|WHAT I WANT IS NOT HAPPENING!|

Megha Venketasamy
Posted February 3, 2021 from Mauritius

|This post is an invitation to further your reflective works and redirect your thinking. This post is not an end in itself and hence, cannot and will not and must not be viewed as the only way through your current situation. Each situation is unique as much as each individual is unique.|

I often hear clients heaved,

What I want is not happening?

I no more know what to do to make things happen.

I am drained, tired and hopeless.

I fear I am wasting my energy

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Have you ever experienced such a phase in your life?

Are you in such a phase in your life?

Do you experience hopelessness, tiredness and despair because what you really really want does not seem to be happening?

Do you despair at having tried everything you could and knew, yet things do not seem to be evolving?

Do you feel like you are hitting a wall over and over again?

If you have answered yes to at least one of the above questions, then hang on, there is much to follow through.

|HEAR THIS|

You have not failed, you are not failing. Instead you are receiving feedback from life.

Feedback comes from a loop of engagement.

This is no failure. This is feedback.

What specific feedback have you been receiving from life?

Here is something to hear

|WHERE DO YOU GO FROM THERE?|

We go to the roots.

WHAT DO YOU WANT?

What do you really absolutely incredibly want?

How do you define “that which” you want?

Imagine yourself in a near future with “that which” you want, what can you see, hear and feel?

If you were to paint an image of “what you want”, how will it look like?

Can you feel yourself with “that which” you want? How do you feel? Do you like it? On a scale of 0-10, how strong is your liking?

Why is “that which” you want important to you and for you?

What will change in your life when “that which” you want happens?

What value will “that which” you want adds to you life?

ALL THESE ABOVE QUESTIONS MOVE TO YOU INTO A SPACE OF CLARITY. HAVING CLARITY OVER “WHAT YOU WANT” IS THE FIRST STEP. THIS CLARITY WILL GUIDE YOU TO INTENTIONALLY DIRECT AND INVEST YOUR ENERGY, INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL RESOURCES TOWARDS “THAT WHICH YOU WANT”. TAKE YOUR TIME TO DEFINE, TO SEE, TO FEEL, TO HEAR AND TO VISUALIZE “THAT WHICH YOU WANT”. THIS CLARITY COMES FROM WITHIN YOU. DEFINING “WHAT YOU WANT” COMES FROM WITHIN YOU AND NOBODY ELSE. UNLESS UNTIL YOU HAVE CLARITY OVER “WHAT YOU WANT”’ CAN YOU BEGIN TO ASSESS WHETHER YOU ARE IN MOTION FOR AND/OR YOU ARE STUCK.

|Maybe you have clarity about “that which” you want yet things seem to have reached or stayed on a dead end|

|WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE?|

Where is your energy flowing?

Are you working towards “that which” you want or are you fire-fighting all possible obstacles on your way towards “that which” you want?

Fire-fighting means you are investing your energy and resources in all possible contexts and situations that could hinder your way. Having clarity over the potential risks, obstacles, challenges are vital. But investing all resources into fire-fighting will not lead you far apart from this constant sense of having to survived through life.

|PAUSE AND CHECK|

Where are your resources flowing?

Do you tend to work against “that which” you do not want?

Do you tend to focus your thoughts onto “that which” you do not want?

Does knowing “what you do not want” comes easily to you?

If you have answered yes to at least one of the above questions, know that we have a great start. You are receiving feedback and this position, you can decide where and how to invest your energy.

If you feel called to dig deeper, feel free to reach out to me. I work with women as they re-claim their power. the essence of empowerment is “You as an individual, walking to own what is rightfully yours, your power, your thoughts, your energy, your resources, your dreams, your vision and so much more.”

Love from my heart to yours

#MeghaVenketasamy #Coach #CircleFacilitator

Image @Yiqun Tang @Unsplash

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jomarieb.earth
Feb 03
Feb 03

Dear Megha,
This is so wonderfully deep, simple and deep again. I will have to read it over many times. Each time receiving an additional message. The first few times my feedback was to create a clear and better vision than ever before. The next time I read it my feedback was to go with the flow and stop using resources on possible obstacles that aren't there yet.
I think I'm making progress. This is amazing! And very generous of you for sharing. Yes, I pictured myself on a chaise in a dim room with you sitting in a chair speaking these words out to me. My eyes are closed and I have to go deep inside my psyche. That was a great session! Thank you so much! I'll be back for another appointment for sure.
Hugs...JoMarie

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 03
Feb 03

hi JoMarie,

I am glad and overjoyed that these words are serving you.

Reading your words ,they give me feedback that you went into a powerful thinking process and much has been activated. I also read clarity..

Sending so much love your way. Holding space for you and holding your back on this journey

love from my heart to yours

Megha <3 <3 <3

maeann
Feb 04
Feb 04

Hi Megha,

I call it emotional exhaustion. You might be experiencing burnout or depressed.

I like the question that leads me to ask myself. I take a deep breath and try to relax. We need it.

Thank you for sharing.

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

Dear Maeann,

pausing to receive your words. It's interesting the perceptions and beliefs that emerge.

