How much of gender violence occurs by the hands of spouses, or close relatives? A lot. A huge majority of cases in Italy is perpetrated by family members.
Maybe, with the highly questionable justification (to use a bit of understatement) of "loving too much".
On instinct, the first thing we feel an urge to do as this happens is, "I will resist, and persevere, until he will change."
Then despite our best attempts (or maybe also triggered by them) nothing changes, at best. In most cases, things go worse and worse.
Clearly something is missing. A reciprocally shared definition of love, among other things?
Sure we can hardly change the mind of a present criminal.
But we can make a big difference, if we educate the new generations, of men and women, to respect, courage to put constantly oneself in discussion, communication.
In short, if in addition to deliver youth some cold technical education, we also get the chance of educating their hearts.
Beginning with love. Its meanings. How we figure it, to begin with the easy things. And to proceed, step by step, towards something deeper.
That's a lot of nice theory, however. If we really wish a better world we have to live it in advance, as Gandhi said. So, turning to practice, what kind of love letter you would enjoy receiving from your lover? You may find mine included here. But my hope is you too will write your own, and share it. Especially, with the ones you care more.
While (and if) this happens, you might have to be content of my
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