The greatest challenge for most of us is to believe that we are worthy in this now regardless of all. Worthiness is such a quality that demands no pre-requisites yet as humans we have unknowingly, knowingly, unconsciously and/or consciously crafted, agreed to and committed to requirements that leads to “being worthy”.
This engagement to “worthiness’ pre-requisites” often resonates as follows:
I will be worthy if I find my purpose on earth
I will be worthy when I no more respond to external triggers
I will be worthy when I have healed from trauma
I will be worthy when I have mastered meditation
I will be worthy when I feel grounded enough
I will be worthy when I am no more triggered by my partner’s actions
I will be worthy if he fights to have me in his life
I will be worthy when I can hold space for myself
I will be worthy if everyone think that I am amazing writer
I will be worthy when my mother finally sees me for who I am
I will be worthy if I stay committed to my yoga practice
I will be worthy when I have my own place
I will be worthy when I am flowing through and trusting life
Do you resonate with these statements?
How strong is the resonance?
On a scale of 0-10, give a rating to each of these statements in view of your current life. (0 as this is not my current state and 10 is the highest state of how true and resonating this statement is for you in your life)
“Here's what is truly at the heart of Wholeheartedness:
We are worthy of love and belonging now.
Right this minute.
We live in a conditional world and most of us facilitators are working and walking to undo these conditions for ourselves while holding for our fellows to undo theirs.
There is fine line between seeking to better oneself as human and believing that one is not worthy until one reaches that peak of betterment.
We may want to deepen our commitment to ourselves, to our close ones, to our community, to our choices and decisions. We may want to transcend our limited beliefs, break the cycles of unhealthy patterns, heal from trauma and own our responsibility to our life.
All of the above are “ok”. They are focal points but none of the above determines our worthiness.
The prime reason why many of us struggle past our goals, our life failing to validate and celebrate ourselves, our lives is because we are in utter dislike with who we are right here right now; we are unable to see, feel and hear worthiness in ourselves right here right now.
“Just remember, we have to love that thing that we want to change.” ~Brené Brown
These words may seem counter-intuitive. If we seek to change ourselves then we have to love that thing that we are, gently learning not to attach our identify to behaviors, roles, events, habits, situations and circumstances.
Self -Shaming | Self Loathing | Self Spitting
Self Blaming | Self Disrespect
All these demotivate and belittle
Self love and self respect motivates, inspires and aspires self and the world
You are worthy right here right now
There are no conditions to be being worthy
We are worthy right here right now
The body will catch us quick
The mind will disagree
But keep playing that song
“I am worthy right here right now. There is no power on earth that can invalidate my worth not even mine.”
May we be brave enough to walk on this path
May we be gentle
May we be kind
May we be held gently and kindly