Almost every woman who shows up for a circle or an in person session or a one to one coaching, carries along this lurking one "I am here in search of a community where I can choose to belong to. But I fear that there are within me enough that will render me unworthy of love and unworthy to belong."
"Shame is this intensely painful feeling that we are unworthy of love and belonging."~ Brené Brown
Shame of bringing to light one's story
Shame of being viewed as not good enough; not smart enough; not witty enough; not beautiful enough
Shame to be viewed as incompetent and unable to hold one's life together
But here's the interesting thing, the more we keep coming back to safe spaces held, nurtured, supported and facilitated by other women, we learn that no matter how unforgivable and unworthy we may view and perceive ourselves and/or lives as, everything is worth to be held, acknowledged and cherished.
What we view as shameful within closed doors is echoed as sameness once we bring light to it in a circle with women and from that space of sameness we learn to dystigmatize ourselves and start rewiring.
We also learn that to transform, we will have to show up fully and this will ask of us to speak the shame and fear we have been nurturing connected to our selves and lives.
We end up understanding that there is not a single thing on earth that a community of women cannot held.
If you have cringed endless times and you still cringe at the thought of " what will they think of Me, of my life and my choices if they knew what has happened and what is happening in my life?"
Know you are not alone .
It's ok to have these questions and thoughts
May you be choose an act of heart today and open to yourself and to your community
There is nothing on earth that cannot be held by a community no matter how shameful you feel about it.
Love from my heart to yours