the Green eyed monster: Polygamy

Being a child in an African community, polygamous family is where I grew up in. My father had five wives and 24 of children. When I remember my childhood which was characterized by hunger, starvation, bullying from other siblings, constant fights among my mother and her co-wives, hard labour on the farms, among others I conclude that my father was heartless and violating us.
My father just like his peer had no steady source of income which apparently was the reason for our lack of food, healthcare, education and even an accommodating shelter. This implied survival of the fittest consequently serious confusion and unnecessary conflict. This worked to the advantage of my father who had five women competing for his affection by cooking tasty food for him (though he does not provide for his family), work hard to pay his tax as well as debts he incurred even in bars.
While my father was enjoying favours from this dehumanizing scenerio he had created, my mother and her mates kept on working like slaves to please him. What a despicable situation. These women will fight one another, go to witch doctors for charms and even offer their hard earn resources from farming to gain my father's affection. If this docility were to end among the wives it would have been understood to some degree.
The unfortunate thing was that the children were greatly victimized. First of all we had to grow in an environment void of love. As a result, we became bullies because we were always ready to fight, quarrel, gossip, gang up against one or many of our siblings which has affected and is still affecting the homes of most of my siblings.
Most annoyingly is the fact that most of us could not be educated thereby having no knowledge or skills besides farming. It is pathetic because most of my sisters are married in a polygamous marriage. This implies a continuation of this vicious cycle with the monster now devouring their own children.
Considering the fact that I narrowly escaped the fate of my sisters because my mother worked extremely hard to educate her children, I think women have the capacity to change such a situation the community is forcing on them. My mother usually told me "I must educate and fight you people so that your story will not be like mine". Thank God she realized her goals.
My worry now is; my father who started this problem lived happily without feeling the negative impact and died leaving the wives to kill each other over a lot of issues he was suppose to address, some of my sisters are living in the same situation because their mother made them understand it's the fate of any girl, some of my brothers are living like my late father did. It is for this reason that I uphold that the mentality brought about by polygamy in our community should be changed especially among women. All for one one for all.