Mama Helida, the Darling of the village

Millynairi
Posted January 26, 2019 from Kenya

She touched everyone in the village with her heart of love, the young girls, young men, her fellow women, her children, her step children, her in laws, her grand children and all the children in the village. 

Even though we were her blood children, no one would differentiate us from the other children in the village because she treated all of us equally, with the same measure of love and care. 

Our home was near the road and therefore most of the time people would branch and ask for water as they proceed to their different destinations. Mama Helida, the darling of the village took this opportunity as her way of helping people and whenever we prepared meals she would say "make sure you cook alot so that those passing by, when they come to drink water they would also get something to eat". Mama didn't choose, she would serve all including some who were mentally retarded and would always pass by home to get something to feed on.

Our home was constantly  with people and somehow, there was always something for them to eat or drink. Those who didn't get a meal definitely got tea to drink because there was always a flask with tea. It had become a practice and therefore whenever we saw someone coming in we didn't wait to be told to give them something to eat or drink, we availed it because we knew that's what mama wanted and we enjoyed sharing with others, something mama taught us and it became part of us. 

When mama was healthy and we would leave home with her, it would take us hours to reach the bus stop because everyone wanted to talk to mama and catch up.

In the year 2014, the cruel hand of death robbed us this darling. Mama called and said she  was unwell. I spoke with her and she sounded weak so I organized with a friend to pick and take her to the hospital as I organized to take leave from work and be with her in hospital. Because of her condition, she was admitted in hospital for further tests and proper treatment. Two days after her admission I took leave from work and joined mama in hospital and all this time I knew she would be treated and I would take her back home. Her condition worsened and two weeks after her admission mama Helida, the darling of the village went to be with the Lord in my presence. Oh, the pain I felt! The vacuum that my darling had left is all I thought of. How were we going to fill this gap?  

Mama's death was a shock to the entire village because she had never been so sick. Everyone knew she would be treated and come back home. 

The most traumatizing moment was the burial day of Helida, the darling of the village. The home was full with over 300 mourners. People we didn't even know. Without our knowledge, mama had assisted even strangers. Anyone who was needy and went to her she would assist. This we got to know when so many people came and wanted to say something about her on her burial day. The stories about mama Helida's deeds were so encouraging and challenging. She wasn't working but  what she got from  farming and the the money we would send to her for her upkeep is what she used to feed the villagers and be of assistance to many. 

This kind of heart from an old lady is amazing. Her house is now closed but I promise to follow her foot steps. The love, the kindness, the smile to others is what made a difference in the lives of the villagers. Wasn't she more than a leader because of the role she played in the village? That's my late mother. Helida, the darling of the village!! Missed but her deeds left a mark. We can all do something and make a difference in someone's life. 

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Jill Langhus
Jan 26
Jan 26

Hi Milly,

What an awesome and inspiring story. She definitely left big shoes to fill there, your Mama Helida. So much love, though. Truly lovely and heartwarming.

Hope you're having a great day. Thanks for sharing the story of Mama Helida.

Millynairi
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Jlhanghus, always glad to read your comments. Yes she left very big shoes to fill but I will do what I am able to do as long as I do it in love. Thanks dear

Jill Langhus
Jan 30
Jan 30

Thank you:-) Sounds like a great goal and intention...

Hope you have a great day, dear!

Corine Milano
Jan 26
Jan 26

Oh this so beautiful and touching. What a powerful tribute to your late mother. I am honored to read it and can feel Helida’s presence in your writing. She sounds like she touched so many lives and gave so much to you and others. I can only imagine what you felt during her memorial - seeing how many lives she truly touched. Thank you so much to introducing your mother to us here on World Pulse. Her spirit is now reaching out across the wires to inspire so many around the world! I also want to say that I am sorry for your loss and that I hold you in my heart, as the loss of a parent, of a mother especially, is never easy. I am thankful you had her in your life for as long as you did - and thankful that she taught you to love and help others.

Millynairi
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Corine. Thank you so much for the very kind comments.. I sincerely appreciate. Yeah, mummy's death was so sudden but she had finished her journey. She left a mark and touched many lives. True, losing a parent is very hard ..I appreciate your very encouraging comments. Thanks so much!

Corine Milano
Jan 29
Jan 29

I am so sorry to hear it was sudden. It makes it that much more difficult, I know. Much love to you. <3

Urmila Chanam
Jan 27
Jan 27

Dear Milly,
They say a person's leadership is proportionate to the number of people he/she impacts, positively and has nothing to do with position, class, finances, age and gender. I can see your mother was such a great leader. In addition to the 300 who turned up, there must be many many more who were touched by her love but perhaps they did not come to know about the funeral or could not come. Death of a loved one- is there any pain greater than this? Her legacy is you, my sister. Walk ahead. I am sure your mother is smiling at you now, happy to find you understand your role and her message for you.

Love always,
Urmila Chanam,
India
urmila.chanam@gmail.com

Millynairi
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dearest Urmilla, true, she touched many lives. Quite true, many people didn't know about her death and came later, others have been coming home to-date.

Seka
Jan 28
Jan 28

Excellente Hélida, paix à son âme. Quoique partie, ses oeuvres parleront toujours. Puisse-t-elle servir de modèle à nous toutes!
Soyez bénie
Seka

Millynairi
Jan 29
Jan 29

Thanks. I wish someone could translate for me this. Thanks a million times.

Corine Milano
Jan 29
Jan 29

Millynairi, do you see the icon in the top navigation, to the left of My Pulse with the G? That allows you to translate the whole site into any language. Let me know if it works for you or if you need help!

Millynairi
Jan 30
Jan 30

Dear Corine, you can't believe I'm not able to see the G at my pulse.

Seka
Jan 30
Jan 30

Excellent Helida, peace to his soul. Even absent, her works will always speak. May it serve as a model for all of us.
Be blessed.

Millynairi
Jan 30
Jan 30

Thank you Seka. Very true... May it serve as a. Model for all of us.

Seka
Jan 31
Jan 31

Amen, be blessed!
Seka