Women take your place in security issues

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Posted September 30, 2018 from Cameroon
Lamentation Campaign in the North West Region of Cameroon September 2018
Women crying out their pain and requesting for peace @SNWOT4Peace

In my community when a woman leaves her home no matter the cause, she is considered to have failed in her duties of maintaining peace, unity and harmony in her home. Many have endured abusive relationships just to make sure peace reigns though it is often taken for granted. I remember once my mother made up her mind and left our home because my father was abusing her, my siblings and I fought each other every day since we were always hungry and left to fend for ourselves. Other women blamed her for betraying us and our father most especially. Many people advised my father to get another wife if he wanted peace in his life and his family. Though my mother much against her wish came back we had peace and were sure of food, clean clothes and above all protection from bullying.

Then I didn’t understand the strength of a woman in ensuring peace and security in a home but I do now because I find myself doing those things in the name of peace to reign so that my children can get a secured future. I don’t want them to undergo emotional stress living in a home full of violence and abuse. This is the basis for which women are considered to be trained to endure domestic violence in many communities.

After the drafting of the United Nation Security Council Resolution 1325 which highlights the position of women and girls in issues of war and armed conflict, I could not help but relate the concept of enhancing peace by a woman in her home to ensuring universal peace and security. My claim is based on the assertion that socialization processes in most communities around the world places a challenge on women to be compassionate and caring towards humanity a quality many egocentric humans can’t have.

In this regard, I consider security to be a struggle by those who value and cater for humanity to have justice and peace for all in every domain of life. This implies that women are the only ones who can adequately deliver security to the world since they are mothers with a compassionate and caring heart. In my country Cameroon for instance, I strongly uphold that the only solution to the current Anglophone crisis in giving women a lead in peace processes since the war started under the leadership of men.

Women in the English Speaking Regions bear the brunt of the existing crisis since they are left with many mouths to feed, corpses to bury, reconstruction of huts to accommodate fleeing family, farm in the fields no minding stray bullets just to provide food, satisfy sexual needs of men under pressure who rape them and many more. We believe that if those who have experienced violence both from homes and war/conflicts are entrusted with peace processes then the future of security is granted.

It is for this reason that women leaders from the crisis stricken areas came together under the canopy of South West North West Women Task Force- #SNWOT to look for ways to end the crisis by bringing all factions to the dialogue table. In order to achieve this goal the women started with objective number one which was to carry out a lamentation campaign in both regions to draw the attention of the world and most especially the factions in the crisis to the damage their actions are causing to humanity. It was successfully down and the women are moving to objective two which is to get international organizations that adhere to their objectives to join them in a non violent advocacy for the return of peace through dialogue arbitrated by women.

I truly envisage a society where victims of violence are given the front seat in the fight against violence so that lasting solutions can be reached. #WomenNeedJusticeAndPeace. The Future Of Security Is Women.

This story was submitted in response to The Future of Security is Women .

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Olutosin
Sep 30, 2018
Sep 30, 2018

I cant stop crying whenever I think about our countries. My question is just one, why is the world watching us? Why why why??
How come nobody is doimg something?
How come nobody is lending a helping hand? Why why why.

ARREY- ECHI
Oct 01, 2018
Oct 01, 2018

Sadly, the world would remain silent because the chaos and greedy leaders benefit them.

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 01, 2018
Oct 01, 2018

My sister I need answers too. #FutureOfSecurityIsWomen

ARREY- ECHI
Oct 01, 2018
Oct 01, 2018

Dear Sis Sally,

You said it all. The women are the bearers of peace. Unfortunately, their voices are often squashed or silenced by egocentric men only to come back later when so much damages have occured to them to bring peace. My heart truly bleeds for Cameroonian women affected by all these senseless of men with too big an ego and greed.

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 01, 2018
Oct 01, 2018

Egocentric leadership skills in most of Africa the seat of patriarchy and women bear the brunt. I know now is the time for women to sit on the table and make decisions about peace and seek solutions to armed conflict for they can do it.
My sister Cameroon is now a land of misery and peace to women living in the English Speaking regions

Jill Langhus
Oct 01, 2018
Oct 01, 2018

My dear Sally,

I hear you. I personally don't see how it brings peace to endure putting up with bullying or abuse in a family and why others would you blame you for it. That doesn't seem right or healthy at all to me. It totally makes sense to have victims and women should be be the forerunners for positive change and solutions.

I do hope you and your family are safe.

XO

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 01, 2018
Oct 01, 2018

I too do not see that but I decide to look at the pillars of strength women can erect from this malpractice to come up tall as solution bearers to issues of conflict and peace. This is because they know what it takes and how it feels to be in conflict based on their socialization process.

Jill Langhus
Oct 02, 2018
Oct 02, 2018

Yes, agreed:) I hope you're doing okay, that you are safe, and that the warring ends very soon, for all you and your loved ones sake.

Leina
Oct 02, 2018
Oct 02, 2018

Powerful sis.No one can take that away from us.Women are natural peace makers.We have supernatural abilities when it comes to peace making.The things we swallow just to make sure everyone has a smooth sail...We put everyone first before ourselves yet we are taken for granted like you say.Let`s keep doing...It shall surely yield fruits!

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 03, 2018
Oct 03, 2018

Hello my sister Leina, thanks for passing by. I am happy with the appellation peace makers because that's what women truly are. We are the peace the world needs and this is our time to take a seat on the table of decision making for a better world

Rose Marie Johnston
Oct 02, 2018
Oct 02, 2018

When I read the comments below I see how little we have been able to do for each other because we are living and surviving with similar issues and with little resources to make a difference in our own lives, to try and help other women in other countries we ourselves are restricted even more. Our voices and our words are the way we can help , or linking groups of women trying to do the same thing world wide so we empower each other to change things for our selves and for everyone.

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 03, 2018
Oct 03, 2018

Hello Rose Marie
I like this suggestion for women in peace building
"Our voices and our words are the way we can help , or linking groups of women trying to do the same thing world wide so we empower each other to change things for our selves and for everyone." I am confident we will get there this time

emma matondang
Oct 03, 2018
Oct 03, 2018

Dear sister Sally, I just read your story. It reminds me a Greek ancient novel called Medea. I never read the novel but I played a drama of it once long time ago. In a way to build up the strengthen of a woman who her husband got another wife, Medea said when a woman gets hurt nothing can bit her for she could grows stronger. She asked all wifes in the nation not to serve husbands in bed if they didn't stop the war.

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 03, 2018
Oct 03, 2018

Hello Emma thanks for adding your voice. Collective action by women has much impact so every woman should assume their role of peace builder

emma matondang
Oct 04, 2018
Oct 04, 2018

Hi Sally,
You are most welcome. Happy to meet you. Now we are bigger and stronger.

Tarke Edith
Oct 05, 2018
Oct 05, 2018

Hi sister Sally
Thank you for sharing this our terrible situation of us ,look at us sister indoor for days now don't even knowing what will happened next sister well ma let pray hard for God,s intervention.

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 15, 2018
Oct 15, 2018

It is really pathetic. We need justice and peace for many women and children are dying in the bushes

Evelyn Fonkem
Oct 13, 2018
Oct 13, 2018

Thanks Sally for sharing your story

Sally maforchi Mboumien
Oct 15, 2018
Oct 15, 2018

You are welcomed my sister

Sylvie ojong
Nov 10, 2018
Nov 10, 2018

Wow thanks for this sis. GOD BLESS YOU.

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