Gender relations affects women's income

Mba Madapeu
Posted September 6, 2017 from Cameroon

How will i ever invest on my self and other economic ventures? I am working, ending money... My husband ends money too!!! But he eventually leaves everything for me to do.. He saves money to buy himself personal stuff and other things.. We are suppose to share responsibility.. We have kids, he abandons everything for me... I make sure there is food in the house, i buy stuff for the family, when they is an Emergency i am the person they call first.. Now because i gave birth to those children... I have to make sure the grow... Do u know he borrowed money from me last month and didnot pay? Even if i am given extra money every month... I will never be rich . .. My money gets finish in the household... They is anunequal power relation between my husband and I.my husband doesn't cooperate with me interms of household expenditure, even the loan i took from the bank for my project will finish in the household.. my husband uses silence dominance ... then my money ends in household. This has an implications on my economic life...I can't Invest in my productive ventures.

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Veronica Ngum Ndi
Sep 07, 2017
Sep 07, 2017

Hey Mba,that is a very strong point.We are to be in partnership with our husbands and not carry all the burden. A gentle is to ensure his wife feels the comfort of accepting to be his partner.Marriage also is a two way traffic in that we are to be one an-other's keeper.Keep up the courage dear sister.

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Jill Langhus
Sep 07, 2017
Sep 07, 2017

Hi Mba. Have you talked to your husband about this topic, but in a neutral way, letting him know what your concerns and frustrations are? I would suggest setting some money aside that can't be touched for anything so that you have money to go towards your dream/ventures.

Mba Madapeu
Sep 08, 2017
Sep 08, 2017

My dear  sisters  in struggle. ..u all got a point...women  face different  types  of  oppression but believe  me, patrairchy is somethingelse. .  patriarchy  reinforce the other types of oppression  and subordination  against  woman. ..belief me ...when patrairchy stands, the  competition  becomes  tight..the struggle  is  tough  but  we shall  get  there. ..A better  society  for  men  and  women. 

Jill Langhus
Sep 08, 2017
Sep 08, 2017

Yes, I do believe the tides are turning. It's obvious to me that patriarchy is no longer working for our beautiful planet and all its inhabitants. We need balance, compassion and peace. Do private message me if you would like to discuss something in private, though, or need more support:-)

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