Love Megha

Beth Lacey
Feb 05
Feb 05

And love from our hearts back to you

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

Receiving your love , sister

Nini Mappo
Feb 05
Feb 05

Hello Megha,
These are wonderful insights into the cycle of hope, hope deferred, hope crushed, despair, and perhaps back to hope again, whether a new hope or the old invigorated. I think increasingly, affluence, access to other's lives (or the successful versions of them at least), the ease with which affluent societies can access what they need, want, don't need but nice to have in abundance, have created people who are increasingly unable to adapt to living with what they want but cannot or do not get.
Personally I think we should be able to live in contentment and gratitude even when what we want is not happening. But this life resilience is often the exception, unfortunately. We tend to let what we want take from what we already have too often, instead of leveraging what we have to get us to what we want. It may not be the case in your circles, but it sure is in my line of work, and creates quite an unnecessary amount of misery.

Is it possible for people to have enough resources to handle hope and disappointment, opportunity and lack, loss and gain as if they were normal to life, interrelated aspects that enrich, sharpen, dis-ease, shake, grow, question. or affirm us without them destabilizing and causing us grief? That is the question I find asking myself as I ponder the question of what we want. Perhaps being so resourced would help people cease being victims of what they want, and become ready creators of it.

Thank you for the love, care, and generosity with which you invite us to acknowledge, clarify and work towards what we want, which is really an invitation to know ourselves better, discard the lies, step into truth, and live out of it. Here, there are no shadows. And where there are no shadows, life thrives! It is a beautiful imagery :-)

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

what a powerful reflection..
"We tend to let what we want take from what already have too often"

Appreciation is indeed the call..

Thank you for words, they got me thinking and sinking deep

love

Hello, Megha,

You are so generous to share this resource with us. Reading this opens up a lot of reflection in order to answer your questions. Thank you for facilitating this process for us. Every day I close my eyes to "see" the image of a life I want and dreams I want to achieve, and when I do I express the gratitude that I am receiving it. That alone makes me happy, and it may not come today, but I know in the future it will.

I noticed that where I am today is a product of a wishful thought in the past. So I am learning to think good thoughts because I know one day it will lead me there. Thank you again!

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

Karen,
I receive your words...
I can imagine how vivid, divine, hopeful and so much more this vision of yours is.

May you keep impacting us through your vision

Aparna Sanjay
Feb 10
Feb 10

Megha, I enjoyed hearing from you at the WP board meeting some days ago. Such wise words: "You have not failed, you are not failing. Instead you are receiving feedback from life." Truth!

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

Dear Aparna,

Pausing to receive your words. Good to put many faces on the board members.

Love

Regina Afanwi Young
Feb 10
Feb 10

Dear Megha, I love this write up. A lot of it resonants with what I go through sometimes. The feeling of hopelessness and tiredness but just as you rightly say i have also learnt to focus on what I want and work hard towards attaining it.
Visualisation also helps out. It gives a lot of positive energy and the motivation to work towards what we want.
Thank you again for sharing this great thoughts.
Lots of love and blessings
Regina

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

Dearest Regina,

pausing to receive and welcome your words.

Often,all it takes is acknowlegement. acknowledging what is already in your life.

Welcoming the tiredness,the not-knowing, the confusions, the doubts - they belong to you and your life as much your clarity and vision.

love love love

Tamarack Verrall
Feb 13
Feb 13

Hi Megha,
This is important information to take the time to think over, as it brings us to what we do think will be movement in a good and effective direction. It is important work you do. Knowing what I don't want is sometimes immediate, deeply and intuitively felt. At other times it is when I let go and allow myself to let my deeper thoughts come, that I gain clarity. That we can share with each other deeply on World Pulse, is a gift.

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 14
Feb 14

Tamarak

what you said is so powerful..
"When I let go and allow myself to let my deeper thoughts come, that I gain clarity"

Dropping our ideas and expectations, ease the struggle and opens space for more

love love love

ikirimat
Feb 15
Feb 15

Oh! Thank you Megha
This has got me deep thinking and reflecting.

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 18
Feb 18

I hear you sister..

I re-read the words and each time,I went deep thinking and reflecting

Sheroo
Feb 17
Feb 17

Hello Megha!

This is a powerful piece, 'What I want is not happening' sounds like me sometimes in life. I sometimes find myself in most of those situations, not knowing what to do next, drained, tired and hopeless. I really needed to hear someone telling me that I'm not a total failure, asking me "Where do you go from here', I really loved this piece and I can relate to most of the stuff. It is very therapeutic for me. I wish to reach out to you some day, one of those days. Please keep inspiring us and lets walk this journey together.

Love you sis!

Megha Venketasamy
Feb 17
Feb 17

ohhhh I hear you my sister.

I receive your words and I can only imagine how it must be.

Indeed, we are not failing but rather receiving feedback.

I was also reflecting these past weeks, how we try so hard to create in situations and phases while the body is still highly in stress.

Unless until the body relaxes, nothing shifts.
Rest even when you are doing

Sending so much love your way as we walk each other home,home to us
Do reach out and connect
in sisterhood and deepest gratitude