|This post is an invitation to further your reflective works and redirect your thinking. This post is not an end in itself and hence, cannot and will not and must not be viewed as the only way through your current situation. Each situation is unique as much as each individual is unique.|
I often hear clients heaved,
What I want is not happening?
I no more know what to do to make things happen.
I am drained, tired and hopeless.
I fear I am wasting my energy
Have you ever experienced such a phase in your life?
Are you in such a phase in your life?
Do you experience hopelessness, tiredness and despair because what you really really want does not seem to be happening?
Do you despair at having tried everything you could and knew, yet things do not seem to be evolving?
Do you feel like you are hitting a wall over and over again?
If you have answered yes to at least one of the above questions, then hang on, there is much to follow through.
You have not failed, you are not failing. Instead you are receiving feedback from life.
Feedback comes from a loop of engagement.
This is no failure. This is feedback.
What specific feedback have you been receiving from life?
Here is something to hear
|WHERE DO YOU GO FROM THERE?|
We go to the roots.
WHAT DO YOU WANT?
What do you really absolutely incredibly want?
How do you define “that which” you want?
Imagine yourself in a near future with “that which” you want, what can you see, hear and feel?
If you were to paint an image of “what you want”, how will it look like?
Can you feel yourself with “that which” you want? How do you feel? Do you like it? On a scale of 0-10, how strong is your liking?
Why is “that which” you want important to you and for you?
What will change in your life when “that which” you want happens?
What value will “that which” you want adds to you life?
ALL THESE ABOVE QUESTIONS MOVE TO YOU INTO A SPACE OF CLARITY. HAVING CLARITY OVER “WHAT YOU WANT” IS THE FIRST STEP. THIS CLARITY WILL GUIDE YOU TO INTENTIONALLY DIRECT AND INVEST YOUR ENERGY, INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL RESOURCES TOWARDS “THAT WHICH YOU WANT”. TAKE YOUR TIME TO DEFINE, TO SEE, TO FEEL, TO HEAR AND TO VISUALIZE “THAT WHICH YOU WANT”. THIS CLARITY COMES FROM WITHIN YOU. DEFINING “WHAT YOU WANT” COMES FROM WITHIN YOU AND NOBODY ELSE. UNLESS UNTIL YOU HAVE CLARITY OVER “WHAT YOU WANT”’ CAN YOU BEGIN TO ASSESS WHETHER YOU ARE IN MOTION FOR AND/OR YOU ARE STUCK.
|Maybe you have clarity about “that which” you want yet things seem to have reached or stayed on a dead end|
|WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?|
Where is your energy flowing?
Are you working towards “that which” you want or are you fire-fighting all possible obstacles on your way towards “that which” you want?
Fire-fighting means you are investing your energy and resources in all possible contexts and situations that could hinder your way. Having clarity over the potential risks, obstacles, challenges are vital. But investing all resources into fire-fighting will not lead you far apart from this constant sense of having to survived through life.
|PAUSE AND CHECK|
Where are your resources flowing?
Do you tend to work against “that which” you do not want?
Do you tend to focus your thoughts onto “that which” you do not want?
Does knowing “what you do not want” comes easily to you?
If you have answered yes to at least one of the above questions, know that we have a great start. You are receiving feedback and this position, you can decide where and how to invest your energy.
If you feel called to dig deeper, feel free to reach out to me. I work with women as they re-claim their power. the essence of empowerment is “You as an individual, walking to own what is rightfully yours, your power, your thoughts, your energy, your resources, your dreams, your vision and so much more.”
Love from my heart to yours
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