Reflection: The outside inside influence of our thoughts

Mkandeh
Posted March 2, 2016 from United Kingdom

I didn't believe it was my role as a girl/woman to speak for others. Papa always reminded us at home that he should have the loudest voice. He is the man in the house. I was petrified and shy to partake in even class discussion.

Thoughts and beliefs can be influenced by internal and external factors. Our cultural environment can have a very powerful effect on the way we think about ourselves. I didn't believe I could be a journalist. I wanted to be one but I had a feeling it was for men only.

The attached prejudice of being a woman in a male dominated job also discouraged me. Many believe women who venture such jobs are promiscuous. This is because of their exposure or vulnerability as they come in contact with lots of male.

When I told my class teacher at Senior Secondary year 3 that my first career option was journalism, he looked at me in awe. I didn't know how but since that day I began to believe that indeed I can be a successful female journalist. I didn't plan to choose journalism as my first future career choice. It just happened like a volcanic eruption. I began to dream. I began to believe. I began to plan, envision and work hard at school. I realised I knew what I wanted at that early stage. And even when I was convinced and almost fell for studying economics at the university, I couldn't.

I was in love with writing and that was what I wanted to do. I didn't let my outside or inside thoughts pushed me to choose something else. Being who you really want to be and where you want to be is so fulfilling. That is the greatest achievement.

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Soumya Vilekar
Mar 02, 2016
Mar 02, 2016

Hi Akandeh,

This is so wonderful. You followed the path to your dreams with courage and determination. When you pursue the goal with full sincerity,it is bound to be achieved.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Best wishes

Justin M. Loveland
Mar 02, 2016
Mar 02, 2016

What an inspiring story! Change -- in gender roles, professions, and power -- is, has been, and likely will continue to be for a long time a hard concept for many people. It was very brave of you to fight through those discouraging or disbelieving external factors to pursue journalistic dreams, and I'm sure it feels very liberating.

Journalism itself is constantly more and more important. Letting our voices shine through the written word often means they fall upon more ears, ruffling political feathers, challenging traditions, and inspiring refreshing ideas. With your drive, it sounds like you will see success -- keep at it!

Congratulations on your achievement!

In friendship,

Justin

Mkandeh
Mar 04, 2016
Mar 04, 2016

Hi Justin,

Thanks for your comments. I cannot agre with you more on the significance of journalism.

Thanks again

M

GetRude
Mar 03, 2016
Mar 03, 2016

You are indeed one of the few women who are challenging the patriarchal views that dominate most African communities. I am also in awe of those people like yourself that take up Journalism. I have always seen you as thw voice of the voiceless andyour place in society is very vital. All the best in your chosen career and hope to read more of what you have written.

Mkandeh
Mar 04, 2016
Mar 04, 2016

Hi GetRude,

Thanks for your inspiring comments.Indeed patriarchal views spread throughout the globe and with the collective voice of all of us we can change them. We are changing them and we will continue to.

Many thanks

In sisterhood

M

M

ARREY- ECHI
Mar 03, 2016
Mar 03, 2016

What an inspiring story. Challenging the statusquo of a male dominated world! Congratulations on not diverting and achieving your dreams. Your story inspires one to dream and aim for what the dream about despite the odds. Thank you for sharing. Arrey

Mkandeh
Mar 04, 2016
Mar 04, 2016

Hi Arrey-Echi,

Thanks for adding your beautiful voice to this topic. Yes, changing the status quo is challenging but I believe we can and with a strong belief in our abilities to change the status quo, we will conquer before we even think about it.

Thanks again

In sisterhood

M