Sex Education - Let's talk about Sex.

MENDY MARIAM
Posted January 17, 2021 from Kenya
LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX.
Let' s talk.

As girls in Africa, we have grown up in households that sensor sexual conversations, there is a lot of mortification that comes with having these kinds of conversations. Oh! the embarrassment ; Prompting us to eventually just discover everything on our own. We don’t know any better. We will learn very minimal from school about our sexuality. ''School of life'' remains the only option for us, but it is cruel and brutal. In this age, being tech savvy will help us in bringing to light what we are oblivious of. Conversely, technology has alarmingly overblown the meaning of sex. Vices such as pornography, nudity, vulgar language are widely available online. Social media has become a big influence on our values and sexuality has totally changed meaning plus its value has been rubbished. There is no control of information, moreover everything is easily attainable. Are we learning from the wrong sources? Sex education is a big problem. We only learn about our anatomy. Early marriages, unwanted pregnancies, contracting diseases to name a few, is among the many ramifications of engaging in risky sexual activities and we are not remotely ready for the repercussions; need I start going on about the effects it has on self-esteem and our mental health? We need to start having this Conversations, because our sources are troublesome.

 

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Adriana Leigh G.
Jan 17
Jan 17

Yes Mendy, yes to this! Welcome to World Pulse and congratulations on this important first post. This issue of sexual education is crucial, here in Canada we also in many ways shy away from speaking proactively with children about sex, not even using the proper names for our own anatomy. We need so much more discussions on this, on consent and just de-stigmatizing talking about sex, so fundamental to our overall health and fullness in the world!

Cheers from Montreal,
Adriana

MENDY MARIAM
Jan 18
Jan 18

Thank You Adriana, sometimes I assume its only here in Africa , I just turned 25 but I have only been taught the bare minimum. Anything sexual is like taboo, its shameful. I still can't talk about it. Sex should not be a shameful topic. I still look up information that I can not understand from the internet. I wish it was not this way.
Cheers !

Adriana Leigh G.
Jan 24
Jan 24

Yes Mendy I wish it was not that way, I am with you, and see you. Know that I hear that the manifestations of this are different for us, and at the same time, I, and we are with you in this struggle to de-stigmatize sex, and our bodies. Through this sharing, you are part of the active transformation of this. Cheers from Montreal!
Adriana

Nini Mappo
Jan 17
Jan 17

Dear Mendy,
Sex education is indeed a topic that has failed the young miserably. In the past it was done through songs, stories, and proverbs /metaphorical allusions.

But the loss of those with modernisation created a vacuum that needs to be filled. Only we who are aware of the problem can come up with solutions. So your speaking up is the first step to push out against the culture and start affecting change.. One girl at a time, one school at a time, and effectively creating an army to join you in this all important task force!

MENDY MARIAM
Jan 18
Jan 18

Indeed the topic has failed us. Us young girls do not know where to turn to when we need information. Everything is censored. We can barely even use the right words for our anatomy . I wish we could change this and eventually avoid the repercussions of ignorance .

Tamarack Verrall
Jan 17
Jan 17

Dear Mendy,
Wow. How great to see your message loud and clear. So true that it is so important that we talk openly about sex and sexuality, and about the dangerous and ugly perversion of sexuality too often found online. I hope thousands of women and girls become proud and empowered by your work to open up this discussion. How great to read on your profile that you are deep into TV and media. Have a great time exploring here. I look forward to your contributions!

MENDY MARIAM
Jan 18
Jan 18

Thank you Tamarack . We need to open up more and talk about it. Amongst each other if we must .Lets not stray because of lack of information. The internet will advice us but at the same time it will lead us astray. Lets open up this discussion.

Beth Lacey
Jan 18
Jan 18

This is a very important topic. Welcome.

MENDY MARIAM
Jan 18
Jan 18

Thank you Beth .Indeed it is very important. Lets talk more about it.

Hello, Mendy,

Welcome to World Pulse! I'm happy that a new voice from Kenya is rising up!

The internet can be a source of various information, but sex education must begin at home. If not, at least, it should be discussed in schools, too. Ignorance of sex can lead to consequences that could be detrimental to a woman's reproductive health. How many teenage mothers are in the world today because of this ignorance? How many maternal deaths take place because of pregnancy complications or childbirth. It's an important topic to talk about. Sex is more than what Hollywood is showing the viewers or pornography sites showcase it. Thank you for raising your voice on this topic. Please keep writing more.

Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

MENDY MARIAM
Jan 21
Jan 21

Hallo Karen, Thank you so much.
I sure will keep writing more. Am really happy to be on this platform.

You're welcome, dear sister. We're happy you are here! Yes, please keep on writing. :D