gotten such a voice, having published 3 memoirs and carved a blogging niche for myself, I wasn't scared of showing my face anymore.

I parked everything, left a great relationship and landed back here on the 1st of August 2015. Start speaking girl - and so I did. On all platforms I could find or be invited to. I kept writing too. Currently have published 6 book. 

And, as if that wasn't enough, last year like in September or October, I remembered World Pulse (I had seen it online 5 years ago can you imagine?) and a chain of events led me here. It has simply been the best advocacy outlet so far. I mean wow wow wow. I wrote a letter to my childhood self  - never written one before, and I mean just like a week or less after joining World Pulse, and that story got featured. I have met people even from my country I may never have met otherwise. And the others from the world at large, hmmmm thank you World Pulse. I was just musing yesterday how I now know people even in Bhutan, Philippines and more. I read their stories and I like, that happens out there too? Could we be this much alike than different?

The feedback has been so motivating too. I can feel the impact both here and on the other social media outlets like Facebook, LinkeIn and twitter.

Last but not the least, I met a very special kindred spirit here, I can't wait to travel and meet them in flesh as we say back here. I have already met some of my Cameroonian sisters in person, spoken with others on phone and indeed so happy I took that leap to join World Pulse. I am a very busy person and live with my own health challenges, but I felt the pull to World Pulse and I am not relenting. My voice is all the more firmer, my projects becoming more fine tuned, I am all the more optimistic especially as I turn 40 which is a big deal for me.

This post was submitted in response to #OurImpact.

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ARREY - ECHI
Jan 17
Jan 17

Congratulations dear sis.
Keep impacting.

Marie Abanga
Jan 17
Jan 17

Thank you sis, I sure will by Grace o

jlanghus
Jan 17
Jan 17

Hello Dear Marie,

Happy almost-birthday:-) You have much to celebrate on this day. You should be proud of all the accomplishments you have created and for all the ones you will be creating. I'm so glad that you rediscovered WP, that you joined, and that you are finding it very fulfilling. I'm looking forward to seeing what you create with your center and future work, and also hearing about it. Hope we can meet up soon:-)

Have a great day!

Marie Abanga
Jan 17
Jan 17

Dear Jill,

Thank you so much. You are the very first encourager I met here and you have such lucky words the first post you made submit got featured hurray. I have hopes too, I mean high ones.
Love

jlanghus
Jan 17
Jan 17

You're welcome, dear:-)

Oh, I'm a lucky charm...ha:-)

I know you do, dear...:)

XX

Sis. Salifu
Jan 17
Jan 17

Thanks to world pulse you are now a star ha :-).

Marie Abanga
Jan 17
Jan 17

Hahaha sis,

Have been a star all along lol. WP just another awesome platform that came along when it was time. I do love being here though and I am learning so much too Amen

Dawn Arteaga
Jan 17
Jan 17

WOW WOW WOW! So inspiring, thank you for sharing Marie -- and HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I have one more year to go until I hit 40 and I only dream I can start to follow some of your amazing footsteps. You are making such beautiful ripples across the world and I'm so happy that World Pulse has helped you increase that impact even farther. I'm so grateful you are a part of this community.

Marie Abanga
Jan 21
Jan 21

Hi Dawn,

Thanks so much for your comment. Indeed it only ripples more and, far and wide as the saying goes. See you in the club next year then, remember to prepare for the real start of life once we welcome you in the club hahaha

Juliet Acom
Jan 22
Jan 22

Happy birthday dear

Marie Abanga
Jan 25
Jan 25

Dear Juliet,

Thank you so much.
All the best

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Well said Marie. I glad you found world pulse and you have spoken. Never hold your voice back. We are here to listen so keep these lovely stories rolling. All the best with your projects. And a belated happy birthday. I have been told that life begins at 40 so you have grown younger.
Stay blessed

Marie Abanga
Feb 06
Feb 06

Dear Anita,

Thank you so much. It sure seems to do and I am ready - life roll it in hurray

Sophie Ngassa
Jan 30
Jan 30

Dear Marie, Thanks you for making a difference. You are really an inspiration for other younger women. Keep it up.

Marie Abanga
Feb 06
Feb 06

Dear GS,

Thank you very much. I am inspired by role models like yourself

Tarke Edith
Jan 31
Jan 31

Hi sister
Thanks for sharing your story and happy birthday dear

Marie Abanga
Feb 06
Feb 06

Thank you so much ma,

I equally spent a wonderful time recently in the company of 3 WP sisters in Yaounde. Wasn't that simply amazing?

Obisakin Busayo
Feb 02
Feb 02

That is it Sis! World Pulse is it!! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story
Love
Busayo

Marie Abanga
Feb 06
Feb 06

Dear Busayo,

Thank you so much. It's an inspiring story indeed. So grateful it's mine lol hahahaha

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