Some stages in my life and how I have come to appreciate them

Marie Abanga
Posted September 10, 2019 from Cameroon
Current Stage, stop at MTN Cameroon where I started appreciating stages (1/3)

I want to share about some stages in my life and how I have come to appreciate them. You see, today I was at a major telecommunications company where I worked from 2006-2008, I wasn't there to apply for a job or contract, but to sign some sort of Agreement with them and collect a corporate account for my association. I was taken up to the 4th floor which used to be for the big shots and the all high PAs and co. I thought at how far I had come...and it dawned on me that was one existing and yet weary stage of my life. I did learn from it though and I appreciate it all today.

Anyone who has worked in the corporate world will admit that sometimes the dynamics and gymnastics involved can make and keep you depressed for real. I sat there and remembered an incident with a colleague from another department and how we engaged in an email war, dragging our bosses along as we put them in CC. Poor superiors who asked to be put on CC all the time, they did get it tough that day. In the end of the tug of war that day, I gave in - that's exactly how it ended, I was exhausted and so were others I suppose. Lesson from that stage, keep your cool sometimes in life, everything will sort itself out in the end.

Precisely, me who had been willing to give all I had to get into that company, was 'giving up' what seemed like a 'once in a life time opportunity' back then because I wanted to become a lawyer. You see, the law regulating practice as a lawyer forbade advocates in training to have any paid employment. We had to be in a law firm for a 2 years intense training, and whatever were the financial conditions with the bosses in the chambers didn't concern the Bar Association. The exams into the advocate training list had been tough and very competitive. I remember were nationally over 2500 candidates and only 500 were taken. I hear some even bribbed their way in, but that wasn't my concern - I am so grateful I made it period. That wasn't to be my last learning stage in life.

Indeed, barely 3 weeks after full sworn in as a lawyer in 2011, I gave up everything (you can even say including my boys), to flee my country in search of my sanity and identity. I wondered in some wildernesses and landed in some cold and dreary country to do a master's in law. Did I stop at that stage? Nope. I even got a very cool job, beginning with an internship at the European Parliament. Take a minute to digest this. Nobody from my circles back home who had ever studied in that country had ever even applied nor gotten such an internship. This internship so well accomplished, led to my being offered a position in a newly founded Global Forum of female parliamentarians. I was the manager in charge of Africa. Best stage? Emmm, nope not when my boys were oceans away and I was depressed just thinking about them day and night. I was grateful but I decided to move right back home. Yes you get it. Back again I came...

My life has pretty much played out in stages, and it continues to do so. I mean I am concluding one which lasted 5 intense months, that is excluding a relationship which played on simultaneously lol. I have come to take a look of love at my life, starring at it like an innocent bystander. I marvel, muse, Mumie even oh cry if it gushes out ...but above all I learn the lessons and live, love, laugh on.

May a sister be inspired and motivated, to appreciate the stage she currently is in, no matter how tough - remember tough times don't last but tough sister definitely do.

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Tarke Edith
Sep 10
Sep 10

Hello Marie
Thanks for sharing yourl life experience with us. Dear sister l highly appreciated this stage in your life sis , and l will say more greece to your elbow.As you celebrate this stage l will say bravo to the women .so l hope more good news will come.

Marie Abanga
Sep 11
Sep 11

Thank you Big sis,

Yes we have and shall continue to overcome o

Lisbeth
Sep 10
Sep 10

Wow this your story is something seriously. You have gone through a lot and yet you have very strong personality.

Life as someone puts it's, " it's a beast". The twist and turns are very many and sometimes you might want to give up.
However, I am very glad you never give up on your situation or conditions but still continuing. We are told those who endure to the end will be safe. May we all continue hard to the finish line.

Thanks for sharing. Have a good day and my kind regards.

Marie Abanga
Sep 11
Sep 11

Lis,

It was and has continued being by Grace Amazing. But I have no doubt all of that is for a purpose. I share to inspire and motivate us all.

Warm regards too

Jill Langhus
Sep 11
Sep 11

Hello Dear Marie,

How are you doing? Hanging in there?!

I hear you on the corporate world... not for me. That's surprising, and not fair, about having to work for free for two years. Eeek.

Thanks for the reminder on acknowledging every step of the journey.

I'm curious to know why you fled after you passed the bar?

Hope you have a great, rest of the week.

XX

Hello, sister Marie,

Life does come in full circle. How blessed you are to be able to share your life journey. You're always an unstoppable victor. May you mentor more women to be as strong and resilient as you are.

As always, thank you for inspiring us with your story.

Beth Lacey
Sep 13
Sep 13

Marie, I enjoy reading your posts

Lori Abei
Sep 13
Sep 13

Thanks for sharing. In fact, your story made me see how much I need to start appreciating every stage I've been through and everything I do have. Hugs

Anjana Vaidya
Sep 13
Sep 13

Dear Marie,
Thank you for sharing your experience. It is inspiring, i appreciate how you turn your hardships and challenges into the lesson in positive way.
Best regards,
anjana

Anita Shrestha
Sep 14
Sep 14

Dear
Be patience

Juliet Acom
yesterday
yesterday

Hi Marie,

Thank you for sharing this great lesson on life and its seasons. I must admit that patience wins all and home is where the heart is.